Ambrose2007 Forum Posts (8,881)

RE: What would you like to say to your Ex today?

Heh - but isn't being honest the ultimate challenge in a relationship? Or one of them? Being honest can sometimes bring a fairly negative response. Sometimes it's easier for people just to say something like "It's not you, I just haven't discovered myself," rather than: "I can't be with you cause your breath really stinks!"

Also, the person who's saying stuff like that may not even be aware of why they're doing it. To know why you do stuff requires, I think, the rare and most valuable quality - being honest with yourself. People can play very elaborate games with themselves, you know? Haven't you noticed that here - people living in dream-worlds and pledging to love to people they barely know (for example)?

But we're getting onto a whole 'nother subject, G.

RE: What Do You All Think About This.

I did a quick search on google and didn't find many references to unusual numbers of military exercises. The only thing that came up was the Boston one. The report I read made it sound completely innocuous.

RE: What would you like to say to your Ex today?

Sometimes I think people say stuff like that to hold others at bay, G. Of course, they could be being perfectly honest...in which case, there's no chance of a stable romantic relationship (or almost no chance).

RE: What is so attractive about drinking

That's terrible, V, to mention your upcoming happiness when some of us lonely physically deprived types are suffering so horrifically and self-pityingly!

Even my little rubber "friend" (renamed recently! ) rejected my advances this morning.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Thanks - I needed that.

Anyway, my essential point is that some beautiful/very attractive women don't fit the model suggested in that article. That might be because they're quirky or whatever, but it might also be because they don't believe they deserve better (that is, could be a self-esteem issue).

Also, some very beautiful women have been raised in such a way that their beauty doesn't go to their heads. I'm thinking of my own cousins and their children, who are exceptionally good-looking, but were taught from infancy that "looks are only skin-deep."

Regardless, there's no way that being beautiful (or handsome) isn't going to effect the people around you, and in turn, your perceptions of them. Extremely attractive women, for example, are encouraged by constant male attention to put up some form of shield, I think.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Yeah, like all rules it has exceptions. I was with a very beautiful girl who wasn't that demanding about my money situation (which was the equal of hers), though she was concerned about it as related to our future (a future, ironically, she never wanted to discuss).

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

I love it when people call me "OP." Sounds so tantalizingly official.

RE: unconditional love is....

Well, no doubt it's a question of semantics - how we define "unconditional love." No one seems to actually mean by that what the words would strongly suggest - that is, literally love without conditions - because of the obvious impossibility/absurdity of that.

To completely accept someone as they are, for instance, doesn't mean you would accept someone no matter what their behaviors. It just means you accept the person completely as they are currently behaving. There's no guarantee that you would continue accepting someone completely if they changed in negative ways, no?

RE: So You Think You Had A Bad Day

Sounds nightmarish, C! On the plus side, you survived. Sometimes anesthesia kills people.

My mother went through a similar experience. She had had a painful toe operation, and then was informed it didn't correct the problem and that she'd have to come back for more surgery. She did...with the exact same result: the problem wasn't corrected and she'd need yet another operation. Eerrrcchh.

I hope you recover quickly and the operation will prove a success, C.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Yeah, that would be kinda shocking, wouldn't it? No, my parents live in Broomfield, CO.

That may be the chase (wealthy widows having everything but love), but I wouldn't doubt they'd still be picky about whom they loved.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

G'cha!

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

"Goss"? Not sure what that means, but it sounds kinda private...

Yeah, I'll keep you abreast of what happens. Probably make for a entertaining thread.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Thanks, G. Looks I'm set, then. As long as I avoid dribbling motor oil on her driveway (judging from my mom's reaction to that on their driveway, that's something to be avoided!).

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Good for you! You have a very engaging smile. I'm guessing you have a very "dis"engaging scowl.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Damn, Kyle, thanks man! That was quite a little article, I thought. Really laid some interesting stuff out there!

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Well, to your great credit (imo!), you had the strength of character to stand up for yourself and do what was right for you!

Just wondering...did you grow up in Asia (or did this happen there)? Doesn't sound particularly Australian in terms of culture (as much as I know about it, that is).

RE: You're ALL a bunch of ....

Al, that's the kind of universal compassion I've come to, uh, admire in you.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Heh...well, I guess men can be pretty tough on ladies, too. Historically, more than merely "tough."

"Deportment school"? Man, that sounds like fun.

And to think my parents were satisfied when I graduated from juvenile hall.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Gf, it was the deer that done it, I swear! First a trip out to Colorado took out my passenger-side mirror and left an antler scrape down one side. Then, driving up to Canada at night, I hit a whole damn herd of the antlered cockroaches (as I unfondly call them; deer are cute eating at a distance in a field - not so charming at eighty MPH on a dark freeway).

My beautiful baby was dented and scraped from bumper to bumper. There were even scratches on the roof! But it's hard to separate a Scand from his Volvo, so instead of selling it to the insurance company I clung to it loyally. But as was pointed out to me more than once by someone, "You need to upgrade your ride." I think she may have a point...

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Sheesh. It sure can be tough being a man, sometimes, G. The demands women place on us!

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

A platinum-plated skateboard - what a gift for my skateboarding son (if I were truly rich!)!

You know, that might be the ticket: generally spend your wealth on gifts for friends and family (with some respectable charities thrown in), and everyone would be too grateful to hold your filthy richness against you.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Well, some of us craftsman do shower semi-regularly and brush their teeth, so yeah, I can see that possibly happening, G.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Yeah, that sounds great to me, too. I think if I had lots of money I wouldn't flash it in anyone's face, but rather would sort of sneak around my backside, you know?

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

I think that shows serious character (and I'm not doubting there are many women who would feel similarly), Cherry.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

I would add that not being super-hard-driven when it comes to work has allowed me the freedom to travel - something that formed the foundation for my previous relationship, though it wasn't particularly appreciated - and time/energy to devote to a new relationship. Two working stiffs, particularly in a long-distance relationship, are rather constrained about seeing each other. I was free to come and go as I pleased.

Of course I would prefer to come and go as I pleased with a helluva lot more mullah in the bank/investments, and I think that may happen sooner or later (certainly working toward that), but I'm still focusing on the immediate reality as it relates to dating...

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Thanks for calling me "good man," G. That's been something of an issue for some here of late.

Being responsible with one's finances - meaning paying one's bills and not being in debt - would be something I'd expect to be judged for, and something I would also judge in my mate. I wouldn't want to be with someone who lives in a money-fantasy world where someone else is supposed to pay their debts (been there, done that!).

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

True - and I do think the number one characteristic that attracts women is self-confidence. A guy shouldn't apologize for not being a millionaire or a CEO of a Fortune Five Hundred company, and I am in now way suggesting that I feel apologetic at all about my current financial status. However, I don't blame women for being concerned about their boyfriend's finances or for preferring someone more materially ambitious.

I'm just curious what the women here think about this, that's all.

Dating out of your financial and/or socioeconomic class...

Right on, Sistah!