I can keep hitting my head off brick walls for another while then. Lovely to see you again too. My day is not complete unless I see your posts someplace on here.
I understand you want it to be that way, and probably spend a great deal of your life living by your principles and trying to make it that way, and here comes inferiority again........ wanting something that you can never make happen can lead to feelings of inferiority..... there's the circle....
I'm not saying you feel inferior, and not saying you should give up, just saying that if you try and try and it doeesn't happen for you, then you could feel inferior as a result.
I suppose it depends on how we tie in superiority with other things, for instance is a superior person a wealthier one, a more successful one, a happier one, (and how would you measure that happiness).?
You see, everything would have to be compared with something else, and something is bound to be found wanting, or inferior......
I am sorry to hear about he tragedies in your family. I am glad no one has been hurt. Material things come and go but only people, family is important. Son't dwell on thoughts of this being a curse. To do so is to court further negative stuff in your lives. Concentrate on the good.......
To look at this on a completely differnt level, we are competative. Somebody has to win and someone has to lose, on every level. One will automatically feel superior, and one inferior. That is human and natural, instinctive even.
Everyone can't be good at everything. To not find something you are good at, or at least better than someone else at, is to court inferiority complexes. To take away hope is to court inferiority too.
Mostly though, it is to know that you are not equal, in the way you are treated, or in your abilities, or in the chances you didn't make good on. That stems from thoughts and comparisons, leading to emotions that bring about inferiority complexes.
We are also conditioned to make those comparisons from birth.
I do think that feeling inferior is tied in with the way the world is run and who has power. There is no getting away from that.
To believe that you are equal to others and act accordingly is to place yourself outside of society. It is not acceptable to act that way, not if you do it on all levels.
I could give personal examples here but for personal reasons I won't.
The woman who wants to do the work and get the same pay as a man, cannot do so. (Unless she works for herself, and even then she has to interact with, and make deals with men). She either works harder or has worse working conditions or less benefits. That is how it is. How is she to not feel inferior in those conditions?
A man who elects to stay home and take care of his kids in an equal way as a parent is up against it right from the start. He is labelled, looked at with scepticism. How is he not to feel inferior?
Then there is the ocnditioning of children right from birth........girls in pink and boys in blue, dolls for girls and tanks and guns for boys. Polite behavoiur for girls and boys having to be boystrous. The lists are really endless.
To uncondition people would take an upheaval of society as we know it. Conditioning and tradition play too big a part for that to happen, so inferiority reigns in perpetuation.
That's ok in theory, but in fact, (as today's world acepts it), men are in a position of superiority on nearly every level, due to generations of very careful planning. This about who calls the shots, who has the money, the power, the clout. Think about how many women inhabit council or government seats in relation to men....... Who owns the banks, the armies, science labs,,,,,
You are right. He is not worth your time or thoughts or energy. He is just showing how ignorant and inconsiderate he is.
I have never been stood up, so have no clue what that feels like, nor have I ever stood anyone else up either.
I would consider that unforgivable, unless the other person had been seriously injured or died or something, in which case, I'd still expect someone close to them to have notified me.
Like Sommer, I think you are crazy too. You are beautiful and need no enhancements. Stunning, in fact.
It used to be that lines on the face and body signified that you had done something with your life, that you had lived, and the lines etched the beauty or pain of that life and achievements.
Today people want to look like something out of Madam Toussauds with waxy smooth expressionless faces that show nothing except an expensive habit and self absorbtion. A sign of changing times maybe, where people have more money than sense...
Talk away, but thighs, (or whatever you might do with them), won't take a woman to heaven near as quickly as a little spot on the outside of her ankle.
Still trying to play divide and conquer with EU forum members, while lying, and insulting everyone here again with one-liners... And this is now being defended... No accounting for folk.
Anyway, water finds it's own level, as can clearly be seen.
Will converse in more pleasant surroundings Sommer and try to get the essence of this piece of nastiness out of my system.
gingerb Forum Posts (4,139)
Lovely to see you again too. My day is not complete unless I see your posts someplace on here.
RE: a genie
Good health, because with that I could do anything I needed to to get anything else I wanted.