The burqua..an article of clothing...some women claim they prefer wearing it. As i said before it's not the burqua that's the problem, it's the reason for it that is the problem...either it's ownership, the woman beneath belongs to me and no other eyes have the right to look,
...or it's the site of a womans body so inflames us we can't be held responsible for our actions.
In the case of women who choose to wear a burqua... Just pass by a construction site sometime and it's understandable that a woman not raised in a western culture would feel intimidated.
Personally I hate seeing the loss of items from peoples culture on the grounds that others don't like or undersrand it.
What happens to the women in areas where the burqua is outlawed...but they feel strongly about not being exposed in public? Are they trapped in their homes for the rest of their life?
Even before the money thing... The accent wasn't a hint... It was a slap! I was born in Scotland but moved to the states when i was 5. My parents still have a strong accent but I sound completly American having spent 35 years there...I've now been in Spain for 7 years and still sound American. I'm sorry but there is no way someone is going to pick up a strong accent in a year.
That's why the idea of me meeting someone online is almost laughable... For me to go 20 miles requires getting on a plane or a boat! Anyone who wanted to come and meet me would have to realize that there are no guarentees...so my attitude is if you're coming over for a holiday I'd love to meet you but i would feel guilty if they were spending the money specificly to meet me.
Of course you need to meet face to face...unless all you want is a virtual relationship... For me the online thing is just another way to meet people...not a means to develope a relationship...that happens up close and personal!
No...I think it's a matter of opening yourself up to the possibilities...
I know that I've somewhat limited my possibilities by choosing to live on a very small island...that and the fact that i don't do the whole falling in love on line thing...
Why is it so hard for a middle aged white woman to find any mate...never mind her ideal mate, anywhere? I read somewhere that I have a better chance of being shot by a terrorist than I do of finding a mate,,,
I just saw the results of the poll and it's equal between stay at home and working...in reality that seems to be the way it is in many cases... The woman works outside the home and is still ecpected to do all the tasks a stay at home wife does.
I noticed that one man even ssid that with no kids he would like his wife to work but when kids come along he wants her to stay home.
So she's supposed to walk away from a career she may have invested a lot of time and education creating and by the time the kids are old enough for her ro go back to work her skills are obsolete and akk she can get is some mundane job...is this fair? What if her career paid more and offered better benefits than her husbands?
It's s different world than the one our parents grew up in... There doesn't seem to be any easy answers!
I just saw the results of the poll and it's equal between stay at home and working...in reality that seems to be the way it is in many cases... The woman works outside the home and is still ecpected to do all the tasks a stay at home wife does.
I noticed that one man even ssid that with no kids he would like his wife to work but when kids come along he wants her to stay home.
So she's supposed to walk away from a career she may have invested a lot of time and education creating and by the time the kids are old enough for her ro go back to work her skills are obsolete and akk she can get is some mundane job...is this fair? What if her career paid more and offered better benefits than her husbands?
It's s different world than the one our parents grew up in... There doesn't seem to be any easy answers!
I don't feel "entitled" but I'm also not about to make accomodations just to have someone in my life! i realise that i may be on my own for the rest of my life but that would be better than having someone just for the sake of having them!
When I look back at the men who have been in my life the things they have in common are... Intelligence Kindness Strength A sense of mischief A good work ethic But mostly we shared a connection, impossible to put into words
Those are the same things I'm looking for now and I'd rather be on my own than compromise
If you'r talking about sending a flower or message to someone on cs or a similar service then it would depenf on the amount of contact you have shared...
If you spent a lot of time on the forums interacting and got no response then yes, I imagine you would feel some rejection.
If you contacted someone after just viewing their profile and they didn't respond it's no big deal...bit like saying hi to someone on the street and getting no response...no big deal!
I cut a piece of toast into the shape of a love heart once.....
I thought that was far more meaningful and romantic than flowers, chocolates and an expensive meal. I still have the burn mark and small marmalade stain on my forehead to prove that I was wrong.....[/quote
Now rhats something i would love... You did give it to her in bed??? If not maybe thats where it went wrong...
If people break up because of a crappy gift, well..
say a bit about what the relationship meant to them...[/quote
Sometimes a crappy gift is a good indicator the relationship may not be all you think it is...I'm not talking about the money spent but the thought behind it. If I said i hate gardening and you get me gardening gloves for valentines day... We may have a problem!
Bold? If you consider my honesty bold then yes. As to why we havn't met before I've not been around much this past year but people who know me from when i was a more active member know that I'm always honest with my posts and expect the same in return... I've never been one to ask for opinions and then been upset if people didn't respond in a sympathetic manner, if I'm screwing up i hope my friends will be honest enough to point it out.
No... I don't know you and can only respond ro what you have posted... You asked for opinions and i have given you mine based on what you have posted. If you were looking for comfort it may have been better to post a thread that said "after 8 months it's over, i need a hug." As to being sad over my replys... Why should you be? It's just the thoughts of someone who doesn't know you and isn't important in your life.
I'm not being mean...a little sarcastic maybe... I don't know the whole picture but from what you have said here it sounds as though you've thrown away 8 months because of jelousy and possesivness...2 of the most destructive emotions in a relationship
Ok, call me a wine snob...but if you'r onjy drinking wine to "get the job done" maye it's time to switch to teqjila! Give me a cork in a good bottle of italian brunello or austrlian shiraz/merlot blend and i'm a happy girl... There'a a lot to be said for a good spanish rioja as well!
RE: Burqanisation
The burqua..an article of clothing...some women claim they prefer wearing it. As i said before it's not the burqua that's the problem, it's the reason for it that is the problem...either it's ownership, the woman beneath belongs to me and no other eyes have the right to look,...or it's the site of a womans body so inflames us we can't be held responsible for our actions.
In the case of women who choose to wear a burqua... Just pass by a construction site sometime and it's understandable that a woman not raised in a western culture would feel intimidated.
Personally I hate seeing the loss of items from peoples culture on the grounds that others don't like or undersrand it.
What happens to the women in areas where the burqua is outlawed...but they feel strongly about not being exposed in public? Are they trapped in their homes for the rest of their life?