My best - then - friend told me at the time of my divorce: get married / get a lover at once or you'll remain single. (Because being single for a woman is the best option ever.) I didn't listen to her. I thought that before involving in a relationship, I'd enjoy being single for a little more. And more. And more... until being single became my philosophy.
It's so convenient. It's so satisfying. It's so me.
It is very single. Yes. It is also very independent :)
I am a bad listener. Partly because I understand better written word, than spoken, and partly because I'm seldom interested in people and therefore indifferent to what they have to say about anything and usually it's the story of their life ***shudder***
Self-bettering in progress: I try to limit socializing with people, I'm indifferent to, and spend more time with and invest more energy in people, I like. And then really listen to them. Sometimes I menage :)
I've seen a interview with a virologist, who claimed that Covid has been designed in laboratory in Wuhan and got out out of negligence. But I never seen a second independence confirmation.
Until that: it's a virus as any other.
But if it's manmade, then I am glad that I am as old as I am and have lived the most of my life before all that.
Well... it's your trait to think whatever you want about it, of course, but I myself think that it's in a line "you treat other people as you want to be treated": you grant them benefit of the doubt in order that they will do the same.
I personally wouldn't evaluate it as something not to like. But of course, it's yours to like or dislike :)
My observation: a true love is always unrequited. Even if the both sides are involved. I don't know how it's possible. Once upon a time I was totally in love with a man who was totally in love with me, yet we were totally in love with each other in a completely different way. And the ways we were in love with each other weren't requite from the other side.
I am totally jealous of your so mature decisions at a relatively young age (I'll never be that mature). But I wonder how did you manage to move for love together with a house?
You are right, but I still believe, that the more you change, the less power your previous addiction has over you. It's like you have moved to another dimension. The most difficult thing is to say "no" the first time and then keep to the decision until not using becomes a norm.
And, surely, the person who used the drug then isn't the same person, who doesn't use now. You managed to changed your personality from what it was then to what it is now. The now-personality remembers the addiction, but remembering and using isn't the same thing.
It's the very portrait of an addiction. Fighting an addiction is like fighting yourself. It's a battle that seems impossible to win... until you change.
When you change, when you become a different person, a non-addict, then your addiction cannot reach you.
Emile Verhaeren has a poem, that I find a very suitable to the situation of fighting own weakness, "Sward", if I remember right. (Will try and find a translation, but no promises.)
Until then, a song, that I also find suitable: "This woman doesn't love you, but she will never let you go..."
It goes like: "...you were looking for a spouse, but you found your widow..."
Yes, it is. Though, there is a lot of different schools and styles, you can choose what suites you best.
And on the second thought: moving to Gothenburg belongs to the best decisions list. Does it mean now that I've run off of all my good decisions or is there still some hope for me?
I thought about given a choice of naming 3 worst decisions as well, but then people seldom enjoy admitting mistakes and I did want to make a positive thread. (But you can create a "3 worst decisions" thread, can turn out it'll be a popular "Crying wall".)
In general therms, my list of best decisions is connected to education; in particular it contains (1) joining University (even if at age 38) and then (2) a Qigong course.
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Let’s poet
Where’s steering wheel, Gagarin wondered“Hillbilly” Koralev replayed.
Perhasps, you’d aks for rein and shaft here?
Perhaps, “Poehali” would say?