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Love is a decision...agree or disagree???

I agree with you but have one question...Is it possible to do the falling if you haven't made the decision to find love?

Love is a decision...agree or disagree???

Do you think that a relatioship based on a persons " idea of love" has the potential to be a long lasting relationship?

Love is a decision...agree or disagree???

Do you think that a person who hasn't decided to love can still be subject to the romantic idea of falling in love...?

Love is a decision...agree or disagree???

I posted a thread a while back about becoming a lesbian...I pull the hottest women

But can't seem to get over my infatuation with men.

Love is a decision...agree or disagree???

Are you saying that your belief is that fate plays a hand in love?

Love is a decision...agree or disagree???

Hi Gra I personaly don't believe we fall in love...I believe we grow in love. I'm sure many would disagree with this...somehow I don't think you're one of them...

RE: Any Comment.........

I had one a couple of weeks ago that had scripted responses to any response he got...in spite of the fact my replies were negative...I got "great, then tell me more...” ” I can see we have a lot in common”

Love is a decision...agree or disagree???

I often read comments from people who express the view that love will find you. When you least expect it...bam...there it is, no effort or work required.

Personaly, I disagree with this attitude...it's a bit like saying you want a really good job and then doing nothing proactive to get it thinking it's just going to magicly appear.

I believe that love is a decision. I think there are steps we need to take not only for ourselves but for our future partner in order to be truely open to the prospect of love.

When we truely love someone...we want the best for them. Are you the best? Do you look in the mirror and like what you see? Have you dealt with personal issues that have caused problems in past relationships? Are you dealing with financial problems, family issues, previous relationship issues? If so, you may want to take a little "ME" time. Anyone looking for a ”fixer upper” is looking for a bargain to remodel to their specifications...why not do the restoration yourself and offer the whole package?

Are you emotionally available? For years I wasn't...my priorities were my daughter and family, my business and then a relationship...no one wants to be 3rd on the priority list...even if they say they accept and understand it soon creates issues as once again you cancel time together because of problems at work or other priorities get in the way.

Have you left your emotional past behind you...or are you still hanging on to the love you once had? Have you moved on from feeling of anger, bitterness or resentment? Theses are not things you should be offering as part of the package if you truely want the best for your future partner.

And finally...are you making yourself seen? Being on an online dating site is one avenue...but shouldn't be your only avenue. It would be a bit like going to the same bar night after night hoping to meet ”the one” or pushing your cart up the same grocery store aisles day after day hopeing that you bump carts with your ideal mate.

I believe you need to be proactive in this journey for love that we all share... rather then just waiting for it to happen.

Again these are only my opinions and observations served up for discussion, debate and even attack...I however am not on the menu

RE: Falling In LOVE!!!

Easy to say when you're thousands of miles away...where were you 10 years ago when I still lived in CA?

RE: Falling In LOVE!!!

It's a simple question to answer...just not so easy to find...

The right man. A man who is a little bit smarter, stronger and better able to deal with things then I am.

A man that I admire and trust enough to give every aspect of myself to knowing that his strength protects me.

A man that shares my irreverent sense of humour and my sensual nature while experiencing as much living as can be sucked up in a lifetime.



I know... not quite what you expected....

RE: what do you see?

Well I'm honored to be one of several...

RE: what do you see?

Hi kid...long time

As they say...in matters of sensuality, the mind is the most powerful piece of equipment

RE: Boring men!!

I give a bad time to the guy I´m talking to... say that he´s so bloody stingy with the written word, but he makes up for it on the phone.

We all have means in which we communicate... the written word is not for everyone.

RE: FOR THE LADIES

If you are unhappy with the management system... you could always go on strike....

RE: Boring men!!

When I´m talking to someone out of courtesy I have a tendency to give brief answers and not ask questions... Maybe he´s just not that into you?

RE: MY MISTAKE ???????

Hind sights always 20/20....

RE: Do you think that this website is silly and has no serious sense?

I agree with all of the above posts... I have had a great experience being part of the CS forums... and it great for honing your debate skills...

It's all in pun...

Off to bed now...a dsy spent lazing in the sun really takes it out of you...

Have pun!

It's all in pun...

I love puns...here's a couple of my favorite, please feel free to add a few of your own.

Did you here about the Buddhist that refused novacain during a root canal?

His goal = Transcend dental medication

A vulture boards an airplane carrying 2 dead raccoons. The stewardess looks at him a says "Sorry sir but only one carrion allowed per passenger"

And my personal favorite...

Mahatma Gandi, as you know walked barefoot most of the time...which produced an impressive set of callouses on his feet. He also ate very little which made him quite frail... and with his odd diet he suffered from bad breath.

This made him a Super calloused fragile mystic hexed with halitosis.

RE: love at 2nd site

My fav. was when I asked how to off my 97 year old millionaire husband and he responded...

Quietly

RE: love at 2nd site

hmmmm another windup thread? The Rodes scolar was a hell of a lot funnier...and I learned how to iron without an iron...

RE: What makes you happy ??

On days like this...it is. The first really beautiful day of the year and everyone was out enjoying it. It's a small town on a small island and the sense of community is wonderful. Ask me how perfect it is at the height of tourist season when I'm working 7 days a week...

RE: What makes you happy ??

Days like today make me happy...glorious sunshine, sitting at an outdoor cafe steps from the beach with "the girls" and my beautiful one month old Fairy God Children.

Laughter, talk, friends passing and saying hello...amazing how the afternoon just disappears...

RE: Are you Afraid To Die!?

It's just not something I think about...once in a while on a sleepless night I may ponder the thought of ceasing to exist...it ties my stomach in knots... The idea of no longer experiencing things, to not think.

I think pain and illness is perhaps natures way of easing that....so you no longer want to feel and think.

RE: Are you Afraid To Die!?

...and the baby boom continues... I thought it was just in my circle...but obviously not!

Within my close friends this year has brought 7 new little bundles of joy and 3 more to come within the month. My bff had twins and I'm the proud Fairy Godmother to Eva & Louie...

RE: What makes you happy ??

...and sometimes that's what shuts those little voices up... bit like the chicken or the egg...

RE: What makes you happy ??

Those little voices have ruled for far to long... I want the possibilities!

RE: What makes you happy ??

Putting aside the little voices in my head that say "It'll never work" and opening myself to the possibility.

RE: "Thank you","Sorry"

I don't think those words are used often enough...you wonder if some people even have them in their vocabulary.

RE: "Thank you","Sorry"

I don't think those words are used often enough...you wonder if some people even have them in their vocabulary.