You've hit the nail on the head here Ambrose. (Hi by the way). It's all about how well people communiate on any level.
If people don't know how to ask the right questions, or take the right hints, (like how often a person is online, how they speak to you, tone of conversations etc, subject matter, avoidance of certain subjects), then thy are il-equipped for any relationship, including a real life one. It's not the quantity of the onversation but the quality/depth, that counts.
Those little pieces of plastic are inanimate objects that sit in your home and do nothing until REAL PEOPLE with REAL LIVES turn them on and use them to communicate their wants and needs to another person who is WILLING to communicate with them.
I understand what you mean to say here, but attitude has a lot to do with it too, and trust in your fellow human beings, who often are just as vulnerable as you, and need what you need.
The reality is that people are just people, no matter what means they use to communicate.
People only fall in love beause they are willing to fall in love. That is their right, based on their own judgement. If they make a mistake and get their hearts broken, then they would have done that in real life too.
No point blaming the computer, or the phone, or another person for human error. If people make an error in judgement then the right thing to do is acccept their own human frailty, and then deal with their own mistake, and then and move on, having learned something positive from it.
What should not happen, is to colour other people's view of life and happiness, by saying the problem lies with the computer.
I went to a funeral yesterday . Enya's aunt. Moya Brennan from Clannad sang at the service. Spent the day there catching up with the family. Their cousin, whose mother had died, is my best friend. It poured hailstones on the way home.
My grandson's first birthday tomorrow, out for the day again. Family of a different sort to catch up with.
I spend a lot of my time these days doing healing work on people's backs mostly, though I have had quite a few footballers with knee injuries too. (I practice muscle manipulation in case you are wondering). Haven't got around to raising the dead yet but the lame certainly walk.
Am making meditation cusions next week and getting taken out because the local drama group got a prize for the period costumes I made for their famine play in competition.
Sommer just told me that she posted this. Truth is I didn't think I'd be missed at all. Thank you all for saying nice things. I feel bad now for not being here.
Winter here is hard for me because of my arthritis and I tend to hibernate because the pain gets me grumpy, (with a bit of cabin fever thrown in), and I don't like to inflict my negative moods on anyone.
I just close up the house and shut the curtains and stay in and talk to no one until it's over. Even my kids didn't see much of me this winter.
The sun has shone here for a whole week now even though it is still cold, so I thought it was time this week to show my face again.
Anyway, thanks again for all the nice things you have been saying. It made me feel all warm inside.
You are right Buddhists are tolerant of all other beliefs, but, you will find that Buddhists, people practicing the classical Buddhist beliefs, do not believe in God or Gods...
Trish, good as your intentions are in looking out for other people on here, first, you would have to be presuming that we are not adult enough to see thiese things for ourselves, and secondly, it is still no excuse for pushing athiest beliefs on people, instead of christians pushing their beliefs on people.
Two wrongs never make a right...... Surely a few kind words warning people would be better than the stuff we see on here, telling people, (even insisting sometimes), that they can't think logically, or are not rationsal for having personal beliefs that include Christianity...?
Me too. Most don't seem to know that it is not the things they are saying that they are being judged on, it is the people who are saying those things and how they say them.
One of the reasons that there are religious as well as political and other categories in threads, is because people with similar interests often seek each other out.
They are not intended as people or faith bashing threads, but human nature being what it is, people like to argue, me included sometimes, for fun.
Have any of you noticed that the threads that often get the most attention are the ones where people are tearing into each other?
It's like watching a drama unfold on tv. Some people love drama and some even like horror. Here you even get to participate if you like.
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RE: how do you fall in love with a computer monitor....
You've hit the nail on the head here Ambrose. (HiIf people don't know how to ask the right questions, or take the right hints, (like how often a person is online, how they speak to you, tone of conversations etc, subject matter, avoidance of certain subjects), then thy are il-equipped for any relationship, including a real life one. It's not the quantity of the onversation but the quality/depth, that counts.