See, I want to explore this further, how can one stop the love at a point? So in essence, is that when one person feels that they are loved equally, that love then stops? Because it is equal?
My love never stops growing, the relationship is growing, deeper. So when we are par, if we both feel that we love each other the same and we are satisfied with that, then what happens?
But I do not expect that he is at the same level as me. I know that with each day, each conversation, time spent together, then it deepens?
I think John has given us excellent words here, and it has made me rethink.
About equal and balanced love, I do not feel that love is a fluid that we can pop in measuring jug to see what level it is at...
And I cannot see myself ever saying the words to him, 'I love you more or less than you love me' And if he said the words to me, I think I might laugh...
Because then he or I would be questioning the love we have for each other and if it has to be questioned, then it is in doubt.
I am feeling that being with one, is monogamous, not being with more than one person at any given time.
This is where your statment 'humans are not inherantly monogamous' raised my interest, because if being with one person is monogamy, then I would have never been with any body else after my divorce.
See, this is why this a good thread, because of the input of thoughts...
I now have to rethink my words Big guy, because while I say I could not be in a relationship with a person if they loved me less, or I loved them less, I can relate to that. I don't believe love can be measured.
Love grows, it evolves, feelings change for each other, how we adjust our feelings to that particular situation and how we feel and I mentioned embracing my feelings as opposed to fighting them.
But, and I say this loosely, if I felt I was not loved then I would have to leave it...
I am in my third relationship, I am not talking flings, I am talking relationships, where there is a building of something that has become a unit and two people have become a 'we'
I like your third paragraph, in that I believe I can happily say that one person for me is good and something that I want to build on.
So at the time I am in a relationship, I only want to be with them, even thought there are millions of people that I could fall in love with, I choose to be with one.
When I was single for a couple of years then I choose to with nobody.
Tough question. I have the pleasure of watching my father with his wife and they have been together for 30 years and I know they will remain together until death parts them.
Is it healthy? For me yes, I am healthier in a long term relationship.
I can only go off what makes me feel healthy and content. If a person feels that way being with multiple partners then they are healthy and happy people.
I don't think there is any straight answer here, I do feel that only people can go off what they feel and what is right for them.
I cannot see any relationship working in this manner Riz.
Loving to me means feeling fulfilled, I want to fulfil and I want to be fulfilled, I will not be in one where I am not. I cannot set myself up for pain and hurt if I was loved less and I cannot be with a person who I would ultimately hurt badly. Just not in me.
While there are times that our feelings adjust, I work with them as opposed to against them and I out myself, so if I am not feeling so good, I am learning to stick my hand up and say 'Hey, let's talk about this'
If one is feeling less loved, I believe that this is a toxis situation that breeds resentment and anger and I cannot be in such a place. Even though, we, Captain and I are apart for some periods of time, we have that balance, healthy and remain as close as we are, I still feel fulfilled and happy with my relationship and I hate the partings, but I can cope.
I can as can he still maintain a life apart, we have the contact, we have the feelings...
If I felt as though I was not loved, I would be walking.
I agree. I cannot say much on this topic, I don't dislike religion at all, I have alot of time for any religion and I have friends that follow religion.
Hi you, big bro, yes, it is. With that madman... I was at the golf then back to my hotel for an early dinner. We got horribly plastered last night and sang songs and drank the hotel bar dry...
Tonight is an early one as a long day at the golf tomorrow.
Oh it took my breath away, Ken. The rush of emotion was immense for me, he felt the emotion first because he saw them being born, me I was just exhausted.
My ex husband was in a chair when I realised that the baby was coming and the midwife said the monitor was not picking up the heartbeat, he jumped up and I was way too far out on the old gas and air, to care at that point.
But to see this big man, with hands like shovels, pick up the babies, and see him checking fingers, toes, and everything else was frankly, just wonderful.
One of the memories about my ex husband that I cherish.
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Thank you nomindgames, been ages since I have seen you.