goinferyou Forum Posts (20)

RE: Cat lovers thread

You did not say anything wrong, as I told you in the email that I wrote before you posted that I bailed, I will be busy at work and when that happens I hide my profile because I don't have time to be here....going back into hiding now LOL I have longgggggg days.

Hmmmmm....something for the kittywmn....


never cut a cat short until you are sure it has been declawed...

RE: Requesting a pretty girl inside and out to really talk and actually meet, or am I asking to much

beach is fine as long as there are some people around. a first date on a deserted beach isnt wise

RE: Requesting a pretty girl inside and out to really talk and actually meet, or am I asking to much

Forgot....


But on the dress note, I agree to that. I have to get all gussied up for work in skirts and heels and things like that, the last thing I want to do in my off time is have to do the same. A special night to dres up, OK, but on the average? Relaxed is more personal and nice.

I must admit I do have a thing for a man in a suit and tie though....

RE: Requesting a pretty girl inside and out to really talk and actually meet, or am I asking to much

I don't think a walk through the dark woods with someone I don't know is a wise choice LOL A walk, yes....the woods, no

RE: First Date

Coffee at a little public, quiet place to break the ice and get to know one another and then going to a baseball game for hot dogs and silly fun. After that maybe an ice cream cone and a relaxing walk. If there is some chemistry there, a sweet kiss goodnight but don't even try more than that LOL

RE: Requesting a pretty girl inside and out to really talk and actually meet, or am I asking to much

I might date someone at work. I work in a field that is not exactly an office setting so that does change the scenario a bit.

As far as just getting laid...too easy and where do ya go after that if you know nothing about one another? Nowhere good and real. I won't even go on a first date if he asks to go to a bar. I love it when someone asks me out for coffee or something simple and fun. THAT impresses me. I would rather get to know the person and it's pretty hard to chat in a noisy bar and I don't like putting myself into a situation that the bar date may present.

RE: Hello from Sunny Florida

Welcome and good luck!

The Fl forum isnt very exciting as far as busy, but the threads here seem to usually be a bit more noteworthy than the "would u such and such with so and so above you"

Have fun!

RE: The nice guy always finishes last!

I am a little bit good and a little bit bad

Things some love about me are things another might not like about me...as cat said...kinda like picken pits from cherries....but oh dang is it wonderful when ya find a nice ripe sweet one eh!!

RE: The nice guy always finishes last!

I totally agree....I had not said this for myself, I just know of many good women that do give up or just start to always expect the worst. I myself have not given up nor has it been easy nor do I expect it become so simple. If it happens, yay, if not, that's ok too.

RE: Has anyone met anyone who actually wants to go on a frickin date?

I have met many MANY people in person that I first started talking to online. I don't regret it one bit! I have met some of my very best and longest standing friends online. I have met some that make me cringe too, but still, no regrets. If someone is too afraid or too closed to actually meet in a group gathering, what chance is there for meeting someone you might want to be with? Isn't that the purpose of a singles site? Or going out? Or joining something close to home for activity...whatever that may be....to meet someone, friendship or more? because we do HOPE to meet someone that just might take our breath away? I would rather have that chance to find the needle in the haystack than to close myself off from possibilities.

As far as profiles go...I read more men trying on the sappy, drippy crap that they could never produce in person. Most women do have that romantic streak and hope to literally be swept off their feet. I would like that too, but I still added everything I could in my novel of a profile LOL I guess I am too realistic to actually expect something like that, but a note in the lunchbox type of romance would be most welcome.

RE: The nice guy always finishes last!

Good women feel the same way. But time and again some jerk yanks the chain because they are a good woman and are honest and do want to trust. After the rug is pulled a few times, hard to believe there are any truly good men out there for them.

RE: GUY and looks

Thats great then....I guess I would like to look at my partner and think YUMMY in attraction physically and mentally...I don't mean drop dead model or anything like that...but attraction, that kind that gives you flutters in your tummy for the other person. If thats not there, why bother.

RE: GUY and looks

I did say as a rule...but sure, not EVERY time, exceptions to every rule LOL...BUT even still, if you do see her and there is NO physical attraction? What then...be realistic and honest.

I am too real for that and would not be able to fake my way through a relationship with someone I didn't feel those things for. I need the package deal, friendship and everything else that comes with it.

RE: Wearing a Ring

I wear a simple topaz and diamond ring on my ring finger, anyone with a brain would know its not a wedding ring...but on the other hand i do wear a wedding set, it was my grandmothers and wearing it makes me happy...i wouldnt wear one on the "wedding" finger to tell the lie of being married.

RE: GUY and looks

I agree totally, it is the same for me. Physical attraction IS part of a healthy relationship. Someone not so much can wiggle in through personality, but initial attraction (specially when using online pics as a guide) is the start as a rule. When I read people (men and women both) saying looks do not matter, throws me a red flag. Who they kiddin? I admit that looks and profile combined is what might compell me to write...YES I actually read the profiles!!! Some sort of physical attraction along with an honest profile...yummy.

RE: Has anyone met anyone who actually wants to go on a frickin date?

Yes they do actually meet!!!

I must say I am getting a giggle out of someone writing me today that I have NO interest in and have no interest in meeting, asking me of I am shy because I won't meet him or give him my number...I even said I would IF we became friends through emails and was looking for friendship only, nothing more. He asked for that in his first email and that is a HUGE turn off. Reminds me a bit of the "when NO means NO" thread. Needless to say, I am grateful for the block feature because he showed his truest colors. I do give him points for asking for coffee and not a bar date.

RE: Cat lovers thread

I did get your email so long ago...I didn't reply because it was when my daughter had died and I was in no mind to write anyone at the time.


I like kitty hugs and smooches

RE: Cat lovers thread

Just like any kitty....she comes back when she is good and ready LOL


long time no see miss cat...meow

RE: Has anyone met anyone who actually wants to go on a frickin date?

By that I simply mean....

I have an idea of what my mate should be like(moral values & etc), what the relationship as a whole should be like(loving, respectful of one another...). I do not mean that compromise is gone from the table, as long as neither of us has to compromise WHO we are. It means I won't settle for something less than love...as some might settle for mere companionship, friendship, security...whatever the case may be.

RE: Has anyone met anyone who actually wants to go on a frickin date?

I am REALLY 35 lol

I have gone out on a limb to date and try new things more than most. I run into the liars and oddballs...but I have not given up.

The genuine people out there, few and far between as they may be, just might not be the one for you. I think we become picky and even more so after having a few bad experiences.

I used to be more trusting and more willing to just fly by the seat of my pants, as the saying goes, to meet someone, to try...but now? Not so readily. I AM 35 and I know who I am, what I want out of life and love and I don't want to settle for less...if I am not impressed in one or two emails and one chat...I move on.

Soooooo...I am willing to date and I am lookin for exactly what I say...I have just become more skeptical in the process.