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RE: Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ?

Well you owe it to them not too... .... being single is ok if that is all a person is capable of for the moment...

RE: Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ?

Me too!!! ... think I am a pretty good catch.. if I do say so myself ha ha

Hiya Claayer

RE: Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ?

True Really Nice Guy... thats another thing my Pastor said.. about marriage.. he said that people shouldn't consider marrying unless they are ready.. he said we should ask ourselves honestly..... 'would I marry me? or let my brother/sister marry me??'.. we have to be healthy in ourselves and capable of such a commitment.. and ready to be selfless....

good post!!

RE: TRUE FRIENDSHIP

My best friend is like a sister to me... truly I feel the same for her that I do for my sister... we have even booked each other for our weddings.. she is going to be one of my bridesmaids and I am going to be one of hers.. we have been through some testing times.. but the genuine love is there..I would climb mountains for that girl (like I would for any of my family) so true friendship is a bit like adopting another family member.. who you love unconditionally and will be honest with and be capable of coming through tough times with... also you need fun too, similar outlook and sense of humour.... we are sooo alike... can finish each others sentences

RE: Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ?

Ooops forgot this...

RE: TRUE FRIENDSHIP

Ha ha... u r just TOO good Riya ...

Next thread!!......

RE: Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ?

Ha Ha.. thanks Mano

RE: Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ?

Hiya Manilito.. u just reminded me of something my Pastor said on Sunday evening.. we had a talk about relationships.. it makes alot of sense... he said we should 'date' with out eyes wide open, and commit with our eyes slightely closed.. and he said it was irresponsible for people to begin a relationship with someone, unless they are sure that there is a potential for distance.. he said that we have a responsibility to other peoples hearts... and it would not be fair for us to leave others hearts in shreds..

that makes sense to me.. particularly the 'eyes wide open' bit.. cause at the early stages of romance, we tend to want to fit that person into a box which we have fashioned, because our judgement is clouded... this is a mistake we all make I think... and the consequence is that we (unintentionally) hurt others and ourselves

So the fundamentals.. the non-negotiables need to be present in an individual before we consider dating them.. but at the same time.. judging on superficial things like looks and wealth etc.. may mean that we miss all the wonderful treasures in a person without giving them a chance... that why I think it makes perfect sense to be 'friends' first..

... good to see ya postin

RE: Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ?

:hiya: Philipa.. It's no harm to have certain 'non-negotiables'.. so not such a bad thing.. its just that people in general have lots of hidden treasures that you don't necessarily see straight away... well thats where most of my treasures are anyway

RE: Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ?

RE: Are we being a bit too picky , selective or cautious ?

I agree.. we should try and go with our gut more and take a chance... not rush into things.. just give someone a chance.. afterall it is not the superficial qualities that are important at the end of the day.. IMO.. it is the person and their essence which you fall in love with at the end of the day....

Hiya Riya

RE: Marriage...whats the point???

me too.. dunno about girls.. but guys can get a bit lazy about commitment when they have all they need on a plate... If I live with someone again it will be someone who wants to be with me for life.. and me him

RE: Marriage...whats the point???

hiya honey!!

RE: Marriage...whats the point???

Oh... I didn't realise.. but yeah I agreee... when you think about it even in friendships and family there will be challenges and tough times, and we will fall out with eachother... but in most cases we can mend the relationship... what makes a romantic relationship so different? why do we have such impossible expectations of eachother... a relationship is a relationship isn't it.. and they all need work and commitment on BOTH sides...

Hiya Portiea

RE: Texas Children.

Oslo... just think for a moment, how traumatic this would be for the children.. it is not GOOD for children to take these things lightly.. this is why I favour the intervention approach first... do you remember ur first day of school and how scary it was to be without your parents for one whole day (and that was even with all of the plamausing and attention that they gave you).. imagine been taken from your parents and put into a home with stranger and not knowing why... and imagine if they were WRONG... and also imagine how long it would take you to get over that trauma... it really isn't that simple... but I do understand your concern... I deal in these kinds of cases.. it really isn't that simple...

RE: Is it possible to be happy?

RE: Texas Children.

Hmmm there seems to be an all or nothing rule being applied here.... either all fires ablazing gung ho!! or send them back to a potentially dangerous environment unsupervised.. am I getting this wrong??

In this jurisdiction there are a number of different levels of intervention which can take place, the lowest form would be a supervision order, this is an order which enables welfare services to work with the family, interview them, have them assessed kind of thing.. in many cases a report is prepared for the court to consider, on the basis of this report they would then consider whether to a) continue supervision, remove the children and allow supervised access, or remove the children altogether... due process is ESSENTIAL because when you consider removing a child from a home, you are considering the lessor of two evils, because to a child who loves his or her parents it is agony.. even if the parent sucks... not to mention potential anguish to innocent parents...

I agree on one level with the SC's decision, however there situation may warrant intervention or supervision of some degree.. JMV

RE: Marriage...whats the point???

So do I... the strongest marriages can survive the hardest turbulence... My Aunt and Uncle went through tough times.. he had been drinking alot and she grew wary... once the kids had grown up she seriously thought about having an affair with this guy that was showing her the attention that she felt she was missing.. anyway she did leave him.. but it was the kick up the butt he needed.. he cleaned up his act, and they got back together.. they are now like two teenagers in love.. a good marriage is worth fighting for...



Hiya Chris and Portiea

WHAT CONSTITUTES...

Great post!!! ... this is the kind of stuff I was hoping to see.. because beauty IMO is sooo much more that the outside.. I know that seems like a cliche... but I believe this to be true... my Bro married a women who is older than him.. and by conventional standards a bit large.. shall we say.. I remember when he first met her thinking it was a bit odd, cause my brother is very good looking (or at least was )... but as soon as we got to know her, we could all totally understand what he sees in her.. she has a real sweetness about her, almost childlike in a way, and she is really warm and caring.. plus she exudes this real sense of peace, so she has this kind of calming influence on all in her presence.. not to mention she is intelligent and fun etc.. etc.. not all would think it I'm sure.. but I think he hit the Jackpot.. and got himself a very beautiful girl indeed

WHAT CONSTITUTES...

Good post.. thanks for your reply

Being a Christian....

This is my gut feeling too Stress.. excellent post.. I definitely think there is purpose... and I believe in connectivity... I am not even sure I can put into words all my thoughts on this (possibly not helped by the fact that I am not long up ).. but there is a very definite pattern to our existence.. a purpose.. we are evolving.. collectively... some months ago I posted portions of an article called 'evolution of the soul' I think you would like it.. remind me later and will get the name for you..

RE: your signs best match

I learned that I should take my time.. suss guys out before I consider dating them... they are not always what they seem.. my role? I took them at face value.. that was my mistake...

RE: dont poison the life of a person

Very nice.. and very true

RE: Canadian forums

Being a Christian....

Our personal judgment of 'ourselves' is part of free will and choice.. of course we have to have a role in that.. it is the judging of others which we are not entitled to do...

Jesus would have forgiven Charles Manson and not judged him.. if he was repentant and accepted God into his life (sincerity required of course) he would have been as entitled to salvation as the rest of us...

RE: God is exist?

Jesus, I love you. Jesus, I love you.
Who: Mother Teresa (Sept 5, 1997)
Notes: Sister Nirmala Joshi recalled, "Just hours before her death, Mother Teresa spoke about the Little Flower, St. Therese. She has just been declared a ‘Doctor of the Church’ by Pope John Paul II. Her last words are: "Can you imagine, for doing little things with great love, the Church is making her a Doctor, like St. Augustine and the big St. Teresa! It is just like Jesus said in the Gospel to the one who was seated in the lowest place: "Friend, come up higher." St. Therese's last words were quite similar, "Oh, I love him; my God, I love you".

this is all I could find.. on a Wikipedia 'last words' site...

RE: God is exist?

Where did you source that information from?/?

RE: your signs best match

I dated one Sagittarius... was my first love.. I also dated 2 Leo's both turned out to be BIG mistakes ...

Being a Christian....

Excellent post serenity!!! .. enjoy ur day!!

RE: Apathy or Empathy?

Apathy seems to be fairly prevalent.. however we still have great capacity for empathy... I am encouraged (for example) by the occasional outpour of concern and charity by millions of people throughout the world when there is a major disaster...

However, these disasters are becoming so frequent now.. will this concern continue... ... but at the very least it does show.. there is still alot of goodness out there