Instant and immediate trust is naive. The amount of jealousy should be relevant to the state of the relationship. If it is new, and building, jealousy is inappropriate. If it is established, and loving, jealousy shouldn't have a place. If it exists between the two states ... is it relevant? A warning that things aren't right?
I do know that when my chosen one got defensive, dismissive, or annoyed, I went, because I was no longer comfortable with the relationship or the way it made me feel.
I also know that there were ways of handling me that worked instantly. Not reassurance, just a wake-up call. Common sense, logic, that sort of stuff. So I've tried that. NOT working.
Going, going, gone. But I do appreciate the feedback, I was confused by the levels involved. Tricky one to judge.
Yup, to me too. I probably let it get too far, tbh, because I was a bit fascinated to see what it was like to be on the receiving end. I truly don't think I was ever like this, but a previous fella said he felt he had to be careful how he worded things. Eep. I feel terrible.
Mind you, previous fella did used to say things like he'd got a passionate message from a woman on the website who wanted to meet him. I do feel a flicker of interest is in order then. Bite me!
Ain't that the truth? No normal relationship is exclusive from day one. You spend time together because you want to, and you spend more and more time together if you want to, but you don't drop the rest of your life instantly, that would be weird.
Nearly all of August - Scotland's hottest and, sometimes, driest month. It is an experience, and everyone is either an actor, a comedian, in a show, or dressing to look as though they are
I always believed that if the relationship is solid, jealousy is stupid. If there's real cause for jealousy, walk away. Run away! (That's why I never considered myself jealous, I was never stressing about the relationship itself - or I was gone!)
Well, yeah. Constantly having to explain yourself, dread saying the wrong thing by accident, or even glancing at the good-looking guy in the corner because the Edinburgh Festival is on and he looks like an actor? (You probably don't do a lot of that last ...)
Brannigan, you broth of a boy, where are your lovely legs? Best legs in Ireland - or on CS, more likely. I am asking purely as a spectator as I am well out of your age bracket.
Never been as many babies born as between 1946 and 1964 - maybe we're all spoiled for choice and people don't take the first decent partner they can find because there's so many others out there?
No question. Nobody else's business. However, I think she is using the age thing as the polite way to avoid a relationship she doesn't really want. There IS some validity to not want to look like a joke in public. Can't live a full and normal life never going out together.
Yup, I can't see it working out myself. For me, I dated a bloke a fair bit older for a while and we found each other's friends seriously boring. Same thing, different direction.
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If that isn't there, no point in even discussing the issue ...
ta ever so 
How much jealousy is too much?
Perhaps the fact that he remained on a dating site actively encouraging other women to write to him made me feel unsettled. Pretty irrational, huh?