I can be a bit harsh sometimes, but I do find it so saddening that people rely on a place to meet a person. Easy for me to say, this was always more of a playground for me.
Ooooh, I'll be in your sunshine state in 24 hours.
I also think it is not the message, it is the deliverance of the message.
If the mother approaches her daughter, then she may rebel even more and refuse to deal with it. Who knows?
I know how a child I know has dealt with it and it was nothing short of amazing to meet his brith mother and feel loved, his adoptive parents supported him hugely when he requested to meet his birth mother.
Her mother needn't worry. If the daughter wants to know, as NMP said, then she will ask.
There is never a wrong time for her daughter to ask. And her mother should be prepared for that, the agency which handled the adoption should be able to give her some guidelines.
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RE: What do you think of when you see me??
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