Another reason why I would not come here Ambrose, because I think people do say the words that people want to hear.
If someone said to me 'it's his loss' or you are so wonderful, I'm likely to push them off the nearest cliff.
My friends know me best, they know how to get me out of it and how to help me through the recovery phase. And as you know, I am talking a relationship such as I am in now, I am not talking about a person that declares undying love for me online. I just cannot bear the cliches that come about and I would be fooling myself if I thought I and I mean I, peraonally would get the support from here. I'd get those jibes that would be from people who would get off thinking that I was in pain and those I have little time for either.
Yes, some people enjoy the downfall of people who are suffering, yet the ones that are supportive far outweigh those...
It is hard for some to understand, so it may be that insenstivity is sometimes taken as such as opposed to cold hard sense, which is what I always seek in dark times, I need that slap across the face and somebody to say, 'step it up a tad and come out of this'
Getting there, I know I am over the limit, because I have weighed my bags. I knew I would be as I have bought things for my lad who sent me a list as long as my arm. I am just doing the last of my laundry, have cleaned out the fridge and closing up the apartment here for some time now. While I am looking forward to my time, I do sense a feeling a sadness that I am leaving my bed, my home for some time and not quite sure when I will see it again.
Ooooh, that sounds like a good time, and champagne is always good. Many years since I have been in Reims.
I did not realise that voting was mandatory in Belgium, wow, that is well not sure, how to manage my answer to that one.
No, I know you did not mean that, I was exploring my own mind, given Ambrose's post.
When people announce they are an 'item' the sceptics are out. There will always be some who advise wait until you meet, the dreaded CS curse...
With us, we never made an announcement, it became evident from threads that we were becoming close and we state something that we had discussed, bit there was no calculated plan to hide or not hide. We have a high humour within our relationship, humour is something that is very much in there, so we would use humourous posts and people understood it.
Some of them anyway.
We have been a partnership for some months now, we have met many times without making it known, because it is our life.
I am a little confused as to where you are going with this, are you stating that coming out people are scorned and if you do not come out and then make it known, you are still scorned?
To expand from my own experience is that we all have an online persona and we all build expectations and then when people they feel let down.
It is so easy to get carried away with words, I know I can. But there is a different set of feeling come into play when it is staring one in the face.
I do not hide my feelings here, I choose not to share them. Therefore, I am not executing who I really am on here, I am different in life, because it is my life, here is not. Like playing a sport for me, it is my recreation time and the home life stays at home.
Having met a person on here, realising that it is not all about here and that we do have a life we are both very different to what we portray here, that is not being dishonest or hiding, it is that this a forum where people we are never likely to meet enter our lives.
As Ambrose correctly pointed out, it is easier to have fantasies remotely and declare all manner of love, then be devastated when it does not work out, but it is not real it has to be real before one can feel the sadness if it does not work out.
That is not to say that two people who connect cannot enjoy each other online and plan out their meeting.
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RE: Is it Time to Stop Eating Fish??
It's a good question Lago and I completely support that we should eat less.Even though I love tuna, the fresh stuff, I do feel bad eating it, I have not eaten it for a year.
So I do give a damn yes, I don't eat farmed fish either.
Your penultimate poll option? There is plenty of information around for those that do give a damn.
Something I have been aware for a few years now.
And I can be really stupid at times.