I suppose the e-world allows for the more timid to be more expressive while able to feel a lil more 'protected'. I think this is a positive.
However, as you say, it can and does lead to highly inaccurate personality projection in many instances...meet many of the folks we may disagree with on these forums, and I reckon we'd actually get on rather well, because the bottom line is - this is a very limited means of communicaton.
On the other hand, I recently had the pleasure of meeting a couple of members of CS who seemed unable to seperate e-reality from actual reality, with one taking great offence because I couldn't recognize her in real life from her pictures here.
'Tis a noble aim...but in conveying such a unique message, skill is needed...it's like teaching a foreign language...gotta make it as accessible as possible.
Resistance is part and parcel of self control...something I try to manifest while failing miserably.
I smoke. It's a vice...a filthy, unhealthy and expensive habit...beyond stoopid. I really wish I didn't. I'm trying not to.
I love chocolate eclairs...friggin' love 'em. But too many have left me with a lil extra...
Self control is essential...especially when considering how we're bombarded by the media to buy this...to be that...to do the other. And a person able to control various urges will make a genuine and trustworthy companion I'll venture to suggest.
And yes, on a moral plain, I deny myself. Prior mistakes have left me under the impression that it's much more healthful to mind, body and spirit to exercise self restraint.
Seriously though, lack of quality sleep is such a huge problem...we can cope with so much in normal circumstances, but not if we endure a lack of sleep.
May go down the homeopathic route...that is if this new exercise and diet thingy doesn't bear fruits.
Morning Leo & Morgan. Me got big sleep issues but have awoken refreshed as a result of a pill induced slumber. But hell, at least I feel ok.
Currently starting a pretty severe diet and exercise regime...and I'm feeling much better...healthier. But jeez, as of now my mind is still racing even when I'm totally knackered and trying to sleep.
Gonna try essential oils also methinks...and then loadsa wine.
I'm not sure any of us knows ourselves well enough when it comes to the prickly question of what it is we want, or perhaps more pertinently, what we need from a partner.
Jeez, it's a lottery...and even more uncertain when we consider that different people bring out different qualities in us better than others, and vice verca.
Phew!
Timing is sooooo important also. We could meet somebody special but, at a really bad time in our lives....
I go with the flow generally speaking...but look for certain 'core' values and allow myself the indulgence of one or two more superficial preferences.
Certainly, if there's the slightest hint of narrow mindedness, hubris or pomposity...I'll very quickly beat a retreat.
Pentium, cool down sir! Your approach seems just a tad adversarial.
Friendship exists between the commited personel of the healthy relationship, but it's just more intense and involves many more components.
As for the individuals making up a monogamous relationship, you may have your own ideas, but I see two distinct personalities with similar goals and outlooks, bonding in order to reach those goals.
It's simple...and it's healthy. It's certainly what I'm looking for!
Communities have existed using these general principles for centuries up until the last few hundred years, excluding feudalism of course. Many African tribes operate using similar principles...and no doubt there are many others scattered throughout the earth, even though it is 2008.
Listen, it's not the exactitude of it all...it's the healthfullness of the principles.
The very fact that we presume (and not without good reason) that it was better way back then indicates a desire to simplify is seen as the best way forward.
You know, I've thought of my ideal lifestyle Riya, and it revolves around simple living...working the land to provide for my family...bartering rather than selling...and bartering time also...to help build someones house or mend a roof - you get the picture.
That sort of existence I could really enjoy. I wouldn't miss music, tv, or any of the modern conveniences. Because in my opinion, they detract from us enjoying what is naturally provided all about us...and dull the senses to boot.
No money...no bills...no working for an employer. Contact with your neighbours every now and again...but mainly, time...sweet time for your family and friends.
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But too many have left me with a lil extra...
But hell, at least I feel ok.
RE: Being "more" open and expressive
Well observed!I suppose the e-world allows for the more timid to be more expressive while able to feel a lil more 'protected'. I think this is a positive.
However, as you say, it can and does lead to highly inaccurate personality projection in many instances...meet many of the folks we may disagree with on these forums, and I reckon we'd actually get on rather well, because the bottom line is - this is a very limited means of communicaton.
On the other hand, I recently had the pleasure of meeting a couple of members of CS who seemed unable to seperate e-reality from actual reality, with one taking great offence because I couldn't recognize her in real life from her pictures here.
Oh well...