Oh aye, been there, done that. Always a shame when the distance is the only barrier, but the decision to close the gap is too heavy for the nature of the relationship.
Interesting, I thought they both looked their best in their forties and fifties. AND Dolly P, and for that matter Tina Turner. Stunning late bloomers, but yup, there's a pic of Goldie Hawn without makeup that's a bit scary. I'm up there age-wise myself, do like my 10p's worth of slap
She looks her age, not in a bad way, but not going to fool anyone she's 10 - or 20! - years younger than she is. I don't think she'd want to. Part of the problem.
Too glib, too glib. If it was only ever the two of them, and the outside world didn't matter, yes. But people love to judge, and mock, and make comments. Old guy, lovely young wife, phew, the jokes rocket around.
Cher and Joan Collins took some flak on their young men, and look how good they looked.
Back in the 80s, though, she was probably late 30s, maybe mid 40s? Its an age where women look pretty ageless. Did you ever get comments / odd looks, did they bother you if you did?
I worked with a guy who looked older than his age, and had a wife 17 years his junior. People constantly assumed she was his daughter, she thought it funny but it really curled him up.
And very silly comments, don't forget those! but every now and then a good thread will run for a while before the numpties crash it to the ground.
I was surprised to learn recently that some attack by private message as well. Charming. Not me, not yet, pity, I'd enjoy a verbal battle : as long as the other party was armed
Shouldn't really feel like effort, because once you are pushing something along it has pretty much lost its legs already and isn't going anywhere. Sometimes, maybe, best to accept that you've had everything that relationship can offer and should be backing off.
I know. SO much easier said than done. When something was good and still has potential, it seems worth trying but maybe only worth it when it was very, very good and even when that first whoosh has gone it is better than anything you had before. But then you both have to want it to work.
Sorry I have been away for a few days with limited access to media. And yes there is a lot of hostility on CS. Sometimes it makes it interesting, sometimes not so much
I would say yes. I didn't relish the ending, or expect it, but it gave me more confidence and a learning curve the next time will be real and I won't break it for the same pointless reasons!
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Believe it or not, not ALWAYS all about me. 
Still looking for a nice Scot, or did you find one?
you younger men, honestly.
When is an age difference too much?
She'd look great on a bike. No helmet required, either.