With more singles now than ever before in history and so many social and dating websites, why are there so few relationships born out of this new social setting. It seems to me that we were better off in rural settings, and zero chance to socialise, at finding someone suitable to share life with. Your thoughts?
Do you think this site is more of a social site than a date or meet up site? I think it’s become more a social platform than anything else and that’s good too but primarily are people drawn to here for the dating bit and the chance to meet that special someone? Your thoughts?
Right, 2018 professionally, I hope to build on my biz. I hope to take on a couple of people in January and I hope to build the brand. On a private level, I hope 2018 to bring an end to singledom fiiiiiiiinally, 21 years on yer todd is too too long, time for change. I am also going to have a new grandchild, which will make two. I have also set myself a target to buy a brand new shiny car in 2018 and trade in my nifty little 2005 Micra.........so thats not bad for starters......
They are not interested in fixing things, simples! It suits their purposes for things to be in chaos, that way we are dependent on them to 'fix' things. If they were really concerned about the homeless, health, education or any of the other issues they would deal head on with them. Problem here is, people need to get angry, be seen to get angry. We lost our voice here a while back, during the Boom, but we found it again during the water protests. They irked the politicians especially when they saw how people power worked and made things happen. People need to collectively get angry. This collective anger brought down a political party and left some politicians with no following - Joan Burton, Rabbitte etc - but more importantly, it showed the political elite that their job is not a given and that people can tear them down from the pedestal they believe themselves to be on.
I think it is a great way to meet people you would otherwise never get to meet. Everyone is in their comfort zone on their own turf, no pressures and sometimes, this way, you get to find who they are.
Yes, I realise that people can pretend to be someone they are not but if they are genuine and looking for that special someone, they are tuned in to find out more about you.
I find though, the down side, that a lot of people are becoming so comfortable with this social networking media that they dont want to take it out into the 'real world', they are quite happy to stay stuck on a pc and never get out or interact outside of the virtual world; they lose the ability to interact in the physical world.........and that is a great pity. Another down side is, with the delay of sending and receiving messages, even on the fastest network, it allows each person to think of an answer, to rewrite it, to take time to be inventive. This advantage of time is not there when you meet so, sometimes, the person you meet 'in the flesh' is not the personality you meet when you meet. The confident humorous guy (in my case) turns out to be very quiet fidgety introverted and under confident without any humor whatsoever.
This Online dating scene is meant to be a platform to something else, to meeting people and connecting in the real world. It is a window to life. It is not meant to BE life.
I like to get chatting to someone, find out whether we are compatible and whether we could last an hour chatting over coffee. Once I figure that its a runner, I go for it.
Just a thought for those 50+ : Have you thought about retirement in 15 or so years and how you want to spend it? Would you like someone to spend it with you, to spend the time between now and then working towards a great retirement? Your thoughts?
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So many singles, so few meet ups
With more singles now than ever before in history and so many social and dating websites, why are there so few relationships born out of this new social setting. It seems to me that we were better off in rural settings, and zero chance to socialise, at finding someone suitable to share life with. Your thoughts?