jbibiza Forum Posts (4,914)

RE: Equal Rights

Oh gee... is that why I went back to school after my divorce and got a double major in 3 years... why I raised my daughter on my own from the time she was 2 years old without child support... is that why I worked a corporate job for years that I hated... is that why I bought and successfully ran my own business for years....

RE: The Good Morning Hot Croissant Thread

Morning Lago... it´s beautiful here as well, the temps have come up, the sun is shining gloriously off the water and all is good.

I have a new man in my life... we spent the day at a Christmas fair yesterday... had lunch, listened to my friends band perform, had a nice walk and curled up in bed last night. He´s laying out on the front porch right now soaking up the sun and we´ll be heading out for a nice long walk down the beach in a little while. I forgot how nice it is to have a bit of company...

Okay... I admit it´s only a dog, and he´s only with me until New Years day, but it´s a step in the right direction....

RE: What does it mean, if a men tells you 'he likes you as his wife, but he doesn't love you' ?

That you fit all the criteria of a good wife, taking care of home and family, that you project the kind of image he wants others to see of his family life, but he feels no passion for you.

RE: Change the default listing to "All Threads" in Forums

Some of the new features are great... I love that the links are direct so you don´t have to cut and paste them into your browser... love all the new flowers and hope we get some new emotions as well! But...

I still don´t like the new look or the navigation on the site... it makes getting around much more difficult and I voted to make all threads the default... I´m much more interested in joining an active conversation then I am one that´s been dead for 2 days...

RE: Why do men run from a single parent?

If you look at a "normal" relationship... a couple has a chance to date one on one for for a while, get married, and have some time to adjust to those changes before having kids. The ready made family situation can be difficult as it´s very hard to have much one on one time with each other and really get to know one another.

Then there is the situation from the kids perspective... they have gotten used to mom or dad being there just for them, now there is another person taking up attention and time... and lets be honest, new love can be very selfish, you´re totally wrapped up in each other, which is normal but it can be difficult for kids to accept.

Also people are in different stages of their life... either they are young and not ready for kids yet or the could be on the other side and have already raised their kids and are enjoying some freedom for the first time in 20 years... that´s the stage I´m in, and maybe it´s selfish, but I´m finished raising kids and really enjoying the freedom I have.

I really hate seeing comments like "if they don´t accept your kids then they aren´t worth it" making it sound like because you are in a stage of your life that you don´t want to take one someone elses chilren, makes you a bad person.

RE: How Many Of You.....

I´m genuinely interested in getting to know people... would like it if I got the chance to meet in RL some of the people I talk to online...but living on an island makes it difficult, you can´t just jump in your car and drive 5 or 6 hours...I have to take a flight or a boat even to meet someone just 100 miles away.

RE: Why most successful Men have a foreign wife?

First off, please define successful for me... and give me some examples please of these successful men with foreign wives. That would give me more info in which to base a reply.

RE: i went to a black reggae club last night where the only white guy there taught me all about obama !

Hey Gilly, When I was backpacking around Papua New Guniea I was the only white person that I ever saw on a bus in the six weeks that I was there. I have to tell you that so many people told me not to go there... that it was really dangerous. I can honestly say that I have never had people treat me so well and take care of me they way they did there. Coming home from a local nightclub... 17 people walked me back to my guest house to make sure I got home ok... I got lost while walking around a town one day and couldn´t find my guest house... 9 kids and their football coach walked my back... and best of all I was invited to go and live with a tribe in the jungle for 2 weeks... what an amazing experience that was!

RE: Raising money for charity

Great clip! I´m definetley a fan of the shuffle more then the jump, but great dancing!

RE: IF U DONT LIKE THE LOOK OF A PERSONS PROFILE SHUD U REPLY IF THEY SEND U A MSG OR FLOWER

Go ahead... call me stuck up, or mean or whatever else you want... but my answer is NO.

The first thing I do is check my who´s viewed me... and if they don´t show up there then I know they haven´t bothered to look at my profile, so no... I´m not going to answer them.

If they are completely inappropriate and didn´t put any thought into what they wrote, then no, I´m not going to answer them.

I have had far to many occasions that I sent a nice email back explaining why we weren´t a suitable match only to receive nasty, ill tempered messages in return. Chances are most of the flowers have been sent to 20 other women as well and they aren´t even aware if you have responded or not.

Someone who has looked at my profile and sends a nice thought out message... I will respond to.

RE: If I asked you out for 1 Date-Dinner, Carriage Ride, Symphony-Nothing More, Would you go?

Max... you are such a romantic! You probably scare the hell out of a lot of women. To be honest with you, that type of date is for after you are in a relationship with someone...keep it light and playful in the beginning for those first dates, save the romance for when it really starts to heat up!

RE: Is love enough?

It´s called having a life. I´ve been guilty on more then one occasion of getting too caught up in things for the first 6 weeks or so... that magic of new love... of wanting to talk 15 times a day of sneaking away from work for an hour just to see his face and exchange passionate kisses.... but then life starts to raise it´s head and demands time in return.

Your friends who understood for a while... are demanding that you be there for them too, at least lunch once in a while and your boss is catching on to those dentist and dr. appointments, or needing to run home because you think you left the iron on....

Years ago I started dating a man, it was magical... he had this great life and was really busy and I was happy to fit into where I could. Within a few months of our being together he stopped doing a lot of the things he had been involved in when we first got together. His reason... he wanted to spend more time with me and pretty soon he started demanding that I give up certain things in my life. Well that wasn´t what I signed up for, and it ended the relationship.

I don´t think being the only thing in each others life is healthy, it´s good to have other interests and activities and friends... at least it gives you something to talk about! Being the complete and total focus of someone´s life and the reason for their happiness can be a huge burden to carry.

RE: If I asked you out for 1 Date-Dinner, Carriage Ride, Symphony-Nothing More, Would you go?

Max, you seem like a lovely guy... the thing is you´re marriage material and a lot of ladies your age aren´t looking for that just yet! From watching my daughter and her friends, your generation doesn´t seem to do a whole lot of actual dating...it seems to be more about guys and girls meeting up at a restaurant bar or music club and hanging out together and sometimes pairing off.

Don`t sell yourself short by trying too hard to have someone in your life just now... enjoy your friends both men and women... you´ve got great things ahead!

RE: Is love enough?

...and where is the option for a woman who doesn´t believe that love is enough, but it has nothing to do with money? I have loved men where the compatibility to have a relationship just isn´t there.... the goals we have and the future we want are just too different to consider a "forever" together...because I don´t think love is enough the only option left on your poll is shallow and materialistic?

Where is the shallow materialistic button for the guys... the ones who want a slim, big breasted Barbie 20 years younger then he is?

Sorry but this poll stinks and I didn´t vote.

RE: Would you go out with me for christmas?

Don´t listen to this... you have a great sense of style!

RE: Happy Birthday PPV

HAPPY BIRTHDAY PPV

RE: To Drink It Or Not ---- That Is The Question!!!

Here´s a good recipe for home made eggnog...

12 eggs, separated
6 cups milk
2 cups heavy/ thickened cream
2 cups bourbon
1+ ½ cups sugar
¾ cup brandy
2 teaspoons ground nutmeg

In a large bowl and using a mixer, beat the egg yolks together with the sugar for approx 10 minutes (you want the mixture to be firm and the colour of butter).
Very slowly, add in the bourbon and brandy - just a little at a time.
When bourbon and brandy have been added, allow the mixture to cool in the fridge (for up to 6 hours, depending on how long before your party you're making the eggnog).
30 minutes before your guests arrive, stir the milk into the chilled yolk mixture.
Stir in 1+ ½ teaspoons ground nutmeg.
In a separate bowl, beat the cream with a mixer on high speed until the cream forms stiff peaks.
In yet another bowl, beat the egg whites until stiff peaks form.
Gently fold the egg white mixture into the egg yolk mixture.
Gently fold the cream into the egg mixture.
After ladling into cups, garnish with the remainder of the ground nutmeg.

It´s sooooooo much yummier then the stuff you buy in a carton!!

I also really like Hot Buttered Rum!

RE: Since we can now post live links - Fred Thompson on the U.S. economy!

It was an amusing clip, good for a few chuckles...but my question is this... where is his plan, we all know things are a mess, how much good do sarcastic comments and videos do? Bit like kicking a man when he´s down...but in this case a nation. Everyone was a part of the financial collapse from people buying homes with mortgages they couldn´t afford to over spending on credit cards, dumping money into bad investments...rich, poor, democrat and republican... everyone has contributed to the mess, sitting back laughing at it doesn´t fix the problem or lead anyone in the right direction...

Sorry... I´m in one of my serious moods tonight...

RE: Would you go out with me for christmas?

I´m already up to 7 stray men at my place for Christmas... one more would be fine!

RE: let's talk about your imagination about Iran!

Thanks for a really informative post Fred... I love history and while I have read a lot regarding the Greeks and Romans, I know very little about the Persians. We could use a Cyrus in the world right now... Time for me to get on Amazon and order some new books!

RE: Do you feel that guys are just playing games with us women?

I don´t know why the nonsense that goes on sometimes is called playing games... usually in a game there is a winner, all I see are losers when people aren´t honest about who they are and what they´re looking for.

Could someone please explain to me what you get out of stringing someone along that you aren´t interested in or pretending to be something that you´re not in order to attract someone?

Maybe I´m naive... but I just don´t get it.

RE: I'm blue

Thanks Lush... that´s a bit better!

RE: I'm blue

Sorry... didn´t see tht my last post had posted.... I´m messing up already!!!

RE: I'm blue

I have to agree with LL, I like it much better when threads are posted in order of the time they were last posted to... now you have to scroll through a couple of pages to see where the conversations are! Not liking it at all!

RE: I'm blue

I have to agree with LL... not a big fan of the new forum setup... I liked it better when the threads were listed in the order they were recently posted to rather than by topic... now you have to scroll through a couple of pages to see where people are posting to, to join in on conversations...

RE: Do have floats about playing horrible Christmas Music?

I know how you feel Robbie! Last year I was living next door to a church social hall... which was also the practice grounds for the town marching band... every night at 7 they started up without a break for 2 solid hours. If they had played something recognizable... perhaps it wouldn´t have made me want to put a bullet in my head....

This year the only sounds are the waves lapping at the shore... now that´s music!

RE: Who was your first crush

My first crush was David... a boy in my kindergarten class. He looked just like Timmy from the old "Lassie" show... he also became my first boyfriend. I was never into celebrity crushes... I always preferred to crush on someone who could actually become a boyfriend.

RE: Is It Possible to Find Long Term Online?

That attitude is solely for the nonsense that is this thread... if you had any power to see through a woman, you would be quite aware of this... and the picture could be just as easily interpreted as my putting blind trust in a man... or two good friends having a laugh. I´ll leave that to your powerful skills of deduction.

RE: Is It Possible to Find Long Term Online?

Why do you find a heart felt congratulations intimidating? Humorous maybe... but intimidating?

RE: Is It Possible to Find Long Term Online?

Oh I definitely don´t have a soul... and the picture is to be interpreted by the viewer... in light of the posts on this thread, it could be all about a man serving me...