Ambrose2007 Forum Posts (8,881)

RE: I get amazed how most women are happier to be called HOT...

I should add: "...departs in a horrifically self-righteous huff, convinced once again of the moral turpitude of humanity (as though he actually had any question)."

RE: I get amazed how most women are happier to be called HOT...

I've read very little of this thread, but I'm guessing it's the usual Rilly thread (congrats, by the way, to the OP on appropriately changing his name!) - that is, Rilly makes a number of inane comments, receives some very well-deserved criticism, and then departs in a horrifically self-righteous huff.

Did I call it right?

RE: Love at first sight - Is there such a thing?

Happy New Year, V!

Well, the study doesn't make any claims about love at first sight; rather it describes "attraction at first sight." Turns out people are attracted to each other initially based largely on how attractive they find their faces. Brilliant.

I'd say Livingston is dead-on in his analysis.

RE: Are women turned off by men who hav done time in prison?

Thanks, G!

RE: Are women turned off by men who hav done time in prison?

Well, why not expand the nanny state out to its logical conclusion, and put us all under complete surveillance? After all, that would keep us all safe (and only criminals should object to being watched 24/7), no?

George Orwell knew better. Amazing to me that his lesson, so graphically illustrated in 1984, falls on deaf ears now.

RE: Are women turned off by men who hav done time in prison?

The attitude of law enforcement seems increasingly to consist not of serving the public but rather of seeing the public as enemies (the TSA is a prime example) to be controlled. That is a long step on the way to totalitarianism (and typifies the attitude of rulers toward their subjects in both dictatorships and other forms of totalitarianism).

The question before is not what is against the law, but rather what is against justice. The two are non synonymous.

RE: What part of your body do you think shows your age the most?

I'd say my hands, followed by the skin around my eyes...

RE: Job Creation! Obama does the best possible job concidering Reality!

Which raises for me a more interesting question: Is it possible for HSD to author a thread/poll without misspelling at least one word?

RE: Some of my ideas for a new form of Government

Ooby, if you were to attempt to seriously flesh out some of these ideas - particularly the ones involving government ownership of everything as well as setting wages (why not prices as well?) while at the same time allowing "free enterprise" (private ownership is a cornerstone of free enterprise)- I'm confident you'd soon run up against the inescapable internal contradictions in your system.

Most, if not all of your suggestions present the desired situation fait accompli, leaving the enormous practical questions unanswered (for example, how would government obtain funding without resorting to taxation?). First, you have to clearly define such notions as "free enterprise," and then map out the machinery of your society with equal clarity. That would require some considerable work, of course, but my point is that such work is absolutely necessary in order to evaluate the merits of such a system. Have you done this work (I know the answer, but do you? Or do you think such work is required?).

As it stands, you're stating your desired objectives as you merely declaring them - or wishing them true - suffices in establishing their merits. One could just as well state any utopian objective - for instance, that all people cooperate harmoniously sans greed - and treat it as real merely because one has stated it.

RE: The real reason most of us are still single

It's a question that deserves considerable discussion - particularly on single sites like CS.

Essentially, I see it as a conflict between the growing empowerment/equality/independence of women and more traditional modes of relationship where the woman was more reliant on the man financially, and also men were thought of more as leaders - both of the family and of society in general.

These notions largely defined marriages and romantic relationships until relatively recently, and also served both as an inducement to marriage for women and as a more or less stable framework for serious romantic relationships/marriage.

To the degree you remove the financial and psychological reliance of women on men, you're reducing or eliminating two traditionally powerful building blocks for marriage/serious romantic relationships. Then romantic relationships basically distill to the romantic factor itself - the psychological interdependency resulting from mutual affection and love.

While love is - or should be, I think - the preeminent motive for marriage/serious romantic relationships, the lack of a defined structure (where men and women basically know their roles) predictably makes modern romantic relationships more challenging.

I think we're in a bit of a romantic flux right now, as we sort out what our romantic relationships should look like in a more gender-equal setting.

I personally find this aspect to be somewhat challenging at times. I know I'm generally expected to do the "manly stuff" in my relationship - e.g., mow the lawn, take out the garbage, shovel the snow, make a reasonable amount of money, do most of the driving (as a few examples) - but would hesitate to expect reciprocally "girly stuff" such as cooking and cleaning, because that seems unenlightened somehow.

RE: What ever happened to unconditional love ?

Which would, of course, to love all humanity (and possibly some animal species?).

RE: What ever happened to unconditional love ?

I personally think the most perfect love is one which permits no conditions, expectations, or evaluations of any kind.

RE: STOP A Heart Attack Fast ~ Cayenne Pepper

Nicely done in posting this, H. Preventing heart attacks is only the beginning of Cayenne's health benefits. It even makes a nice substitute for caffeine, in my experience - one of the few herbs I've tried which gives you a serious jolt of energy. Google Cayenne and see for yourself (or better yet, try it!).

RE: I've given up on love.

To give up on love is, essentially, to give up on yourself (your judgments, your self-knowledge, your esthetics) - or, perhaps more precisely, to give up on understanding yourself (a basic requirement for romantic love).

RE: So you are a commitmentphobiac?

Hey, Ken! Hanging in there, buddy, hanging in there.

RE: So you are a commitmentphobiac?

I'm not commitmentphobic, either, but it would require an act of god to make me commit to anyone (perhaps making it an act of Dionysus would improve my chances?).

RE: The HAPPY THREAD

RE: What do you think of Canadian men?

Still commuting, my friend...

RE: What do you think of Canadian men?

Canadian men aren't bad...hockey players. But Canadian women...

RE: So you are a commitmentphobiac?

I think that image is accurate. And ironic (for reasons I probably don't have to spell out to the thread author).

RE: So you are a commitmentphobiac?

<insert obnoxious emoticon here>

RE: Do These Words From Benjamin Franklin Still Apply?

That is one of history's most brilliant quotes, and has never been more applicable than it is today, as fearful people rush lemming-like toward totalitarianism in order to avoid...what, exactly? What's worse than totalitarianism?

RE: If someone you wanted to date lived a different lifestyle...

Your question begs for some clarification of "different lifestyle," JS, but I assume you mean something substantially different from your own - for example, living in the country instead of the city or maybe embracing "polyamory."

In essence, I think, you're asking how open-minded we are about making major changes in our lives. Is that something we would consider or reject outright?

Under that interpretation, I'd say "Yes, I would consider making major changes in my life, if those changes seemed promising."

RE: If someone you wanted to date lived a different lifestyle...

Elegant, B, elegant.

RE: How do you view a liberal person?

Thanks, bro'! But how did Wyoming get into Minnesota (two of my favorite states)?? Sounds like a place I'd like to visit!

RE: Self-acceptance

Another thought-provoking thread-question, Laura.

It seems fairly clear that the basic reason we change is that we believe we can improve our life-situation, and of logical necessity, that belief must involve some degree of discontent. However, discontent does not necessarily equal unhappiness. We could be reasonably happy, for instance, but like the idea of being happier.

Discontent (to some degree), then, is the most fundamental motivator for change. Would being discontent and (basically) happy or discontent and unhappy offer better motivation to change? I think that depends on the individual. Sometimes unhappiness can spur one to change, and sometimes it can paralyze one.

I suspect that very unhappy people find change more difficult than mildly unhappy people, because being very unhappy is soul and body-draining, in my observation, which makes finding the energy/motivation to change more challenging.

RE: Rate President Obama A, B, C, D, F

This poll somewhat restores my belief in the intelligence of human beings. Only a "D"? I wonder what he'd have to do to earn an "F."

RE: age and weight

Hi, Ginger! That's an inspiring story. And yes, of course, illness and other factors are exceptions to what I think is a general truth that we are largely in control of many aspects of our physical shape/conditioning.

Often illness is a result of prior unhealthy choices. I have a neighbor who, when I first met him four years ago, was running about mowing his lawn and looking like a paragon of fitness. Then he drank himself into a convalescent home.

RE: age and weight

Not to sound like our resident cyclist-self-congratulator, but I'm continually amazed by how many things I can do pretty much the same as I could in my mid-twenties. And I don't even cycle that much!!

I suspect many people would be amazed by what they're still capable of with some attention to diet and exercise...

RE: age and weight

Metabolic/hormonal changes are part of aging, of course. But being overweight and out of shape are optional. You may have to work a bit harder than when you were young, but that's hardly a death-sentence, is it?