I guess I took his question from a clinical perspective and if you look at it from that perspective....Well.....
What someone thinks their looks on a rated scale is irrelevant to me. I could say I'm a 6. You might look at me and say, "No way, she's a 4 or 5 max" or think I'm underrating myself, while someone else is thinking the exact opposite. I don't do point scales in regards to looks. I don't rate anyone, I don't want people to rate me because I don't care what anyone thinks of my looks other than myself and the person I'm interested in. It comes down to what you might think of someone's looks could be the exact opposite of what someone else thinks. So, he thinks he's an 8. Fine. To someone, he probably is. What he considers to be an 8+, may not be supermodel quality, but pretty, takes good care of herself.
I went directly to the heart of the matter of the question, which was "Is the single dad thing really the deal breaker..do you younger women with no kids just exclude that in your searching?".
OK, I'm young, fairly attractive, and have no kids of my own. I've dated 2 guys with kids and am interested in a 3rd with twins. It didn't bother me (other than 1 who had a lot of baby's mama drama), which is not a deal breaker for me. Am I interested in someone his age? No, but there are women out there who find the older men attractive. Look at Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas.
Well my mother is single and yes, I would introduce her to a new guy in my life after a significant period.
Unfortunately after being married to my "father" for 25 years and the hell he put her through, my mom has no desire to date ANYBODY, which is sad to me.
I need to add on some about the superficial guys because I attract quite a bit of them.
Making comments that your appearance is subpar for the evening with they show up unshaven, in a wrinkled t-shirt, holey jeans, a ratty sneakers.
Guys that make constant reference to women's weight when they are sitting across from you with a nice dunlap around their waist and your waiting for the snap on their jeans to bust loose and shoot across the room and kill someone.
***True story to the one about weight. Met a guy from online, who described himself as fit-toned/athletic (all pics were from the chest up). Had this HUGE dunlap belly. We went to dinner and he spent most of the evening making comments about this bigger girl that was two tables over from us; about how much she was eating and when she ordered a desert, about how he was going to vomit from "watching her shovel in more food".....Yeah, um, please look in the mirror. Fit-Toned/Athletic means more than having a gym membership that you don't use, thanks! Very impressive first date conversation, NOT!***
Yeah, I know. I want to move to Corpus Christi some day though. Not much around here for scuba diving other than the river and its so darn muddy you can't see a thing in it. Though the zoo has the shark tank that they'll allow certified divers to get in there and feed the fish.
I'm fascinated by the ocean and sharks in general so scuba diving would be fun....BUT, I'd have to get over my fear of sharks first though. Right now I, silly me, stay in prime shark bait territory when I visit the ocean, 3 feet of water in full view of the shoreline. I figure I have a better chance of getting to shore in shallow water than in deep water.
When I was in Corpus Christi, TX a view years back a guy pulled one out of the water and hauled it up on the pier; it was a little one maybe 5ft at the max. I was fascinated by it. Beautiful creature, but obviously it wasn't too happy being out of the water. I stayed clear of the ocean the rest of my visit after that though. I saw its teeth, so every scene of JAWS ran through my head after that!
I'd love to learn to Scuba dive. Unfortunately, I have a big fear of sharks. One would see me scuba diving and decide that I look like a very tasty seal.
If money wasn't an object, I'd own a Porsche 911 Carrera 4 Twin Turbo Convertible. I built one for fun online one day. Seeing how the total came to $198,415.32 (with every option known to man, lol), I'm probably not going to get one.
I would love a Pontiac Solstice though. So pretty. Sat in one at the dealership when my mom bought her new car. Since that's a more reasonably priced $32,000.00, I might splurge after my car is paid off and go for one of those and still get my convertible.
Never got in an actual fist fight. Though the last club I went to with my friends, some nasty looking older guy (I'm talking looked like he never showered) got up in my face the moment I walked into the door. I mean literally when I walked in. Showed my ID to the bouncer, took two steps in to the club and bam, right in my face is some guy giving me the up and down look...
I was like, "What?" He gave me the look again. I repeated "What?" Him: "You need to have a F**king drink and learn to f**king relax" Me: "F**k off" Him: "Excuse me, b**ch?" Me: "I said, you can...." tensing up ready to deck him and my friend's husband grabs me by the arm, steps into the guy's path instead. Nic: "Is there a problem here?" Creepy Guy: "No" and walks away
UCK, I hated that club and didn't want to go there anyway, but was out numbered, sigh.....
Sac Air Force Base & the museum College World Series is held here Gerald Ford's birthplace Boys Town Warren Buffet lives here Fred Astaire, Marlon Brando, and Nick Nolte born here Old Market (beautiful/romantic area of town) Henry Doorley Zoo
You're welcome. I've already felt out the situation with my new interest. From what I've been told, by him, is that he and his ex are friends to a point and she puts trust that he's not going to bring a negative influence around the boys. So we shall see if this progresses enough to the point where I meet the boys. Right now its way way way too soon for something like that.
I would say that I definitely don't eliminate the guys with kids in my search, but if there's a hint of a lot of baby's mama drama involved, I'm very hestitant.
The previous relationship fell apart due to other circumstances, not having to do with his son's mom. That was just a frustrating part of the relationship.
I don't mind a guy that has kids. The last two guys I dated had kids. The guy I recently met and am interested in has twin boys.
My problem is when there's "baby's mama drama" involved. I completely understand being protective of your children as they are in fact your flesh & blood. My last serious relationship (of 3 yrs, the subject of getting engaged had come up), well his ex had a major issue with me being involved in her son's life. I made all the attempts that I could with her. I offered to meet her and let her get to know me as a person and to give her my phone # so she could contact me at anytime, to which she refused. Never mind the fact that her son loved me to death. I took really good care of him when he was here. Making sure he had a well balance diet, playing games with him, etc.
Part of it was the jealous mom stuff. I wasn't his mom, so yeah I was cool and I was fun...So when he got home it was, "Jillian did this" and "we did this or that" or "Jillian made cookies" or "Jillian rented this game and it was fun", etc etc.
All in all I don't exclude men with kids from my dating. I absolutely love children. I don't rush into meeting the kids; all in due time. I do try and feel out the situation with the child's mother though. In the past has she been really difficult with the new girlfriend? I still miss my ex's son. He was a great kid.
What I need is a good defense cause Im feelin like a criminal. And I need to be redeemed To the one I sinned against Because he was all I ever knew of love
LOL, ok. Thats the 3rd song that's popped into my sleep deprived brain. I'm crashing out for the night....
Click Click Boom! I'm comin' down on the stereo, hear me on the radio Click Click Boom! I'm comin' down with the new style and you know it's buck wild Click Click Boom! I'm on the radio station TOUR around the nation leaving the scene in devastation
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RE: So, what is everyone doing for Christmas?
Spending it with my mom, brothers, and sister. It'll be our first Christmas together in two years. I'm very much looking forward to it.