Im a single Mum too Kezza , I found however its cheaper to take my family overseas for a holiday than to holiday in Aus especially Asia , I took both my kids to Thailand we got good bang for our buck and we are soooo going back But with the Aussie dollar so good & the american economy so shabby its really cheap to travel to Hawaii and the us at the moment , Not to mention the bagains to be had We are not suying any clothes shoes bags makeup etc antill we get to Hawaii where things are a fraction of the price 100% genuine and great choice ,We decided not to do xmas gifts or birthday gifts for each other and rather go on travels .2 weeks in hawaii with 5 star accomadation airfare with Hawaian airlines transfers buffet breaky is under 2 grand pp this inc an island hop to Maui!!! Meals are about $6 so its a very affordable holiday Thailand was even cheaper
I have the travel bug , I spent 3 weeks in Thailand Last year and am going to Hawaii next febuary for 2 weeks , tens days in Oahu, on waikiki beach then 4 nights in Maui.Im thinking seriously about vietnam next.
Well its all ova ,I didnt like his reaction and he didnt like mine , Thanks for all your advise , somethigs are just not meant to be , for the record Blizz he wasnt just a FB we were lovers theres a difference, Anyway shows ova nothing to see here ...
Ok but its still not fair I mean he didnt scape by to get a deposit together , he doidnt work day and nite to prove to the bank he was a good risk!!Why should he be entitled to the profits my property gathers ???I dont need his money or his "contributions" to pay off my home or support myself and family so it isnt fair he should just be allowed to pay rent I wonder if one was to make the parner sign a lease ???
Thankyou Serene , I have many reasons for my reluctance to cohabitate , My son is doing Uni and taking a year off to travel to Canada & the states so this is my last real year being with him. I like my own space too , I hadnt even got to him leaving a toothbrush let alone sharing my wardrobe .....
Ive heard this so many times Wash , and it sucks I Know "its materiaklistic" but hey I like having a roof over my head I like knowing this is mine and I can do with what I want when I want ! I felt very vunerable when I had no home , I used to worry about my future I never want to be finacially vunerable again. I should have said can we talk about this when you come over But I just didnt I just said "no' ...my bad but hey he knew how I felt and should not have asked on the phone .
"Contribution " does not need to be financial Even emotional support and home maintanence can and Is taken into account I think if one person owns the other should be able to contribute board /rentonly not get a stake in your pie ! My property has increased in value by $80,000 since I bought it in october( I got a bargain ) Any person "contributing " is entitled to a portion of capitial gain dependant on the time spent in the relationship . The only way I can see not to get screwed would be to rent my home out and rent something together.
I do agree that a straight out NO is not the best response I could have given however I had planned to elaborate on my no at a time more suited to the conversation , he was after all supposed to visit a few days after the call.Kee in mind I had on previous occaisions stated that I would not likely live with a man/marry again untill my daughter was older ( she is 12)I have plenty of valid reasons as to why I dont want to cohabitate and would have shared them all however he took me by suprise ova the ph and I was busy cooking dinner , He is still silent!Ive not contacted him again & I dont intend too!!!gee glad I didnt live with him
Not bloody likely!! I dont want to live with him, Picking up his jocks and washing his socks NO NO NO I Much prefer going Out for dinner or to see a band or show weekends away flowers gifts and romance !!! I was very happy with the current arrangement I mean seriously why down trade?
The kids and I love our family dynamic just as it is .
he didnt give me a chance he sprung it on me during a quick chat on the phone I was cooking dinner ffs !! then out of the blue can I move in??? Please !!
lunch at the pub followed by 9 holes of golf a massage before a bottle of champers a block of chocy and a dvd ....dont worry it wont be a chick flick but it may have you reaching for the tissues
He text me after our convo saying I wont be down this w/end not sure when Ill be back.so you can imagine ide like to say a few words ....I ignore it and sent 2 normal texts how ru etc and zip silence I neva picked him for a sook but looks like i was mistaken sulky menare the biggest turn off ....
RE: Travel
Im a single Mum too Kezza , I found however its cheaper to take my family overseas for a holiday than to holiday in Aus especially Asia , I took both my kids to Thailand we got good bang for our buck and we are soooo going back But with the Aussie dollar so good & the american economy so shabby its really cheap to travel to Hawaii and the us at the moment , Not to mention the bagains to be had We are not suying any clothes shoes bags makeup etc antill we get to Hawaii where things are a fraction of the price 100% genuine and great choice ,We decided not to do xmas gifts or birthday gifts for each other and rather go on travels .2 weeks in hawaii with 5 star accomadation airfare with Hawaian airlines transfers buffet breaky is under 2 grand pp this inc an island hop to Maui!!! Meals are about $6 so its a very affordable holiday Thailand was even cheaper