uhh i dont think lucky meant harm to Dknew. Both of them have their views which is respectable. I think lucky was trying to discuss what Dan said from his perspective by asking a question. I dont think he meant to assume or attack.
So .. i think its all ok. Everybodys opinion is welcome and valuable.
hmm i guess they were being nice and maybe even honest . They are your friends so it could be either ways .. just to comfort or real .
But whats important is it shouldnt make u sad.
I get asked the what if sort of questions many times and my answer is simple .. you can never say today what you would have done if ... whatever it is was different ...
I believe in fairytales and i that they can happen. Neednt be illusionary eggshells. Its all inside you really to live it or to not.
But as for a stare .. an appreciative stare automatically brings a smile. But usually i know what a stare is implying so i might accidentally stare back but nope no following up ... dont much enjoy that kind of attention.
Frankly, If its a guy i am meeting and i like i dont usually make eye contact as i really dont want to read his mind so soon ..
I think so too . Love comes in various forms thro different people in our life.
But a persons life per se neednt be revolved or focussed around that relationship. We all have a purpose in life either known to us or not yet known or maybe something of our own ( if one doesnt believe in god ) apart form all this.
Not many people are ready to dedicate themselves entire to work a relationship. It needs to be nurtured just like a sapling to grow. But the subconscious awareness of the availability of " options " makes a person lax in one way or the other and things wither.
So .. I do think to love and be loved is important but the purpose of our life IMO is not just that. But a relationship that enable you to grow together even spiritually is the kind of relationship to die for.
hmm what i am trying to say is often i feel people risk everything be it financially , emotionally , comfort of their own place ( where they live ) .. to find love or be with the other person.
Now i do understand compromising and working to find and keep that special person. But it is not the only or say most important purpose we have in life as people. There ought to be a higher purpose which differs for each person as the reason we live.
I believe that involvements of any kind ought to be very selective. Every time u put yourself out there , a part of you gets eroded if its painful in the end.
One needs to know what they want and then venture into a relationship. So , rebound or not If it is special it will be just that and maybe become more ...
I have always preferred friends to remain friends . Even the slightest hint of growing affection would scare me and i would run ..
But i do believe the best relationships have a strong foundation of friendship. When you plan to share such a vital part of you with another person , Its essential that you understand each other as people and have the relation of a " friendship " which is unconditional to go on further from there ...
So .. keep your eyes open and be careful and tread smartly. It could be shes soooo upset , this is a passing phase or it could be this is a side of her which she hasnt been able to express ...
Sooooo ..... head on the shoulders and one step forward ..
I remember what you have said for me a couple of times even today .. it means a lot ...
Thankyou
I dont know .. its difficult when there are cultural differences with people .. I find myself feeling stupid so many times or rather over careful or careless. I am not even sure if i am doing the right things cos i dont believe in following some rule book but my heart with honesty.
riyablossom Forum Posts (11,244)
not everyone but quite a few people convey the message thro their eyes pretty well.
but how will i understand u ... 
Is it sooo important to find love in life ?? to be happy and feel life is worthwhile ..