Of course it could work out. It is better, though, when both of you have the same preferences. The other person has to be understanding and trusting. *M*
You sohuld never reveal that stuff in the beginning. If you are asked about it, keep it short and simple. No one likes a person who open the floods gates of past emotional bad experiences.
It can be looked at as rude. But then again, I believe that if you dont have anything nice to say then it is better to say nothing at all. When you are being ignored, there's a 99% chance that you know what caused it and an explanation is unnecessary. *M*
RE: we are all adults......
I say "man toy" lol jk .... I usually use a sweet pet name .... boyfriend does seem a little odd.