Weimarlady Forum Posts (1,305)

RE: Are You A Morning Person

Totally a morning person now (used to be the opposite, LOL).
In fact it's a struggle sometimes to try talking the body into sleeping in until 6 am when you feel you've had enough sleep and it's time to leave the bed at 3:00.

The key for me however is going to bed early (until 10 pm at the latest). When that doesn't happen for whatever reason (home late, something on my mind etc), the consequence is sleeping the life away until 8-8:30 am.

RE: My hobbies....What tops the list?

Ah, I see. Well, LOL, maybe writing a thesis indeed then. LMAO

RE: My hobbies....What tops the list?

I think it's a fantastic question to ask ladies to get to know them better. Pratically the BEST one to start with!!

RE: is it personality clashes that keeps you single

Well, I don't know about being picky, but they say there are ways for us to determine if it could be the right person.

For a man, to ask himself - do I have what it takes to make THIS particular woman happy?

For a woman - do I like they way I FEEL next to this man?

That's what I try to go by... We'll see if some day it works!

RE: Who plays more games women or men?

LOL, now here's a poll with some predictable answers!! Even just for the simple reason that personally I have no experience "dating" other women whatsoever, so I have no idea how they are and what they say. And all the stories I hear from my girl-friends are obviously their side of the story, so I don't know a game player among them either...

On a serious note though, I think women might appear often times as if they're "playing games" cos we're not that quick sometimes in deciding whether we want anything with the particular man (a relationship, going to bed etc). And some men, I'm sure, might take it as "playing games", whereas it's just a very normal process. In order to avoid that happening, it's probably good to not assume too much without checking it with the woman in question first.

RE: Who plays more games women or men?

RE: Most Romantic Setting

HOW simple, Boban?....





I also CANNOT imagine holding hands with someone you barely know yet.... brrrrr......

Just shows how different we all are!

RE: In Need of Traditional Swedish Food!

And you said earlier that it's safe to eat?!

Oh well, it's not only the Swedish pickled (and left to sit for a long time) herring...

You probably know "vobla", eh? The Russian salt-dried fish? An American friend of mine, when offered it with his beer, leaned over to me and said quietly "If I saw my dog picking it up, I'd tell it to drop it right away - it looks like it's been laying on the asphalt with cars running over it for a week or so"...

RE: In Need of Traditional Swedish Food!

Ha ha, I hadn't heard of this "surströmming".... Now I know where expired fish cans need to be sent... I mean, it didn't look bad at all in pics, very much like our (Latvian) normal marinated/pickled herring, but if Wikipedia says that "Surströmming is sold in cans, which often bulge during shipping and storage, due to the continued fermentation".... Is it even safe to eat it?

RE: Christmas Eve Fun!

Just had a really nice Xmas Eve dog walk... :)

RE: Why do people become trolls

You wanna nibble too?

RE: Why do people become trolls

Well, as they say... there are no bad people, just people that are going through bad times... #3, seemed the closest (maybe not!).

RE: Would you live with a man again?

Hmmmmm, well even as a "visiting partner", when he leaves and you have a pile of dirty plates to do... Wouldn't that bring some resentment?

I don't think I'd want a half-hearted (IMO) relationship such as "visiting" each others homes. Either we agree on everything and inspire each other to agree to undertake certain responsibilities, or I don't get into a relationship with them at all, period. (Cos very likely if there's no understanding on such trivial things, it's probably even worse in other departments?)

RE: Was this Wrong of me?

RE: Was this Wrong of me?

I'd assume the poster is just analyzing the situation not to make the same mistake in the future. Obviously these things have to be discussed in advance, but once you did marry her... there is an opinion that it's an honour for the man if the woman wants to conceive a child with him.

I don't know about life in the army much but I do know that half of the town where I used to live were military families, and the kids grew up just fine...

And in my experience... if it seems for a prolonged period of time that this is not the right time for something important... Probably one needs to take a good look at their life and see if they've got their priorities right.

RE: Back together

No, never done it (and yeah, in the beginning it's part of the letting go), but I do know that you DO learn to live without them and stop caring, and surprisingly sooner than it might seem at the very sad time of still being attached to them.

RE: What shall a female do if she is lonely and single??

Out of the ones you posted:

•Accept the next bloke that asks her out
•pray to GOD
•walk out side and lay on grass



And just a couple of more ideas (out of 100's):

•start a completely new hobby - something you never even thought you might find interesting
•go out with female friends
•travel some place by yourself (even just go see what bus routes there are, get on one of them and GO!)
•go for a drive with some fantastic music
•go to a massage parlour
•find an older lady who's happily married and visit her to chat about life
•get a puppy (although then you might never need a man anymore for company! )

RE: Long distance. He hesitates. Should I give him deadline?

LOL, yes dear.



Equality does not necessarily equal sameness.

RE: Long distance. He hesitates. Should I give him deadline?

Kid and Morgan, with all due respect guys....

If a man is not able or, worse yet, willing to pay such expenses, he's nothing but a weakling. I don't care that it's 2010, we are all "equal" or any of that. If he is unable, for whatever reason, to take on this responsibility, I would not consider anything with him. Yes, technically many of us ladies make a LOT more than some men we go out with, but it has to do with the way they feel about us. As soon as the man starts to say "sniff, sniff, I won't have enough left for me to enjoy my hobbies then", "it's not fair, it should be 50:50" and such BS, I'd be out (and not because I have no money to contribute). (Think about what will happen if the couple has a child, for example, and the wife simply cannot work for whatever reason.)

Men that look for bargains and are not ready to give, are truly not worth bothering with. JMHO.

RE: Long distance. He hesitates. Should I give him deadline?

By the way, I sincerely believe the fact that it's America-Kazakhstan is not really the decisive factor here. I have the displeasure right now to observe a relationship (of sorts) of people who are separated by a mere 1.5 hr low cost airline flight and no visas or special permits to speak of, and the scenario is exactly the same. Men like this, who keep truly fantastic girls hanging on to some dubious hopes which they don't intend to fulfil, have my utmost contempt.

RE: Long distance. He hesitates. Should I give him deadline?

Sorry but I think unless someone is totally illiterate and can't fill out their own applications, it shouldn't cost nearly so much to get a visa. Of course if one wants to employ a lawyer to get it all done, that's a different story I'm sure, but I have read quite a lot on some U.S. immigration forums and it doesn't really require a lawyer's assistance if you do everything right.

The medical exams, applications, travel to the embassy for the intreview etc. are going to cost something, but not $20k and not all at once....



Besides, he's a man and from a supposedly well-off, non-third-world country. And, men used to support their wives fully in the past, and many still do (I know some such fossils personally!).



Indeed, doesn't sound like the most dependable man to depend on.



Doesn't work (to walk a man through something which is HIS responsibility to deal with). And agreed 100% about the character it shows.



Exactly, even though keeping the eyes open for other men might sound disgusting and even outrageous to the OP. It would to me if I was in love with a man and considered myself in a relationship. But very sound advice cos there's no point in being committed to someone who is not at all sure yet where he stands with you.



Inspiring!



Exactly. Passive, apathetic men who are "not sure about their feelings", or analyze too much (if it's going to be a good deal for THEM) etc etc. are rather useless for a relationship.

RE: Deal with it, or not?

I am sorry. Been there, wore the T-shirt, rid of any feelings, thoughts and the T-shirt now.

Truly breaking up with someone like that is NOT all that scary or difficult once you are over it. (Even if at first it seems it'll NEVER be ok again... it can sure take some months) It's a great feeling indeed.

RE: Deal with it, or not?

Question is.... WHAT would be the point of staying together with such a person?

And a more important question is... it this a husband we're talking about, or a 'boyfriend' that is 'not sure' of his thoughts and feelings anymore, doesn't want to 'rush' etc?

RE: Do Your Standards Drop With Time?

Totally agree with what you and other posters have said regarding this. I too have learned that there are many tastes of happiness in life.



Errrmmmm... and did you manage to maintain that Rolls Royce well enough? Were you qualified enough to own it and drive it? (Just asking! )

RE: Do Your Standards Drop With Time?

What an interesting topic!

My "standards" have not dropped, they have soared

But the expectations, on the other hand, have been adjusted - I now realize what a man cannot give me, for example, or I don't choose only guys who look like Bryan Ferry, LOL....

RE: What would you do?

RE: What would you do?

"Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worst kind of suffering." (Paulo Coelho)

You know, I'd see how the other person is looking at it. For sure it's waste of time to try and 'mend' something if he is not eager to make it work. If he is, personally I'd give chances, but I'd try as much as possible to break down the vicious circles that lead to the same arguments every time, e.g. try to react differently to offences etc, to hopefully change the route of it. Since I'm an optimist, I believe things can be worked out, but both people have to realize where the problem lies (even if it's in themselves) and want to do something about it. An injection of knowledge helps too, as some arguments between people are too trivial and come from complete ignorance about what each of us needs.

RE: A SINGLE GUY

You know, surprisingly it doesn't work for a lot of people - cos as soon as they get the girl of their dreams, they stop wanting her in their life (no ability to desire what you had wanted), some also manage to find faults with her, or to start believing that it's too good to be true and she'll leave them... Many variations, all leading to the same end. Some people unfortunately don't have the ability to keep wanting what they have now, and begin to set new goals in their search of happiness.

RE: Have you attended any religious service in the last 30 days?

Unfortunately no.

RE: Dating a Non-Drinker

Wow, I've never experienced this and I last had a "drink" about 14 year ago, LMAO!

I'm sure there are people who might really think this way but... I don't see a lot of them around me

My policy is quite simple: if the company is good, I have fun without drinks; if the company is so bad I have to drink to feel fun, I leave.