There are some wonderful people and places in States...unfortunatly it's the worst parts of American culture that seem to spread...The idea of disposable consumerism, law suits, lack of personal responsibility...this is why I live on a little island.
It is impossible to actually choose to forget something...especially if it's had an emotional impact on us...it seems to reinforce the memory.
But we can control what we do with the memory...how we let it effect our life and that of the person we have chosen to forgive.
I think the term forgive and forget simply means that if we truely forgive someone, you act as though it never happened...you don't take the act into consideration when making decisions and it certainly isn't brought up to punish when you're angry.
If you have difficulty in acting like it never happened then I don't believe you have truely forgiven and in some cases maybe that's not a bad thing.
It's friday evening...shouldn't you be heading up to the militia training camp? People ask me why I left the States...I should just print off a couple of the Op's posts and hand them out. ...and to think these are the nutcases that own guns.
Everyone that's not a rightwing Christian Fundamentalist shoud be thankful such laws are going into place....these people having guns is like the arming of the Taliban, oh yeah, they did arm the Taliban against the "Red Menace"
Anyone who hasn't read Margaret Atwood's "The Handmaids Tale" should do so....listening to the hateful rhetoric of the Op makes you realize it could become a reality.
Some girlfriends and I took our kids up to the snow to go sledding...It had been years since I'd done that and after watching the kids for a while...the urge to have a go became unresistable.
So up the hill I go...plastic disc in hand...the bloody climb alone near killed me,
I positioned the disc at the top of the hill, kicked off and went sailing down...it was brilliant, wind in my hair, picking up speed, laughing with the glee of a child...until I hit the bump.
Airborn about 5 feet, came down with an almighty wallop on my back...head ratteling off the ice...
Hi MF... I love your comment about pride...how often does our pride get in the way of a relationship...stopping us from apologizing, asking for what we want... I speak from experience and it's something I still battle with.
You know Pat, it's not about agreeing...be a pretty boring world if that were the case... You're right, the honesty and openness people have showed has been great...and I think a fer few o us could use a right kick up the jacksie!
Releasing that final part of ourselves...the part we keep reserved from the rest of the world is probably the scariest thing we will ever do. I'm talking a good game...but haven't had to put it to the test yet...but I want it enough to try.
I think that when we draw the line at want... we also draw a line withun ourselves as to much we put on the line...when we need someone we're putting everything out there...scary as hell for someone who has always valued their independece.
I believe that happens when people get caught up in chemistry...and confuse that with love. Those initial feelings of giddiness and euphoria eventually wear off and in some cases you're fortunate enough to have developed a connection that allows real love to develope...in other cases all you ever had was chemistry.
RDM...Couldn't quote because of the way you edited rather then posted...
Are you inferring that only men use logic? 'cause there sure ain't no hair on my chest...
I know it is there because I have experienced it, and I'm willing to try and become "soft" again, because I'm realizing that's the only way it happens...it does get old and sometimes lonely being cool...
This ties in with the "need or want" thread I posted a while back...the first being people who need and desire that someone need them. The second being people who don't need someone...but want someone. I'm in that second group and not due to past experiences or being hurt...in fact in all four of the committed loving relationships in my life...we were still in love at the end and the relationships ended due to other things...mainly my tendency to over analyze and over think...basing decisions on pure logic rather then a blend of emotion and logic.
I thought it was enough to want someone...but I'm realizing that many people especially men seem to need feeling needed.
I think an important step in my own self development will be to open myself up...to become vulnerable enough to honestly need someone.
jbibiza Forum Posts (4,914)
Good luck finding the lovely lady you deserve. 
RE: IS GUN CONTROL COMING TO AMERICA....GIFT FROM HILLARY CLINTON
Or is that the foot in the mouth?