I'm definitely a maybe since I've been invited to this little get together by a special little lady. I've been away from this site for a while so some of you may remember me and some may not...but I do know that everyone was great when I was here frequently. If I don't have any conflicts I'll be there... just now getting back to work so things are a bit tight and I've been overwhelmed with things to do on weekends for a while now.
Despite all the heartache and pain of past relationships we can find happiness in knowing our accomplishments while the relationships existed. This past thanksgiving I was very well over the separation and traumatic experience of gf deserting me. I was going to be alone during the holidays which I had never in my life been alone before. Yet, I sat at the computer and typed out a simple letter letting her know that it was thanksgiving and that despite my hurt and pain I found great joy in remembering the 4 1/2 years we had been so happy together. To this day I do not harbor ill feelings for her and have found new interests in a direction away from pursuing her in any way. Just knowing I can find joy in knowing I accomplished many good things and had a very good life with her has made me happy. Now, I'm very happy that she has a new life with her family and I'm faring much better in my own endeavors and being alone has finally become a happy and joyful time when I can concentrate on the things that make me happy. Getting out of the rut of thinking I can't live alone has brought a whole new joy to my life.
yes...that is very true....but then the point of the post is that maybe there could be one topic for threads which are intended solely for seriously looking people and not merely for chit chat of those who are ONLY for the forums. Actually, most of the people I IM with and exchange emails with are ladies who are married and in a serious relationship already... we are only friends and quite open and helpful with each other in our discussions and have absolutely no intention of meeting.
Lots of people on these date sites are misleading and in reality are using them as the local watering hole for discussion. Supposedly the purpose of these forums is to assist in people meeting so they can date and hook up. But, you can find a large number of people who simply come here to meet friends, kill time, and play. Lots are wasting time of people who are very seriously wanting to find a mate or simply a date. Maybe there should be a way to separate them in various discussions/meeting places...maybe filter out those looking for just friends or email ... possibly could apply to intimate encounters as many of us are actually hoping to find a serious relationship as our ultimate goal.
As for IM's and communicating on the internet...that is absolutely my #1 pet peeve. I get into chats with females who will have a pile of chats going at the same time....definitely a put down. If I'm not worth her full undivided attention then she gets less important to me very quick. It is definitely rude in my opinion.
Another is the ones who jerk me around and make b.s. excuses. I was supposed to meet a lady for brunch today... "you're sending me mixed signals"... totally stupid to me... We were supposed to be meeting, not debating the quality of her understanding. The next signal I sent was not at all mixed...it was direct "FORGET IT!" I give respect and expect it in return...is that too much to ask?
Just gotta do what ya gotta do to make it work. I know that I've totally enjoyed relationships that we didn't spend much time together but had total trust and commitment. Then I distinctly remember one that we were totally inseparable. I know that the one(s) I loved the most were the ones in which I was so anxious to see her. I would get excited (not aroused....) when it was time to be with her even if it was only to be in the same room. I just loved being together.
I'm by far much better at it than in times past...but it still hurts when I've become attached. I have no problem letting go... it's dealing with the feelings that overcome me that is the problem... I'm the one who hurts like hell...but I do nothing to make HER hurt. To me that's what's important...not interfering with the other person... nothing you do can make someone love you and to try to do so is futile...time wasted... just suck up the pain..suffer through it and go on. I've done it, didn't like it, but I'm willing to do it again if that's what I have to do to know love again.
Call me anything you want to... I won't even date a woman who has nothing going for her. Either she's going to work or she had better get her work clothes on and get ready to go to work with me. I'm not looking for someone to lay up while I bring in the bacon. I certainly do not expect her to support me....no free lunches at this house. Most of the women I've dated make more money than I do. I just spend far less and do almost all of my own work..
I don't have one simply because I know for a fact that I can and will use one. I own several but none are in my house. Unless I was attacked by surprise I would not need one. If someone else has one pointed at me then me having one is probably not going to do any good....so, what's the use... I've got a mean sling shot, a big dog, and I'm pretty handy with self defense and martial arts. I've got enough tricks that I don't feel the need for a gun. If I had one somebody would probably take it away from me and hurt me with it.
Unlike many, I've never been injured or hospitalized to a near death extent. I've had a few events in my life that I seriously faced the possibility of death. One for sure was a life changing experience. I was much younger then and life was something I truly feared losing. It is the experience which convinced me there is a God. I'm not a religious person but do have a strong belief and faith. None of that has any bearing on my outlook on death & dying. I have no desire to die but I do believe that when it happens I will welcome it. It could be that I've watched a few people suffer for a very long time before dying. I've watched my mom wither away for the past few years and know that it is a horrible experience for her and know she will welcome it when it happens. I'll be very happy for her and not sad. I've already lost her to Alzheimer's and pray that I don't go out that way.
Defman...hang in there. Huntsville is not all that far away from me... maybe one day we'll just have a big party and invite the whole crowd. I've got several neighbors who live in the Decatur/Huntsville area (I'm on smith lake...all vacation homes around me)....
I don't know who did it...but they guy who did Stairway to heaven has a vote... there are so many really good pickers that IMO there is no best one....depends on the mood and what kind of music one feels like listening to. I think Willie Nelson is fantastic but I know some who said that Roy Clark was the best.... I do a really good job on some things I do that no one else can do...but I only know a few riffs and a few songs..but I'm good at what I do know.
i can relate for sure.... took me near 3 months before I felt half way comfortable out of the house. I didn't want to go anywhere that I knew anyone. I just wanted new people and wanted the security of having someone with me when I did go out in public. Fortunately I ran into a very old friend from many years back. Had seen him only once in 30 years or more. We met up and went out to a bar & grill then met up later to go to a bowling alley with pool tables where we now go regularly. It's an out of the way place in a small city where there's quite a few people and many are strangers to each other...so we fit in. Just getting the feel of being out without the s.o. is a very good adjustment. I've had a couple of different dates at the same place and totally enjoyed their company while shooting pool. I'm not much of a pool player but it's relatively cheap and I love just getting out there with friends. It seems to be something I was really missing in life before. I live in a very isolated place and seldom see people so these little outings have become extremely desirable and important to me. I'd love to find even more new and good places to go. I've even invited old dates to bring their new boyfriends along just so I could be around friends again. Getting to know more and more people ....although slowly... just by being active on some of the date sites.
All this philosophy is crap. Fear is necessary. Without it we would jump at anything. It is a safety mechanism in our psyche. If you don't have some fear in everything you do you will never know your limitations... Remember Clint Eastwood?... "man must know his limitations..." I'm like many many people...been hurt several times in relationships and always when it gets good then I begin to fear that it won't stay good...then if I do get hurt I realize the fear and the pain that sometimes follows...but, it does not stop me from going for it again... no pain, no gain. I've had ladies tell me they didn't want to hurt me... my inner thoughts just say "hurt me baby! hurt me!"..... if I don't at least give it a chance then I'll never know what may have been.... is that philosophical enough? From the words of Abe Lincoln, I learned to work but never learned to like it....so, my words.. I've learned what pain is, I've never learned to like pain...but I know that without it and without the fear and taking that chance I'll never accomplish anything.
Forgive and forget are things we've been taught to do merely to remain civil and to regain the relationships we knew and held dear to us. Without the willingness to forgive and forget then we choose to cut off any possibility of continuing the happiness or relationships we had. This only leaves us to start from scratch on one hand but to face the facts that separating ourselves from others for differences or transgressions can limit our opportunities with other people. Sometimes very difficult to choose which path to take. Just replacing the memories with new experiences is one part of healing from the pain caused by the person who is to be forgiven.
What is power if you are disarmed? You are not a warrior if no one will step down to fight you. You were not awarded your self-appointed status for your achievements. For this, are you deluding yourself in believing that your religious spoutings make you somebody? You are nothing if you have to prove yourself to everybody as to be somebody of importance you have to gain the love and respect of them by your works and not by your domination. You can not dominate those who turn their back on you and do not acknowledge your words or existence. If you take things without being given them and destroy lives only to gain posessions or power then you are no more than a common thief and murderer, not a warrior or a king, and certainly not a god.
Yep... I did...eventhough we are no longer together it has nothing to do with where I found her and I will always remember the love we had and the life we had together. Hopefully, it will not be a problem when or if I am totally immersed in another relationship. I've met women on buses, in classes, in restaurants (my 1st ex was a waitress) and while out working on jobs (my second was a customer) and in church (my 3rd was in my sunday school class and had been to high school together). So, I'm firmly convinced that you can meet a love anywhere. Holding onto and sustaining that love is what makes it eternal.
somewhere between nothing and zero on some days... but every day I can find something else I do appreciate about not having someone to worry about approving my every move...then wish I had someone to do all the things for me that makes me feel complete...
I use one totally bogus and evasive email address solely for date sites. The name included in the i.d. has absolutely no relationship to me or my real name... when I email or IM on YM people wonder who in the hell "demetrius" is...... When it gets to full of junk I'll create another and notify anyone who I want to know a new address. One old yahoo address I had for business gets over 1,000 emails per day and I haven't used it in over a year.
can't tell you much about the word but I can break it down somewhat.. pneumo...of or relating to the lungs/respiratory system/brachii no... ultra... greater or super microscopic... too small to be seen with the naked eye silico...of or related to silica (sand) volcano...obviously something from a volcano con....latin or spanish for "with" iosis...a disease
So..to me it sounds like some crap somebody made up to say that some dude crawled down into a volcano, inhaled some sand that screwed up his lungs...and it was probably microscopic particles floating around in the air which the silica dust irritated the lungs and caused pneumonia like symptoms and maybe even open lesions in the lungs or bronchial tubes.... just my guess.
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RE: CS Get-together Picnic, Norris Dam Park, Knoxville, TN, Saturday, August 16th
I'm definitely a maybe since I've been invited to this little get together by a special little lady. I've been away from this site for a while so some of you may remember me and some may not...but I do know that everyone was great when I was here frequently. If I don't have any conflicts I'll be there... just now getting back to work so things are a bit tight and I've been overwhelmed with things to do on weekends for a while now.