What you wrote, some men believe, because they read something like this before (created by an idiot), and bought into it.
They then go on to second guess women and presuppose that they have agendas even when going throught the motions of everyday living, like planning a date etc.
This causes rifts in relatonships, loads of "he must be thinking this, because he did that" and "she must mean this because she said that", sort of scenarios, instead of asking the person and taking the answer as read.
Urban myths like this are the road to disaster for any relationship where either partner buys into it, and men buy into it probably more than women because of even more urban myths that we are so different, and lack of asking women outright what they mean.
Nawwwwwww they have better things to do ,like going after people who post urban myths....
I believe that the propensity for cancer is apparnet in all of us and that it relies as much on what we believe as on what we do or eat or how we live.
I attended a seminar on breast cancer given by the head oncologist in Dublin a few years back and he had proof/figures and case histories, that breast cancer was most prevalent in women who were of an age where their kids were moving out of home, or those who lost kids, or those who wanted them and couldn't have them. He said that their psychological frame of mind, primal physical link to their children, greatly influenced whether they got breast cancer or not.
There are always exceptions of course, although if we were to investigate their thinking, we might find correlations to previous findings there too.
The numbness is also stress related. I don't personally think that is the beginning of healing, but more the body's way of saying it needs help. Kinda like "I am not going to co-operate until you shift this stuff first." Louise Hay is a good idea, as her workbooks in particular at least let you look at the questions you should be asking ...
The healing starts when you acknowlege what caused all that hurt you are holding, and actually cry about it, or shout it out, write about it, or whatever emotion you got stuck on.
Thinking you can cope alone and time will heal it won't work. You actually have to "do" something about this kind of shut-down.
Specialist cognitive behavioural therapy sometimes cuts to the heart of what you are not acknowledging and is often done in groups to help you with that process.
Anti depressives often don't help even though this comes under the header of depression. Overload needs to be unloaded.
I have a niece there who is practicing international law, so could maybe go visit her and use her place as a base for travelling to other places. She has asked me over to stay, many times.
Yep. It's down to patience and how much respect you have for yourself. Not everyone agrees with this, but I personally find it important to my self worth, not to play around with friends and most likely lose them in the process. Good friendships are rare enough, why risk them for quick gratificaton.
So why don't more people turn up at meets etc., where they'd get the opportunity to see for themselves who the people they talk to on a daily basis really are?
There are tens of thousands of people on CS and only a handful ever turn up for a real life meeting. It's a shame when the opportunity is there at organised meets in a safe environment. Ideal for those who deem it unsafe to meet otherwise.
RE: How and Why Women "Test" you.
Sorry I misinterpreted your post stress. Though, as I said, I couldn't believe you would buy into crap like this anyway.