gingerb Forum Posts (4,139)

RE: Has to be done, tips on being a Mother in Law..

I saw you more in something like these........

RE: my goooooodness!!!!!!

Something I am happy to say I have never been accused of, nor, to be truthful, have I ever been on the receiving end of it either. Just lucky that way I guess.

RE: my goooooodness!!!!!!

I was going to say, you have a point there, but lest your mind completely recover, I'll suffice to say, you could be right...

RE: my goooooodness!!!!!!

Definitely Thumper... From what I have been told... See, your memory isn't so bad after all...

RE: my goooooodness!!!!!!

There are pleasent ways to keep a woman silently occupied too, you know...

RE: my goooooodness!!!!!!

RE: my goooooodness!!!!!!

Hey! You should be in the domestic bliss thread.........

RE: my goooooodness!!!!!!

Watching tv is not going to keep your bed warm at night nor put food on your table.......... Silent treatment comes with it's own extensions sometimes, so I have heard.......

RE: my goooooodness!!!!!!

Glad you liked it.

RE: my goooooodness!!!!!!

I think that men should be lucky to have a woman in their lives at all, and one that talks is infinitely better than one who give you the silent treatment.........

RE: How do you think...

Trying to anyway.....I have been described as a secular humanist too. Fan of Nietzsche anyway......if that means anything.

RE: How you handle it?

When life hits me a slap I sit with it. I feel that a situation that is supposed to set you back deserves to do just that, for a while. It is how we are wired.

For me, to deny basic acknowledgement of basic feelings would be to deny the very nature of who I am and respect for what I truly feel.

When I have had enough of "feeling" it, then I just get up and get on with it.

RE: How do you think...

I know, and think about, how I think, all the time. I think analytically, neither like a male nor like a female, but in a detached way mostly. I dissect everything. I look for a bigger picture, as much as possible, and step back (metaphorically), when I can. I think like this because of the way I was brought up. I learned to be suspicious at an early age and to question everything. It stood me in good stead so I continue to do this. I expect the unexpected all the time so am never disappointed...

RE: Has to be done, tips on being a Mother in Law..

I haven't met her yet since she lives in Kiev. She is Ukranian. they will marry in Croatia. My son met her on a conference he was on, to do with computers. She works for Google. She also has a degree in psychology as well as a business degree. He is a systems anylist and works as a systems engineer from time to time too and is a specialist programmer for Sky. They have much in common.

They have spent as much time together as they could over the last year, and finally about a month ago, he decided to move there permanently. Her family adore him and he really gets on with them too.

Her pictures are wonderful. She is 4 years his junior. My daughters, (same age roughly), talk to her from time to time as they are all close, and they say she is a beautiful person, and very much in love with him. He is very happy. He adores her, so much so that he made the ring she will wear. He bought the platignum and actually made it, and designed and engraved it himself.

She is from a lovely family and they are decent people whom I am looking forward to meeting in the next couple of months when I visit there. Because of EU regulations, it is very difficult for them to visit here. Too much red tape for a whole family to come here, so easier to go there.

My daughter in Spain will be getting married some time next year too. She recons next summer at a festival here that she works at each year. Apparantly they have a bouncy-castly church there and she can wear her flowery wellies. She has always been my little hippy. Her and her boyfriend are both artists and teachers and musicians. They have been in a permanent state of "first love" for the last two years now...

RE: Has to be done, tips on being a Mother in Law..

You only have to be you..........

RE: It isn’t a life

I think that "having a life", or "quality of life", has a lot to do with our need to feel useful, and/or needed, among other things.

I think people are more content if they have a function, even if that function is the acceptance of allowing others to look after them.

A purpose, or belief of a purpose in life, is absolutely necessary I think.

No "other" person, or group of people, have a right to decide a person's quality of life, or whether they even have one.

RE: Do you believe in the death penalty?

Killing the perpetrator of a murder does not bring the victim back, nor does it ease the bereavement process of the family members of the victim.

Justice, in my book, does not include becoming a killer myself even by proxy........

RE: Do you guys here really believe in marriage?

Hi Mike

It might be a cultural thing, but here it is generally understood that a wedding is something you have in a registy office and a marriage in church. Just the terms in language give to different understandings of words in cultures.

RE: Do you guys here really believe in marriage?

Well said

RE: what draws to to a woman/man?

Hi Summer. I'd be the same as that in that it would depend a lot on conversation.........crudity of any kind is out, as is banality or affectations.

Couldn't care less about the smile or whatever visual stuff as long as he is clean.....

RE: Why do women almost always..........

You will always be tall to a shorter woman.

RE: Desert Island Poll 2...

For me it would be the telephone, (no limit on usage).

I could get my friends to play their radios on it and I could chat with everyone about everything for as long as they could stand it.

All the above uses are covered using a phone, apart from viewing something, and I'd rather hear it, and see it with my mind anyway.

I could get talking books, have romantic chats, hear the news, listen to music, know what time it was in every country in the world, and have access to just about everyone. I could talk to the people I would normally mail. There are many chat lines too.

If I wanted silence I could just hang up from time to time.

If the telephone connection had fax too then nothing would be a problem as far as communication is concerned.

As long as I wasn't getting the bill for all this.........

RE: what do you want?

RE: Todays Thought..........

One man's mistake is another man's intention.........

RE: Good deeds go unpunished

It is a skit based on portia's speech at the end of Shakespeare's play, The Merchant of Venice, where she says , "so shines a good deed in a weary world".........

RE: should cameraman stop asking or should he start answering?

Good comment.

This thread can be seen by the mods as being set up specifically naming someone in order to slag them off behind their back if people are not careful, and that is against the rules........

Now if he asks for opinions in his own thread, that is different......

RE: Should I question everything I say or should I not question everything I say... Or should I???

If you want to know why you say what you say, than ask a professional. A person trained to give you the feedback you need......

To vote: click your choice below
Yes...
Yes... You are funny...
Yes... I want to make fun of you...
Yes... Give's me a reason to talk to you...
Yes... Give's me a reason to not talk to you...
No...
No... You are not funny...
No... Or I will make fun of you...
No... Or I will not talk to you...
Your not going to listen so why bother

From the choices you have given, you already know it annoys people. I know, too, that from feedback in other threads, you have been told it is not something people would like to you continue with.

Ony conclusion I can some to therefore is that you actually want to annoy people, or you don't care about anyone, or you want to be different so much you dont' actually mind standing clear.

None of these qualities are good ones for people on here looking for friends or partners though.........

All that I have said here are re-affirmations of what you have given as choices, things you already know, so why are you asking at all?

RE: what do you want?

Why?

They have trouble enough just being men sometimes

RE: August 14-16, New York Camp-out - EVENT CANCELED

Hi Thumper, Can hardly believe that with the number of Americans, (and Canadians), on here, you don't have more people actually wanting to meet up there. Sounds like a lovely trip too, scenic, relaxing, fun, and a nice bunch of people going already.

If I was in better shape I'd be there in a heartbeat. Hope people get some sense and realise this is an ideal opportunity to meet and get to know some really great people, and actually get signed up.

Distance is nothing these days. In times gone by, I have even flown from here to America for a birthday party and home again a few days later. Can't see why people already there can't just take a couple of days out and go.

Hope you get more participants in the next few weeks.

RE: I have experienced an epiphany

His difficult stage in life has been going on for as long as he remembers, if he is honest, and will continue as long as he doesn't take care of himself and take his meds.

I give Robert credit for having a sense of humour. He certainly uses it on everyone else. Being depressive, manic or not, does not mean treating him like some delicate thing we need kid gloves for, nor does it mean setting him aside as something to be treated differently to every one else. That isolates people.

He knows you and me well enough to know neither of us means him harm, and that gentle teasing includes him in what we do with everyone else. To not do that, for me, would be a crime.........