I read each word of your post and my belief that its worth caring for parents got more strength, much more.
Its a reality that you lost a lot during your dedication towards your parents and still, you may loose more but, I'm telling you from the core of my heart that sooner or later, you'll get your reward, your mother did not go away without praying for you, trust me.
Utilize your firm speech, self-confidence and skills to fight this temporary darkness around you, DO NOT depend on anyone ordinary for your help (many people wont understand your deep feelings), reach out the opportunities with the belief that you have already paid the price for a good gift. Now you're rightful.
The thing is, our elders have said it right that hardwork never goes vain and you have done yours.
Why do I believe it so much? because I have experienced it in my life, we dedicated our most for the care taking of our parents and now, after just few years of hardship, things are falling the way we imagine / wish. We believe its the gift we worked for. I'm moving towards good life with deep satisfaction that the people who brought me into this world, they were sent back happily.
Man! mother nature plans it better for us, and it supports goodness more than we even think.
You and I are more than satisfied by doing our best for our parents. I pray your tough time ends sooner than the later.
Before joining dating site and especially, open forum, I actually prepared myself mentally that the kind of sharing person I am, I wont be staying our of saying a lot about me and honestly and there are I think more than 6 billion people out there, means 6 billion different thoughts, comments and response types. So Do I have the capacity to absorb any comments by FEW OF THEM?
When I felt confident enough, I joined it at once. So now, I feel like having bigger heart and broader mind.
From the same mind, I welcome and heartedly thank everyone sharing their thoughts.
As for reply to a post above, to be honest, there is really no obligation to return the favor, I call it unconditional because parents don’t even know if you’re going to survive beyond 15 years of age…if you’ll ever earn a penny, if you’ll ever be ready to stand on your own feet. May be the child due to a disability becomes a hard liability on the parents but again, parents never abandon their beloved child. And they really don’t expect from but only hope that this kid may become successful and happy in life.
Look at their innocent friends, when we put them in old houses, I believe many of them are still kind and loving to their kids…At least if not the most, I’m really a big supporter of staying together. But then, everyone is free to choose.
I also know sometimes parents impose decisions, they tend to sometimes stop you for doing anything for apparently nothing. I remember when my mom always used to force me to sleep after coming back from school but I always wanted to play. When I used to refuse, she sometimes used to beat me up using hands and even stick, I used to cry and run away….LOL…I remember many occasions when she beat me up for many reasons…sometimes I was , but sometimes I wasn’t.
But to be very honest, if you can feel, that’s not even comparable to the pain she took while remaining awake the whole night when I was sick, her ONE NIGHT pain taking thing just FOR ME is more valuable than my whole life’s punishment with stick. She has the right.
Now, I do also realize that I could be one in a million to love and honor my Parents to that extreme level and NOT EVERYONE may have the same frequency, coz again, 6 billion different people, J….but at least parental love standards are very similar everywhere, regarding it they are humans or animals… Isn’t it?
A mother defends her kids from dangers and discomforts, the same way as in America, EU, Asia, Africa and even Antarctica, am I right?
Its really an amazing phenomenon guys, the relation of child to his/her parents being given away under simple and ordinary circumstances…feeling speechless to be honest!
I would love to respond to all the questions. Yesterday I wrote the who response but I kicked the moment when my software hung up and file was not saved as it was not MS word...it was long so I could not gather enough to re-write the same time but now since I see your thread, feeling that I might have ran into jungle escaping...but its not true unfortunately.
I was asked two questions in previous posts and then two comments to reply, here is what I have to say.
To Rivame, who called this a waste of time for all. If we think with a positive mind, all the threads on this forum and posts are a huge waste of time, then, right? NO, its not because same like me, everyone is seeking something out of this time investment, while having pleasure of virtual company and throwing out some of your frustration by sharing thoughts. Its quite good activity for me. Thanks for your writing anyways.
To Spartan 73, dear brother, You’re right by asking, what would be the comments by the people I love regarding me? So the answer is, I wish I could and really want them to be asked what they feel about it but due to good reasons, you know, I should not publish their contact information here. BUT for the sake of moving forward, IF you trust my statement 100% and believe I’m saying the truth, then I would say YES, even today, each one of them is willing to commit even today. See if you feel like believing me. ……..Moreover, let me take you to in history of this, basically my base of our friendship was never a physical lust OR any other interest but purely to get into someone who’s worth your purest love. Coincidently our frequency on almost every matter was so much the same and we talked in almost every topic…so this deeper communication resulted into something I cant find a better word but not just the ordinary friendship, but very deep love which is one of the most beautiful truths of my life.
( right here I would also, totally agree, with another person among us who said something about, love can only be with one, and yes, you can have higher levels of affection, respect and care for others and they can be too much dear to you. But you cannot call it true love.) But then….I also appreciate Dusty45 for making is easier for me to be precise on this topic by saying ”Belief can create Miracles”.
At this moment I am thinking to write a lot in response to “IceKrystal24” for her “need for explanation to my spirituality” and she is quite confident in her spiritual concepts study / knowledge but I am not that learned as I admitted in my previous posts too. But I wont repeat all of my previous writings here again, one can go thru the history of this thread and read with open mind… with some spiritual feelings… With this ordinary understanding that… “there are more than 6 billion people living in this small world, every person has a world inside him, every such world has some beautiful people living in it….in their own beautiful world …………and among those beautiful people, I believe you are I are one of them.
An ordinary human knowledge may not always be able to apprehend all the happenings around. More questions are heartedly welcomed.
Special thanks to Dusty45 for her understanding once again.
Okay, the thing is Mac started to attract me coz I need some dramatic change for unknown reason.
Bored of PC I feel.
I'm thinking about buying it now, my main softwares include Adobe Photoshop and Macromedia Dreamweaver. Regarding my 3D apps, I like Maya, and mainly for animation I use Adobe Flash and some movies but thats not a big ask from the computer I believe.
Thanks a lot for your participation friends. Rana.
I've always used PC for my graphic design and 2D animations tasks, in near future I also intend to do some 3D works. I've used one of the top PC / Windows systems, high level specs and with vista / XP but I could not be 100% satisfied with graphics, moreover, a very stable, responsive system is required to handle my fast working style, outstanding graphics and tools.
Now a days I'm thinking about shifting to MAC, either buying High end Mac PRO or if highest iMac is good enough.
I need suggestions that would help me, make the best choice. My budget is flexible, all I need it quality system.
Let me create a firm base which may keep you stand tall against bias, hate, mis-understanding and al the bad feelings, nothing to offend, just a friendly topic, not to criticize seriously but, my view point towards something hurting to me. Again, nothing to do with religion but since it’s a pure social concept, so just for reference may it involve religion and various societies.
I‘m just an ordinary child like any other kid on earth and I was born free of any religion, understanding of life………….Meaning by, I was a blank inside and outside.
According to Muslims, the entity who loves a person the most after the God is MOTHER…and then third one is FATHER, (Means Parents.). It is also said by Islam, “heaven lies under the feet of your mother.” Which means, if your mother is truly satisfied with your deeds, you are good to her and she is happy with you, then nothing can stop you from heaven in after-life. Till here, it was a religious point of view. But I know its not quite convincing for the people who have nothing to do with religion.
But at least we are social so lets see the social point of view below. The same way as suppose, if one person has unconditionally done a favor for the other, it’s the moral responsibility of the other to return the favor in an equal or ideally, in a better way, right?
…………right on this point where I’m thinking to write the most beautiful words for “Parents” to thank them from the core of my heart…but to be honest, I’m halted here…its been quite a while I’m sitting still, my hands are on keyboard but my mind seems to has stopped working…I’m struggling to find appropriate words really………..I’m speechless.
But since I have to complete my initial writing under this thread so I’ll use the best of my imagination at the moment.
I love my parents are want to be with them for my whole life…I cant stand seeing them living away from me. Since I cant commit suicide so I could not go buried with them in their graves. May I’m living this day to tell you what I’m thinking….?
In Asia, I believe even in next 1000 years, the concept of an “old house” would only be an unwanted nightmare for both, the kids and parents. it’s the pull of your blood I believe.
My parents worked through days and nights, years and decades to bring me up to a point where I could pay back the favor just by living with them happily and keep them happy, take care of them, love them…and ideally, thank them at times for their initiative.
I was just a 6-7 years old baby, very innocent and stranger to anything like deep thinking, worry, etc…but tell you one thing very interesting, without any thinking or knowledge or any guidance, when my mom first asked me what would I do when grown up…….I, out of no where, said these words in broken way…”I‘ll take of you maaa…”…The next moment when my mom realized what on earth did I say…she embraced me too tight and I was told, she cried just too much…….but then, I think of this OLD HOUSE concept, how amazing, isn’t it?
How can we compare the concept, and then its acceptance, and then it becoming a reality …the OLD HOUSES…where many unfortunate parents ( YES, Unfortunate ) are just completing rest of the days of their life?…away from their beloved children who now are well in position to earn, understand, take care, and above all, afford by all means in reality…WHY? They just DON’T FIT to live with?
I get hurt to read from various people, when asked about their biggest dream…they happily say ( Not intending to offend anyone please ) “To get out of my parents house…to live life”……To live my life?…I mean, did you hear what I just heard?
I’ve got 1000s of things to add more to this post, but since its getting too long and I think I made my point to start a healthy and ideally, a fruitful discussion.
Please guys, I would love you all to add as much as possible…At least I expect it.
I remember a statement as reply to one of my posts few days back where a guy said....
You can somehow bring a horse to water, but cannot make it drink! The later on it went funny but thoughtful for me, in the way that , further suggested upon question how to make it drink then? reply was, drown his mouth in water and kick his balls and then see how much he can take.
Although its funny to imagine, but most of us do behave like that horse ...please note one thing important that its not necessary that horse really wanted to drink water, why to force the poor? Its understood that when it'll be thirsty, water would be the ultimate need, right?
Extending this further, "I had the thirst, searched water, found it and drank it, and was satisfied.
Before I quote my opinion, one thing must be noted that I'm not advocating anything, I'm quoting JUST my belief.
I think a lot about things around me, laws of nature, evolution, cultures, think about rain, effects, sunshine, behaviors of age, ........thousands of things ................... and then after trying to figure out how come all this was created and setup BY ITSELF? It just wasn’t possible that it just happened thru evolution process...
I do believe evolution is a reality, the most obvious example if our ways of living and styles alive history of last few hindered years...
The most convincing guide for me to believe in God is the Holy book of Islam, called "The Qura'n"...I can't read Arabic language properly neither can I speak or understand so I got its translated version in English and Urdu where I studied it like an ordinary book...for months. I read it like a story book...compared what was written in it about 1500 years ago and then went back in history as far as I could go thru literature...(I'm not a scholar to quote exact references here )...but I did discover this scholar named "Zakir Naik" (Scholar of Comparative Religions and Medical Doctor) from India…whose books and debates with not only Christian but many other scholars caused 1000s of people to get convinced.
Anyways…friends, we must respect of whatever one believes in, religion is a personal way of life, way to satisfy your self, way to keep you on good path which may lead you to anything good. We all have to die but we are alive at the moment, instead of fighting over issues, the priority should be to become a good human being, social, friendly and supportive to other beings.
I, personally, really do not appreciate how this beautiful way of life (Islam) is being portrayed, defined and being practiced by many people (Not to offend anyone) and giving it a bad name. Many events in past caused ISLAM to appear a brutal practice, BUT, things are 100% opposite if you BY YOURSELF with Neutral Mind study it just for the sake of knowledge and understanding, evaluate the logics and reasons, then you’ll see media a much bigger cause of creating unexpected opinions.
As a conclusion, again I would say, no matter who you are, no matter which way of life you have chosen or don’t care about, no matter what views you have inside you for anything, but we should RESPECT what others truly believe in. Things may appear to be different, but I would always prefer to go deep myself and feel it by myself just for the sake of my own understanding.
My belief, my friendly opinion and with due respect to everyone, their beliefs and their opinions.
I was expecting your experiences to be shared here, although I'm really laughing n feeling like everyone is staring at me with suspicion while talking to each other, thinking "look who's talking"
Anyways,
I've been experiencing this since very young age, at times I know the whole scene n even time but then, during the happenings, I've tried telling further as to what's next, but something holds me back in such a way that I'm helpless...just a silent witness.
Isn't that God first proving his ultimate power by doing it to us? First HE gives us a blimps n then when the time comes, HE holds us to witness?
Or psychologically, at certain moments, our mind apprehends a situation so fast, almost before a time in such a way that we feel like having this feeling of advance knowledge?
what you think? May its just a short circuit of our mind time when it makes us feel you've been here already ?
same like at times a Windows progress bar goes beyond 100% while progress is still underway?
why I started this thread bcos, I have hair on my chest which I believe as designer are very reasonably placed, soft n sensual. I've always knew they're good. A lady once tried to convince me that u must get full body hair removal coz females don't like it. Not sue why but I thought about it for a while but could not be convinced, but the wounds remain so I thought to post it here n get reviews.
Not I really know I've them for good. Those hair could be seen in couple of my photos here on CS. Thanks guys
Its quite a common thought I think, I saw people throwing this question out especially when they're hurt OR feeling something bad inside....
and YES, people do seems love at times, unconditionally. But until and unless one's self respect is secured, everyday conflicts are not too big issues...mostly the binding force is social and family norms, expectations etc... (South Asia, like India / Pakistan).
It'll be really amazing for me to see if such "unconditional love" considerably exists in societies like USA and WEST. Where we dont have such binding force, all you have to do is rely on your own self-chosen path.
I'm here in MD for the past 4 months but I didn't get enough time to look around, see such places etc...Else I could suggest a good place...before that we need to gather required people so lets wait on that...what you think? I'm always ready to join / even initiate.
First of all, its the educational background as how well one has been trained, educated, molded to communicate in writing and speech when its everyday life matters...
Secondly, How well kid has been paying attention while in school, his surroundings, prevailing thoughts etc...something about his interests in that particular class / session ...
Lastly, and most importantly his mind-set and personality, the colors he inherited from his parents, if the kid was brought up well at home and parents were properly involved with him during crucial times of his development then, I believe there are least chances for kid loosing his required formalities of everyday life.
While he grows up, he starts to ignore many things because his attention is diverted to many other controversial things such as over-romance, too my calls, too many gossips, excitement of adolescence and stuff like that and also, invalid inspirations from society...these are the times when parents must be around the kid for sculpting his personality and views.
Does it make any sense to you guys here?
In my case, English is not my mother tongue, rather its the 4th level language which I learned mostly by self study, 100s of thoughtful hours and study of some literature...
I would easily agree if someone says I struggle with sentence construction. But for word spellings, first I always keep a critical eye on myself and any other thing I'm reading from anyone...After writing...sometimes in cases of doubt. I use Spell Check and finally, when its too late to correct, I perform another post with corrections, with an apology request from the reader(s)...
I try reading their picture first, yes reading...face expression in photo, position, style, clothing etc...If thats sober and gentle, nice, suitable age for me, I feel like falling for her then...
First two of your lines are correct, third one I'm doubtful coz I have seen babies, I mean very pretty babies whose parents were quite ordinary looking...I wont say ugly due to respect a human. The word Ugly is quite harsh for me to say, same like hate.
Why I disagree because although its true, baby inherits physical styles from parents as its genetic but also, not to forget, those genes are also from their ancestors, where, not necessarily, none of which were good looking...So one generation of the next, genes/ DNA gets transfered and so, many beautiful babies come into this world everyday
Im sure that if an ordinary looking new-born is taken care of properly, given good nourishment and taught well. the same baby not even can become good looking person appearance wise but also, a wonderful personality as a whole.
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RE: what do you do
Let them try their best, make your point properly and then do not force anyone.But if its me, I will keep my doors open for them to come back to me, if at any stage of life they realize.