I think its a lot of fear and a bit of insecurity due to being online which prevents a lot of potential matches from happening ...... plus the ego and hurt issues . It is but obvious that no one would wish to go thro the same pain again and again.
I think people who are seriously looking should maybe be more open and take the chance of getting to know the other person while being active on the forums and see where things lead. Maybe even take the lead in dropping a hint that they like that other person. The worst outcome would be she / he would decline the interest. One can always be the best of friends even then.
Personally i would appreciate immensely in someone the ability to stand his ground and stand by me through the toughest and best times. Its very easy to escape thro the closest window ( ) when things are rough or not smooth sailing. Its not always going to be rosy. If those times dont make him want to make the easier choice and look for someone else .. then .. you know ..
Everything boils down to one simple thing .. the need to feel and actually be loved.
Sometimes certain incidents in life scar people so badly that no amount of truth or help can actually pull them out of the miserable viscious circle. Its easy to blame the one going thro' it as being inconsiderate , defiant or irresponsible inspite of being an adult . That what most people do ( this is in general and not wrt your sister Mark ). I think there lies a bruised child deep inside each of those adults who have lost themselves somewhere along the way.
Just cos they are adults, their ego works in a different way to satisfy the needs or feelings cos they have to behave in a certain way but which eventually comes across not very satisfactory.
I do think love is the cure to many problems but not many have the patience for unconditional giving . its immense sacrifice and hardwork. Not many would be willing to go thro' a test yet again in life.
In her case , I wish she would have found someone who would love her so much that she healed of her past. Her future would begin to fall in place once she comes out of the dark. Neednt be a spouse or a man in her life. It could be family , friends , anyone. But then again, she should be willing to receive it.
RE: how many people have fell in love with another person on this site?
I think its a lot of fear and a bit of insecurity due to being online which prevents a lot of potential matches from happening ...... plus the ego and hurt issues . It is but obvious that no one would wish to go thro the same pain again and again.I think people who are seriously looking should maybe be more open and take the chance of getting to know the other person while being active on the forums and see where things lead. Maybe even take the lead in dropping a hint that they like that other person. The worst outcome would be she / he would decline the interest. One can always be the best of friends even then.
So .... one step forward people ...