hmmm...i have been thinking that a little younger is OK. not anything like dating an 18 yr old, but late 20's are okay i think with me. im 38 going to be 39 this year and wouldn't mind a little younger then me. :)
I think that there are really some unintelligent people out there that do that, no matter what we say or do. BUT, I also know that there are WAY more people that are accepting then there are not...SOOOOO, chin up, stay positive and be yourself. If they dont like it then thats their problem.
i think....not for sure...that i have moved 7 times since i have lived in this state....if you count the times i moved in hawaii, maybe another 5 or 6 times there...
i have a friend out there...we are crew members online for a game that we paly...lol....shes totally cool! she said the other night that it was darn hot there as i was freeszing my butt off here. shes picking up all sorts of bad english too...lol...she can hop on a ferry to go to spain, or to the islands that surround Malta...i would love to visit there and do a paranormal investigation. i hear from her that its very rich in history and is quite haunted.
Im stuck in Tacoma and life is a bit boring...lol...not really, but it seemed a good thing to say at the time...lol. Just a hello to those in this fair state!
BB, The Late Late Show with Craig Ferguson (hes totally hot!) lol...um...Supernatural, and theres a new one coming out that I KNOW that Im going to LOVE called Moolight, Family Guy, House...mostly anything on the Sci-fi channel, and mostly everything on Discovery too...lol.
elaborating on how it was dating "out of my race": in general, i find that men of color (black african-american, and those of mixed background) were mostly nice guys. they seem to be more accepting of full figured women and i guess thats where i gravitated. my last "date" was an ex-cop who happend to be black. he talked too much and had WAY too many issues. the other guys, yeah white guys, that i have dated (theres like 4...lol) were OK too. they were not any different in the way they treated me or were treated. i just dont find too many white guys out here that like fuller figured women...i guess that why i usually dont date them.
i have...but then again im mixed: hawaiian, chinese,german,scottish...a few more too, so ANYONE can qualify as being "out of my rase" .lol. for me it doesn't matter...everyone is human, or so i have been told.
with a ld relationship theres other things to concider like being able to actually SEE that person...its a very hard way to have a relationship...possible, yes, but very stressful still. i would like to be able to go to them when i like or have them be able to see me when ever they want to. you need to be together to build a strong bond. but then again thats just my opinion. some people can make it work. some just need to have that seeing each other thing to make it work.
i have tried this a couple times...even meet the second guy...but as life goes, he was a two-timer (and i was stupid, but suspisious) i found out the hard way that he was a user. had another on the side too. eh...maybe there are romances out there that work, and end up happily, but i have not had that experiance yet.
I think that it would be the same for a guy with women...so its not JUST for men...but my sis posted this on MySpace and I wanted to share it with everyone.
2. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
3. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
4. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
5. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
6. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
7. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
8. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
9. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
10. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant. Why would he treat you any differently?
11. Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
12. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
13. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
14. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
15. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are, even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
16. Never let a man define who you are.
17. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
18. All men are NOT dogs.
19. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.
20. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
21. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.
22. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
23. Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him he takes it for granted.
24. Never move into his mother's house.
25. Never cosign for a man. (Hallelujah, thank you Jesus!)
26. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
nikki9390 Forum Posts (73)
this is so true...
RE: Older women, younger men
hmmm...i have been thinking that a little younger is OK. not anything like dating an 18 yr old, but late 20's are okay i think with me. im 38 going to be 39 this year and wouldn't mind a little younger then me. :)