I think we should agree to disagree I feel your posts are not helping someone who obviously is having a very hard time trying to come to terms with the fact that he cannot see his own kids ...its not fair and he has come here looking for support , he also came here with alot of anger however he has removed himself and apologised for any inapropriate comment ,I tried to just put myself in his shoes jem , if it was me and my kids ide be dev-ed , Ide not want to hear "get ova it" or youll be right Ide want some empathy Ide want people to understand how bloody awful I feel. generally Jem Ive regarded your posts and imput as very positive and supportive , this however I felt the need to disagree I hope you can see where I am coming from . Kizz
I am sorry for your loss Jem but his children are not dead they are being kept from him, he shouldnt have to "cope" with that if he can do anything to rectify the situation he should do it. Divorce & separation should not mean that one parent has to grieve for the loss of his or her children, not when that parent wants to be a part of their life in every way Losing a child to death is totally different.
Your right I dont know what happened in your life, thats tough asbout your neice it must have hurt you by the sounds ,and if thats the case how can you say to anyone that they will cope If they never see there children again? That he shouldnt do everything in his power to keep his relationship with his kids? Maybe you would be prepared yo walk away , but it sounds like you fought but lost your neice , hasnt he got the right to do so for his own daughters??????
This has nothing to do with me judging you Jem because you are childless, but to sit there and say ,if you never see your kids again youll get over it , shows everyone here that you obviosly have no idea about the bond between an parent and their child .
I always thought if the custodial Parent has good reason ie work family support systems then she can move by law however thew custodial parent is liable to pay for fares for visitation 1 week per school holidays ,If she can prove that she has an emotional need to get the hell away she CAN take the children interstate evn if you disagree.
Normalguy , Just remember the women on here are not your wife , we are not all like her. If you want advise we are more than happy to give you the female version of what we think .You really shouldnt be dating while you feel like this its not fair to any girl take some time work out your access get life rolling as a single man .Work on negotiating what you both need as parents in the best interest of your children Kizzy
Ditto however mine lives less than 5 kilometres away , he drives past his daughter in the street .... I went to mediation to try and make him see his daughter ,,, Guess what , They said kids have no right to see their father you cant make someone a dad if they dont want to be .But you know what his loss I got 2 great young people who love me they always will we are doing great alone happier than eva.Ide have liked them to have a dad in their life but he chooses not to be one .
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RE: Why are you still single?
I think we should agree to disagree I feel your posts are not helping someone who obviously is having a very hard time trying to come to terms with the fact that he cannot see his own kids ...its not fair and he has come here looking for support , he also came here with alot of anger however he has removed himself and apologised for any inapropriate comment ,I tried to just put myself in his shoes jem , if it was me and my kids ide be dev-ed , Ide not want to hear "get ova it" or youll be right Ide want some empathy Ide want people to understand how bloody awful I feel.generally Jem Ive regarded your posts and imput as very positive and supportive , this however I felt the need to disagree I hope you can see where I am coming from .
Kizz