gingerb Forum Posts (4,139)

RE: Serious Question

I like your posts too. You make a lot of sense.

RE: Serious Question

Wise lady.

RE: Serious Question

Hi amaryllis

Thanks.

RE: Serious Question

You must be pretty bored out there tonight LL, to be in here stirring it. Hasn't your back-up arrived yet?

RE: Serious Question

ditto

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I just couldn't sit back and see the lovely people who contribute to the EU thread slated and insulted like that, by someone who has never met any of them, and certainly doesn't know them.

When I came on here to the EU forums, I was welcomed and made to feel like part of a community where people don't be nasty to each other, like they do elsewhere on CS. I found a measure of decency and respect shown towards everyone here that I have rarely found on any of these kind of sites.

I have since met with many of the people here and have formed friendships with most of the regular posters and have found them all to be people I am proud to know and be friends with.

To be honest this is the first piece of nastiness I have encountered in along time. Not so strange that it comes from a non-EU thread contributor. Anyone spending any time here, making an effort to fit in, allowing for the difference in cultures, and getting to know the regulars, would not have been so ignorant.

Many of the people here work, or are busy dividing their time elsewhere during the day and early evening, so it is not always easy for them to answer the posts of new people or even the regulars immediately. They do, when they can, and always with politeness and respect. Some only turn up every few days or even once a week or sometimes longer, as and when they can.

Also it is a very diverse group here, from just about every area of eastern and western europe, mainland and islands, and not everyone is interested in the same subject matter, and so, don't always contribute to certain threads, if, in some cases, their English is even up to it.

All that taken into consideration, anyone wanting to come in here and be fawned over and be celebrated, without due consideration to the people already here, are in for a let-down. This forum is not ego centred. Everyone waits their turn like every other person. There is no preference given to anyone, nor are there differences made in a negative light.

If you write something and no one takes any heed, then they just weren't interested, and so won't post, unlike the Intl forums, where people do post negatively and have row after row, day in day out, usually resulting in amny people feeling like crap.

We don't need that here.

RE: Cultural differences

Just go to your mailbox and then to "filter settings" and you will see the options there and just click save. Then it's done.

RE: Cultural differences

If you don't like the male behaviour in a particular culture, or have no intention of meeitng up with or having a relationship with people from certain parts of the world, then make life easier for yourself and go to preferences and block them from there. No one from those areas can mail you then, so you won't be bullied or scammed or whatever it is that bothers you about them. Problem solved.

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

When the craving is strong, you will tell yourself what you have to in order to stay off them, and you may not believe it at the time. What you might want to do right at that moment might not be saty off them.

Good luck. I really hope you succeed, if that is what you want to do. Just have distractions ready. Don't allow yourself to get bored, or stressed if you can.

Don't rely heavily on the substitutes. They keep the craving going for nicotine. Best wean off as soon as possible if you can, say within a week. I know people who are addicted to the gum 3 and 4 years after they finished smoking.

RE: Dead man (or woman) walking

Last one. This is a man whose music was exceptional.




Thanks Jan for giving me the opportunity to remember these again.

RE: Dead man (or woman) walking

Exceptional voice........ So sad....

RE: Dead man (or woman) walking

Another sad loss in this lady. She was magic in her own right, but often remembered for her part in this.........

RE: Dead man (or woman) walking

Yes. Agreed.

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This man is sorely missed too. He was a rare and outstanding talent and from my home county as well..... When he played there wasn't a dry seat in the house.....

RE: Dead man (or woman) walking

Not deceased but dead to us as he was. This song always made me smile. I fell in love for the first and last time to this playing in the background.....

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

Sounds good. Usually as they leave your system a bit you get less of a liking for them. You have to cheaat a lot to give up, like lying to yourself and telling yourself you are a non-smoker. Somehow your body picks up on that and it helps you to avoid that next one. You will only stay addicted if you feed the addiction, ie: smoke. the craving getsless and less over quite a short period of time. Sounds like you are doing well so far.

RE: If you would draw your self-portrait, would people recognize that you were drawing yourself?

yes

RE: I have a South American uncle

He applied for bar work, the cousin that is, in a local hotel where my brother just happened to be the head barman. He said his name was Carlos mc Daid and my brother remarked how his mother's family had that name, and they got talking and turned out to be cousins.

My brother then introduced him to the rest of us. He worked here for about 5 years and then went back to Argentina, where he married and now lives. My brother is hoping to go see him later this year and meet the rest of the family, and take lots of pics for us.

When I was living in Kenya many years ago, I met cousins there too. I also have ones in New Zealand, and Australia and America and Canada, some of whom I have never met.

My grandfather was one of 13 brothers and 4 sisters.......They got about a bit.

RE: I have a South American uncle

No accounting for where skeletons turn up. Nice that you found missing family. Besides the shock, it is usually a bonus and a new adventure into meeting more family members you didn't know about.

In the 70's I found out I had family living in Argentina too. Legitimate but unknown. A cousin came to work in Ireland to try to make connections with family, and got in touch with us. My grandfather's brother apparantly went there when there were offers of land to people who would open up new tracts for farming there, way back early in the 20th century. He married a local woman and they had 18 kids. Consequently I now have over a hundred cousins living there into their 4th and 5th generations.

RE: Dead man (or woman) walking

Loved Freddie for his showmanship.

RE: Communes....sharing your space and your life...

On second thoughts I think my posts are beginning to look more sad by the minute. I probably wouldn't be such a great candidate after all. Probably bore everyone to death.

RE: Who's gonna share????

I think the red has gone to his head already ..

RE: Who's gonna share????

That could have it's advantages in the right situation.

RE: Who's gonna share????

I'll join you in a red wine then. Sláinte

RE: Who's gonna share????

It's all in the mind Hold out your glass then. Marti can't stand there all night waiting for you...

RE: Who's gonna share????

No wonder you are not sleepy. Alcohol is a stimulant.

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

I seem to be sleepy all the time these days but haven't a clue how it happened, except maybe relief from stress, and being a little more indulgent with myself.

The lemon and honey is relaxing too. Are you having trouble sleeping?

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

So do I Jan. It's my favourite drink , next to fresh ginger and honey made the same way. Great for detoxing too.

You are looking particularly radiant these days.

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

Hi Marti Good to see you too.

RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread, cont...

Half a fresh lemon squeezed into a glass, with a heaped teaspoon of honey, and fill up with boiling water and stir. It loosens all that gunge without huring you.