In all honesty, someone that can make me laugh and allow me to be myself.
Looks are not that important to me although the chemistry has to be there.
Someone who is a hard worker , as I am. Someone who doesn’t work I just wouldn’t get along with.
Someone who has experienced lifes pitfalls, and has had the ability to pick themselves up and move on, and look at the future with optimism.
Someone who listens when I have a problem or need to express something of concern, not just brush it off.
Someone I can stand in the kitchen with having a glass of wine or similar together while I’m cutting the onions, he is heating up the frypan, someone who is just in sync with me and I with him.
Someone that enjoys a drink, but knows when to stop.
Someone that has a heart and feels others pain as much as their own.
You know Normal this is not the first time someone has poured their heart out, shared some of their own life experience with you, and you have turn't it around to be a woman issue, or turn't it around so it brings attention back to you.
What these stories are trying to do, is open you mind that the majority of us suffer hurt in a variety of way, and in some the same ways as you are yourself.
Hurt makes you suffer, Anger makes you suffer more. Anger as I've said before will only eat YOU alive. I enjoy your posts the majority of the time. You have sparked up the forums in spite of what other might think, you have held in there after copping a lot of flack.
What I don't admire in people, is the inability not to understand or acknowledge someone elses, hurt, fear, sadness etc when it is so obviously real.
I do believe the opinions some of us have shared with you, you may be taking on board although not acknowledging that.
But your reply to freominx was really uncalled for. What you fail to understand Normal is you are not the only person that has suffered a traumatic event during their life, a lot can offer advice to you, as they have and are only offering what has helped THEM............I'd say thats a nice thing for everyone to do.
The day you wake up and see, you are not alone, you are not the only one who has suffered, you are not the only one that has experienced fear, you are not the only one that has had their heart broken, you may, just may start knocking down the wall of female hatred you have established.
The saddest part of some of your posts Normal is a lot of us see the road you are on, and if you don't take a turn for the better soon, that road will continue to be a bad one. That is what a lot are trying to get through to you.
None can change anyone, at the moment all you can do is maybe take some advice from people, at the end of the day what you do with that is your choice.
You fail to see someone putting their heart on their sleeve and sharing with you, is an admirable thing not a bad thing.
The best way to make yourself feel better, is by making someone else feel good. And those that have often suffered the most end up the nicest people, because what is often a major thing to someone else, is a petty thing to them.
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