Maybe she does not want to post a picture on the site and maybe she could email one to you. Or maybe she does not have a facility on the machine she is using to mail a picture over.
If you are talking of meeting, then of course what her picture looks like, will only be a guideline, pictures can be deceiving.
Whatever she looks like and whatever your expectations are, then I suggest that you ask her if she would mind that if she could mail a picture over to you.
Indeed, I could never imagine myself coming out with such terms. The German language has the formal and informal, which amuses me.
Yes, we can come across as quite acerbic and I know I can come across as 'prissy' which I can be. I can be headmistressy one moment and get down and dirty the next.
Yes, when it is not something that we are trying to do, it is something that we cannot help. I prefer dealing with a person who can understand the sharp wit, it saves a hell of a lot confusion...
German I studied at school, as I did Latin, it was mandatory, at my school to study Latin, which it is still is in Austria, as it is not a working language, a dormant one. But I never continued Latin. I did not like German as a student, it was not until I lived in Austria, that I began to enjoy the language and use it on a day to day basis. Captain speaks four or five, English being our common language.
I have often been accused of being condescending, superior and haughty, when actually I am not any of those things in my day to day to contacts.
I do consider myself British, it says so on my passport and I certainly do have the British swing on my accent. I work with Americans, I lived there for years and I still have the 'cell phone' and I call the boot of a car, the trunk.
If I am talking about something that I am passionate about, then my tone alters and I think that can be said for most people.
I know Bolton well, my father is a Lancashire lad, my mother is Irish... So the dialects I was exposed to were very wide. Until I came to Europe when I was 14 where no person understood me and then I had to learn to talk all over again in English and in French.
I struggeled when I lived in the US with understanding some of my neighbours and work colleagues.
They also struggled sometimes to understand me even though they would say 'Speak, speak, we love your accent'
My own accent adapts naturally, because of my job where there are 23 languages in use and a lot of dialects, pronunciations are picked up.
The German language is a very gutteral language and the pronunciations are similar to those in the NW of England, with certain words which is something that sounds completely alien to me, even though I was from there as a child.
So I try not concentrate on the pronunciations, more about being understood. Which sort of all falls into place. I also try to keep up with my French with some students who are native French speakers. Languages evolve and it is important to keep up with them to maintain fluency.
The English language has the most dialects throughout the world, easy to work out why.
American English is very different to British English and I am sure the Australian tongue is also.
The BBC English that is spoken is what I would refer to as the nicest English tone, because it has no regional dialect. I was taught English as I teach to a non native speaker, so I have no regional dialect, but I have a British undertone to my accent. Basically, a Notherner would automatically assume I was from the South of the country, and a Southerner would say I had a typical home counties accent. The Northerners would say I had a very 'snobbish' accent, one did a couple or three weeks ago in the Captian's local.
I am not up to date with all the modern 'new' words that appear around, so I do have to ask them to explain, I have an Ex Pats level of the language and given that I was educated in another language, it took me many years to resort back to the English language. Now while I have the position I do, Europeans write very differently to the Brits. And I can come across as being difficult to understand.
We all have our influences with the way we speak, I probably speak more naturally with HIM, because he does not have much of a 'foreign' accent when he speaks English. But if I speak with a person who has a really thick dialect I really do struggle to understand.
Please don't fall for it. There are plenty of free translation websites. The BBC actually run free language programmes online.
If she is trying to get you to join something so that you can communicate with her, then you can make your own mind up about how you communicate.
But I am willing to be that this a ploy to have your private details as in financial vehicle details.
And I am one of the few that give most people the benefit of doubt, but I am certain you are wasting your time here and could well be in danger of being scammed.
I adore telling the crazy one that I love him. It makes me feel good to do that, but when I say I do not want to be asked, it means more than words John, it means that if he feels that he has to ask me, that would make me feel that he is doubting the love, and I would be doing something wrong, it has little to do with me feeling unsure about his love and needing to hear the words, which there is nothing wrong in at all, I saying this from my point of view...
Ah, okay, this explains it better to me, thank you.
I now understand where you were coming from.
And I don't disagree at all with your thoughts, or expectations.
I do find that your penultimate statement is something that is a large statement, in that I think it is wonderful that you have capacity to love so much, yet you seem to think that most people are incapable of giving that to you.
May I say, is that not sort of setting your stall prematurely? As in seeing something that you feel but is not actually what you might receive?
I think you are doing yourself a grave injustice in thinking that way. Because you can only, possibly know what you can give...
I don't disagree John, many people do, there is nowt wrong with that at all, I don't need to hear the words, I don't need to have lots of gifts, he shows me in ways that I could not even begin to put into words...
How many times, if not here, then other places, or from other people have we heard? He/she told me he loved me last night, and I don't know how I feel!' Or ' How long should you wait before you tell a person you love them' Which is ridiclous to my mind, the voiving of the words has a bigger impact for some than being shown love.
I'm just odd, because it is a feeling I have and I receive...
You know like a flower, it does not need to be told it is beautiful, it just is... Or like honest people do not going around saying they are honest, they just are...
Feelings would cause those feelings to change. If he chose to be unfaithful, then that would hurt me and my feelings would change, maybe not lessen but they would change. If he told me whopping porkies, my feelings would change, same as they do when I see him, especially after something like two months, my feelings change...
I am yes, in that I set conditions and I am selfish...
That is my reality and not a perception, I am living that with a man who posts here, you might know him... There is no perception about the love I have, I feel it, I bleed it...
Rather than perception, is it not better to role with the love that we have, as you directed earlier than perceive what we think it should be???
Any relationship between two people, be that parent and child, brother and sister, man and woman, goes in stages, I have never just loved my father and it stops there or my children, their needs change and I alter my feelings to accomodate those feelings along with their needs...
I think love is simple yes, you either love a person or you don't, there is no grey area to love.
I don't need to be told I am loved, I never need to ask for it, I am never unsure of it, I don't yearn to hear the words, because I know I am...
And I have said this many times, don't ask me to tell you that I love you, because you will know when I do. That was always something I had in my head, way before even looking at this place...
I am thinking more and more on this one Madam, because it cannot be equal, I feel differently for him than he does for me, because we cannot possibly feel the same, we are people and we think differently, but we can find an equal path to walk along and build on those feelings.
Yep, this I understand and relate to.
True and again I agree, I think that it is personal. I do not expect him to be thinking the same depth as I am. And I do think, Lethal you have hit the nail on the head, 'expect' Because many people when they love, and I have done it, I wish I could say I have not, I have, that I expected my ex husband to think as I did, that because I loved him, why he could not love me as I did him... Fact was, he was loving someone else, but that's another story! So my hurt kicked in, the feeling of being let down and hurt, because of those expectations.
Yes, good one.
Indeed!
And when he chooses to tell me what he is feeling in those given moments, then I feel it too...
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RE: she's hasn't posted a picture
Hum.Maybe she does not want to post a picture on the site and maybe she could email one to you. Or maybe she does not have a facility on the machine she is using to mail a picture over.
If you are talking of meeting, then of course what her picture looks like, will only be a guideline, pictures can be deceiving.
Whatever she looks like and whatever your expectations are, then I suggest that you ask her if she would mind that if she could mail a picture over to you.