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RE: can I just say please.....

Brilliant...

You missed 'Guys that must be a scammer' Shall I check the box??? Oh go on, let me?

RE: can I just say please.....

As soon as I saw this, I thought of you...

She's lovely, go look.

RE: Your potencial partner has access to your activities online in networking sites ...

Who the hell would give a 'potential partner' something so private?

Yes, grab the cup, steady your hand, let's wait in the grass like lions until Col comes back...

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RE: What you want or what you need?

And here is Mr Sensible.

Actually, I don't disagree with you, Ambrose. There is dishonesty here, of course there is, in more ways than one...

Also, Karen did mention that Mr Reliable knows about Mr I'm in an unhappy relationship.

RE: What you want or what you need?

Oh no, far more exciting than that!

I'll sink his bloody pirate ship...

RE: What you want or what you need?



Erm, Robert, I know you're a bit crackers, but where did she say that she was innocent?

Or even guilty for that matter?

RE: Your potencial partner has access to your activities online in networking sites ...

Get a grip Mrs!

RE: What you want or what you need?

You're confused now..

Here have a hug and carry on writing...

RE: What you want or what you need?

Keep it to a forum sort of way and we'll be fine...

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RE: What you want or what you need?



Erm, you!

RE: What you want or what you need?

There is nothing I dislike seeing more than the words 'just my humble'honest opinion at the end of a post.

Dutchie, the man who is in a relationship is the one who may well be breaking up the family unit, not the OP.

My family was broken up because one fell out of love with the other, the co -star was a symptom of that.

It is all very well to be puritanical and come across as that the OP is some home wrecker, but come on, that's a bit dated now.

Is she enough to make him leave his partner and child? I dunno, who knows, we don't know him, we don't know her, but she asked us a question.

God, I have never seen such a bunch of folks who bang on about sincerity, fidelity and honesty so much...

I'm very stoic in my views about fidelity, honesty, and family units, and I am not quiet about those views, but I can not bear the responses where there are 'all respect has gone out of the window for me' It's just crap.

And the man is not bloody married, he is in a relationship were they have a child together. READ IT.

RE: What you want or what you need?

Robert, you have your own thread in the EU about you, now sod off over there.

Don't make this about you.

Karen?

Good to see you drop back in, honestly, sometimes...

RE: What you want or what you need?

Thank you...

RE: What you want or what you need?

Oh no, you don't have the cornerstone on being a chauvinistic pig.

Only the a**hole one, I saved that one for you. Nice aren't I?

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RE: What you want or what you need?

What????

RE: What you want or what you need?

I'm retired now, Cris.

I'm something else now, part time.

And don't ask me, I'm not telling the forum. Okay?

RE: Your potencial partner has access to your activities online in networking sites ...

I obviously am too.

I'm well, confused!

RE: Your potencial partner has access to your activities online in networking sites ...

Col, I am a bit confused as to what you are asking.

Why would any person want to have any person's log in details for their online activities and why would any person be daft enough to even consider such a request?

I am a member here and so is my non potential partner. Yet we have never ever considered that we have each other's passwords, I think he would think I had lost my mind if I asked him for it. And I would not, even when we have been in the same house, posting from the same PC, it is not because we are being secretive, it is because we are, erm adults.

RE: Your potencial partner has access to your activities online in networking sites ...



I do not know many subscription sites for online networking, the ones I know are free.

I don't have any potential partners, Col, however, if I did, then I would not be giving them access to anything.

RE: What you want or what you need?



Karen, it explains it all better now. Which is why I put myself in or at least try to, put myself in the posters shoes.

RE: What you want or what you need?

When this subject rears it's head, the one about the 'other' I often think back to my ex hubbie's girlfriend, who was the co-star in our marriage.

And I remember one day, when I met her for lunch when the divorce was a mess, when the kids were being torn apart, I was torn apart and I asked her what she thought, how she was feeling

She looked at me, long and hard and she said 'I love your husband. That is how I feel'.

Karen is not a bad person, I think she has been damn brave coming and asking this question, she knows this place and she would be mighty silly if she did not expect the responses that she has recieved.

But this is not about being a good or bad person, it is about a person being open and asking a very simple question.

Who do I choose?

Choose the one that is right for you, one that you can enjoy the pain and suffering and joy of a full, happy relationship with.

His status quo right now, is not in your question, how he feels, this is about you and only you in this forum...

I don't envy you at all.

RE: What you want or what you need?

Karen...

Hi. (Gulps)

I cannot disect the men involved in this little pickle, I cannot disect you.

But I can say if this was me, I would do the following.

I would ask myself some questions.

1. Can I cope with the fall out of a man who will ultimately have to make a decision about himself, as to whether he sorts himself out and can make the decision about his marriage, can I cope with that?

2. I want to want and I need to need. And I need to want and I want to need. So the man I need? Can he become the one I want also? Not that I can do anything about if he doesn't.

I don't think you can 'pick' any of them, your emotions will not let you, because our emotions do guide us, even when we think our head is in gear. I just don't think you can line both of them up and see which is your best option. I think you have to ask and look at what you are about.

It's a bloody tough question, I am off for a walk, I'll be back later with some more thoughts...

RE: what do you fear most?

It came yesterday, A.

That day.

RE: Which sort of pans do you use?

What a fascinating question.

I use, Zell, Pentole, an Italian make, that are stainless stell with a copper base. The heat is distributed evenly and I have had them for ten years, guaranteed to last a lifetime, whether that is my lifetime, one can only hope.

I think a good set of pans, like knives is a worthwile investment, unless one lives of convenience foods of course.

RE: Did you know that the emissions from cars are deadly to humans.

There is not much weight behind your thread title in that statement, in what is a great topic.

RE: A Problem of Attraction?

I've been thinking about this problem.

I have turned it into how I thought and felt when I got married. I never on the day of my wedding thought that I wanted to be with another person other then him.

During my marriage, I never wanted to be with another person, although I did find other men attractive. I made the choice not to act on that feeling and becasue I loved my husband and I wanted to go home to him and my children and out home, with our car and our black labreador and our cat. I knew from the pit of my stomach, from my mind that I wanted to go home to what I had.


I did not think prior to getting married that I would 'have' to forsake all of my feelings, other people that I may find attractive, I never thought that, I thought I wanted to be with him.

He can only make the choice, of what he wants, who he wants, if he is having feelings for not just 'other' women, but 'a' women, then he, if it were me, I would ask myself, this:

What do I want? Who do I want? It is not hard to remain faithful, it is always harder to be unfaithful, because of the hurt and pain it causes all people.

Finding other people attractive when one is married, or in a relationship is not a crime, it is normal. I find lots of people attractive, I choose to remain faithful. Because it makes my life easier and I could not possibly be with anybody else than the person I am with.

So, I can find nothing other than this man needs to ask himself two very simple questions, what do I want and who do I want?

Advising him to think about stuff before he got married is unhelpful, that is gone now and cannot be undone.

RE: wecome back Imma thread

Jill in the box! I like that and like it even more when Imma is with us.

RE: she's hasn't posted a picture

Beautiful it is.

RE: she's hasn't posted a picture

I see nothing wrong in you admitting that. I would not want to be with a person who I was not attracted to either.

So, my question is this and I support those in when they do not want to have picture here, however.

If it were me and I asked to see a picture of a man that I was looking to meet, and we were in touch via private mail, I would be baffled as to why he was reluctant to show me one, if he refused yet still wanted to meet. I could not help myself in wondering.

It is human nature to want to know what a person looks like, but all you can do is ask her. And then if you do not like what you see, you can get out of it easier if necessary.

RE: A Problem of Attraction?

Yes, I was looking at forom many angles too John.

But as you say in your last paragraph, it boils down to that and that alone.

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