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RE: Dating Mistakes

RE: Dating Mistakes

Confussion indeed. Had I known what her timeline on children was, I'd have never have gone there. She has a right to enjoy that side of things, but I just wasn't prepared to start a relationship knowing that in about 2 years, she'd be wanting to start a family.

As for other matters, they became superfluous once she finally clarified the above matter.

It seemed to me irresponsible to continue looking into a relationship with her knowing of her desire for children, and within the timeline she had in mind.

So, it was right to end it there and then.

I hope she finds what she's looking for elsewhere.

RE: What are you listening to.......#18?

That guy is freakin' hillarious!


Elis Regina - O Mestre-Sala Dos Mares

RE: Dating Mistakes

Clearly this girl was focussed on having kids and was mindful of her age and the mounting difficulties if she allowed too much time to pass.

I kinda needed time to get my feet...to enjoy the whole process. I mean, there's no deadlines, and you can't force it...or so I thought.

I was kinda struck by the clarity offered by her for the original statement of her being "willing to compromise".

I mean, a couple of years? Jeez, what would her attitude be if she weren't be prepared to 'compromise'?

My timeline of 4-5 years was unsatisfactory it seemed.

Oh well...I hope she has her family in a couple of years.

RE: What are you listening to.......#18?

Elis Regina - Menino Das Laranjas

RE: Dating Mistakes

Spot on.

I faced a situation were a girl said she was prepared to compromise. So I thought, ok, sounds reasonable.

Turned out her compromise was to wait a couple of years.

Biological clock and all....late 30's you see.

Well, I understood and saw no future. Happy for her to find her happiness with somebody like minded in that department.

I thought that was reasonable.

RE: Who was the best Rocker Singer Ever, from the list below!

I went for Ian Gillan...full range AND power.

I like Lou Gramm also.

RE: Politics and Religion

It seems some like to think Nicea was the birth of Christianity.

Easy mistake...it was the beginning of a nasty disease that's still rampant.

Great posts dude!

RE: Dating Mistakes

That's why I've always had 98-99.

RE: Dating Mistakes

Within the next couple of years...sorta quick time...age issues.


Compromises aside, still way too much pressure way too soon.

RE: Its Friday night, and im stuck on base

I keep reading the thread title and thinking it's "I can't get past first base".

RE: How useful is a woman that can't cook in a relationship?

RE: Dating Mistakes

Never had a shocker...can't complain.

Too much chat about ex partners is never a good idea though...I find that very tiresome.

Also, if she's poorly groomed.

RE: What are you listening to.......#18?

Elis Regina - O Morro Nao Tem Vez

RE: yippppeee! R U Happy?

Spring is here...my back is recovering nicely, finally, and by golly I'm gonna have me some fun.

RE: Who left the other in your last relation?

Once I was gently let down...although left with the impression it was mutual. Kind girl...few years ago now.

The other 1,274 women, I've made it known I wasn't happy and discussed it with them, or simply stated there's no future for various reasons...kids etc.

Not really a question of who left who, but only once I've regretted such a parting.

RE: Say something to someone,no need to name names..

Madame, your implement is admonishing me!

RE: WOULD YOU GO ON DATE WITH ABOVE PERSON ????

RE: why do some people just like 2 dis others on CS

It's easier to blame others than accept responsibility for our own errors.

People will always use the threads for such purposes...and what's worse - they'll always have a lil group of sychophants to back 'em up.

RE: Say something to someone,no need to name names..

The phase of your hallucinations reminds me of those balmy days when the championship mould was breeding, when the fish were long, and so were the valued floats of men we drank through narrow straws...

RE: The surrealism compliment generator...

Your face does bend even the most anorexic mirror into a sensuous playground of muscular spasms.

RE: The surrealism compliment generator...

The expansion (and resultant rapid cooling) of your consecrated culotte sings the golden turnip with the mulatto touch-typist in my pants.

RE: how many of us have had a visitation

The Mormons keep finding me...how?

RE: Do you judge people before you get to know them?

Many of us do it from time to time. I just try to see the good wherever possible...even those people I may not agree with.

Disliking people uses too much energy...waaaaay too much.

RE: True Love's Kiss

Give it time...distance yourself...it's for your own good.

Hard...oh yes.

RE: What do you do to deal with your frustration/anger?

Anger = momentary madness. Not good.

I try to rationalize...to reason with myself as Ooby suggests in his fine post.

RE: Why beg to be hurt!

So what's your solution mate?

RE: Who do you think will win the english premiership?

It's between United and Chelsea.

My money's on United.

RE: decribe your life partner in one word ? ????

...and more...hopefully.

RE: whats ur favourite book

1984 was brilliant, but utterly depressing, as was Farenheit 451. Too much reverberates.