Elegsabiff Forum Posts (695)

Friends with benefits

That's the one. Scary stuff.

Friends with benefits

Glad to hear it

(scared you, huh?)

I did think most of the guys would be nodding wisely and saying it sounded like an excellent arrangement.

Friends with benefits

No such thing as a free lunch I just said much the same on your blog - although that wasn't a FwB offer. Well, not an honest upfront one ...

Friends with benefits

Nice profile, BTW. So you're being ambidextrous in your reply.

Friends with benefits

Hope he does, and is worth the wait

Friends with benefits

I did say the pretence

Friends with benefits

That's a never, then.

Friends with benefits

No strings at all. Call me conventional, but I'm more used to relationships where there is at least the pretence of caring. The honesty is refreshing, though

Friends with benefits

Friends with benefits

I'm scared of exactly that. That I might be the one ending up wanting more, with someone I already KNOW isn't right for me in any other way! Playing with matches.

Friends with benefits

I'm no traffic-stopper but even I've had two offers from guys I know socially. One is 58, one is 47. The 58-year-old first made his offer over a year ago, repeated at regular intervals. Any time. Just pitch up. (We have NOTHING in common.) He has never had, and doesn't want, a serious long-term relationship. He is apparently a genius in bed.

The 47-year-old is newly out of a relationship, doesn't want to plunge straight into another, or start the Oh Darling crap to get what he wants. He's been a friend for a while, we get on well, and he suggested we could be of mutual benefit to each other.

First reaction? You must be joking
Second reaction? You have a point. Not a great one, but a point
Third reaction? No, but ask me again in 3 months ... Of course I'm hoping they'll both be happily fixed up by then, and not as persistent.

Of course I am.

RE: For that 1 special someone:What 5 items wud u bring on a dessert island if u were with me?

leave the computer. You go. There's at least one yacht heading that way.

RE: Why a man try to win his woman back?

YES. Same circumstances, same problems. Also comes down to whether there was anything special there in the first place. If there was, it is worth trying. If there wasn't, it isn't.

What makes a friend a friend?

Comment I saw on FB today - you see a person's true colours when you are no longer beneficial to their life.

So true.

What makes a friend a friend?

What makes a friend a friend?

Lottierose and Lannna - yes!

What makes a friend a friend?

Aha, got you. To me brutally honest is someone telling me I look like hell at a time when my confidence is fairly shaky anyway. Or telling me my chances of success (love, writing, job-hunting, whatever) are statistically close to zero. Things that may be true, hell that we all know are true, but friends that slam that out can hurt far more than enemies! A friend is someone who has your back, not someone who knifes you in it because you trusted them and didn't protect yourself.

What makes a friend a friend?

Yours is a rare friendship and no, not a sane woman living would take a beating for you. We're not wired that way. Genetic programming. Women can and do offer fundamental rock-level stuff, but that's not really a friendship remit, more a relationship one.

What makes a friend a friend?

That's the worst thing about coming from another country - ALL my best friends are thousands of miles away. Thank heavens for phones and Skype but I don't see where you were brutal - or do you mean she was, about wanting to go?

What makes a friend a friend?

Old joke if you go swimming in shark-infested waters with a friend - carry a sharp knife, and if a hungry shark pitches up, nick your friend with the knife. Then you don't need to outswim the shark - just your friend.

I suppose it becomes important to have a stock of disposable friends.

What makes a friend a friend?

Rain and CC - brutally honest / tactfully honest - um, which? Quite a difference! Brutal is brutal by definition.

What makes a friend a friend?

YES. Getting some ace definitions!

What makes a friend a friend?

Yerrsssss - true, when you ask for honest. Someone who is brutally honest when honesty is the last thing you want or need is more of an enemy ...

But sure, to a lot of people a friend is someone who is nice all the time. True friends never let you face anything bad on your own - they got your back, they're always there when needed. Not just to massage your ego, either.

What makes a friend a friend?

Never ever lend a friend money. Give, yes, and never think of it again. Never lend.

RE: What type of bum appeals to you

Firm with a bit of shape to it. that's one you missed.

What makes a friend a friend?

I'm not even the same person in all my relationships. No dishonesty to it (I don't think) but friendships are built on different ground. I'm goofy with a friend who dates back to my teens, a good listener with others, source of sage advice for others. I do like the goofy friends, though

What makes a friend a friend?

That's when you find the real ones, for sure

What makes a friend a friend?

Mine was supposed to be a Disguise.

What makes a friend a friend?

You left the light on the stairs on.

No need to close the curtains. I like to live vicariously.

What makes a friend a friend?