Thanks Khader... sorry don't know if you read all the posts or not.. but I myself am not scared.. best decision I have ever made.. OP refers to the fact that as a Christian.. you do find that when you tell people.. they sometimes react like you have told them you have joined a cult.. this is rather funny and ironic given that as (mainly Catholics) my friends are supposedly 'Christian' too..
Hiya ... I just took a peak at ur profile.. u r very very pretty, and from your post I get the impression that you are quite clever too... with that it mind.. please try and take a step back from this situation and examine it logically... try to look at what you posted and consider what you would advise a sister or a very close friend to do.. if he hit you sweetheart.. there is no turning back.. a decent man.. the kind of man that deserves YOU... would NEVER hit a woman... in most men its just not the done thing and they wouldn't even consider it as an option
Just saying sweetheart.. I know it hurts.. but at 22 you and ur little one/s (on profile says u have kids) have ur whole life ahead of you
Look at all the lovely women on here?? and this is only a microcosm of society... ya see men sometimes make the mistake of being too visual... the girl that you will be seeking will not be the girl that stands out as she walks down the street with all the heads turning.. she will be the girl that you don't necessarily notice.. the average looking girl taking her dog for a walk, helping an old lady cross the road, or who is kind to her family and friends...
Perhaps men should simply be more discerning in the girls that they choose in the first place..
I a guy chooses a great pair of legs over integrity... then yes they may place themselves at risk of the above.. if two people marry for the right reasons.. i.e. love, respect and compatibility and they respect the vow that they have made.. divorce shouldn't really be something that they fear.. loving marriages can survive ALL kinds of strife..
Sounds like you had something REALLY special and were blessed to have each other.. even if for only a short time.. lots of people NEVER get to have what you two had
No!!! most Irish men (although we have a fair few alcoholics) don't drink very frequently.. but when they do go out they tend to have several alright.. doesn't appear to be such a thing as have a couple and go home... they love to party!!
The first thing I would notice about a man would be his looks obviously.. but then I wouldn't wish to date a man at first glance... then personality kicks in... looks or not if he has an unpleasant personality ... I have had two serious relationships.. neither of them to be honest were THAT goodlooking... very average but great personalities (in different ways) and treated me really well...
Ooops you may be a little disappointed.. by far the most popular colouring for me over here is dark hair and blue eyes... there are ALOT of cuties though.. there are a few blonde men alright but its more dark blonde.. the girls (including me) would probably be dark blonde also if they didn't help it along a little ..
You'll have to come over Gangel.. find out for urself
Well I hope so.. I hope their are guys left who believe in it...cause it can be reeeaaally good.. but then people don't talk about the good stuff nearly as much as they talk about the dismal stuff...
I find this question rather depressing to be honest ...cause I would love to get married one day.. but the way things are nowadays I haven't a hope, cause nobody seems to believe in it anymore.. while the original intention of Divorce was to release people from the shackles of an unhappy/destructive marriage.. nowadays it seems to have undermined the institution altogether
I agree wholeheartedly!!... a desire for power and faith should not go together ever!!! they are repugnant to each other..if you have true faith and you are a true Christian.. u recognise that there is only one power.... God.. and those that believe that they have the power to dictate and judge are contrary to the essence of my faith
This is why I think it makes perfect sense to be friends first and get to know someone... that way you will get to see little insights about who they are and make an educated choice.. rushing into relationships can have disasterous results.. u can't change a person.. and if that person is for you.. u shouldn't want to... if feelings are reciprocated to a sufficient degree perhaps that person of their own volition might consider making compromises or personal sacrifices.. but it has to be up to them.. JMV
What a great testimony Mike!!! .. really great to hear.. kinda puts a human slant on your passion.. ur experience is quite like my Pastors Journey.. though he was also a Punk and did drugs.. and also similar to my flatmate.. a common denominator in a lot of Christians Journeys is this 'searching' particularly in cerebral people... who would have an innate searching but also a need to place logic on it.. Mine was not dissimilar either... although I never drank etc and I always believed in God..My issue was that I had a REAL bee in my bonnet about Religion..the hypocracy and the lack of compassion and its lust for power and manipulating nature.... so like you.. I searched, read, rationalised, philosophised etc... but at the end of the day my inquiring and critical mind simply couldn't see any other rational answer... it makes sense!!! to me at least.. the key though is giving urself up.. realising that there is a greater power and handing it all up... thats when the magic really happens so to speak!!!... I have had some amazing experiences.. alot you simply wouldn't believe!! (if you are not a Christian that is)...the proof is in the pudding so to speak and only when you actually hand over (and mean it) can you really know!!
Yes this is very true... mainly because of Pride... when all is going well...we think we are masters of the universe and can do it all on our own.. some of us appreciate our blessings and are thankful.. but alot are like yeah right!!.. who needs him...
When we fall though and realise that we don't have control over ourselves the world or our future (to the agree that we think).. we are often inspired to call to him for help.... and wow!!! when we call for him in these times.. his power is so tangible and you can see his work before your eyes... I have had a very tough couple of months (particularly since I have become a Christian.. ironically) but I hung in there and his blessings seem to be spilling out.. and his presence is very obvious to me.. I have so many stories... perhaps I will set up a thread later with some of my stories..
But yes its true.. its no illusion.. and definitely more than coincidence.. IMO
True... I admire Mike's passion and vigour.. but instead of taking about his personalised take, he can sometimes quote and quote and quote.. which is great... but is not inclined to inspire a great deal of empathy!!.. I have started reading the Bible with exited interest...but its words have manifested themselves in my life... and they make sense in a practical way..
Mike if you are reading this.. please tell me some of your testimonies.. and what it means to U!!! I would really like to know
I agree that you have to love him with your whole heart and I agree that by loving him... it becomes easier to love one another.. that's what I meant by... part of his purpose being to show us the way...but I also think being a 'christian' is a way of life, it is trusting in the thruth and it is doing ur best to live like Jesus, and by that I mean being kind and forgiving and compassionate and non-judgmental... and I am not saying for a moment that you are not any of these things.. its just that earlier you said that it doesn't matter if you are kind or charitable or not... I think it does... I think even before a person becomes Christian, the way they behave towards others and live their life may determine whether they are 'called' or not and is influential in the type of person who naturally seeks, even prior to being a fully fledged Christian I had a strong sense of justice and a compassionate nature.. I believe in part that this may have been instrumental in why I felt a calling... also.. the Bible (and Jesus's teachings) are a manual for life... It (I believe) is Gods way of showing us the way to live or lives and ultimately be capable of salvation and perfect harmony.. VERY important to this IMO is how we treat each other... much of the ills in life are caused my vanity, pride, greed and fear, if we learn to love one another as ourselves (including ourselves V NB) then much of these negative forces become defunct and irrelevant.. I hope I am making sense
Being a Christian....
Thanks Khader... sorry don't know if you read all the posts or not.. but I myself am not scared.. best decision I have ever made.. OP refers to the fact that as a Christian.. you do find that when you tell people.. they sometimes react like you have told them you have joined a cult.. this is rather funny and ironic given that as (mainly Catholics) my friends are supposedly 'Christian' too..