I don't think your alone in your thoughts there pat...many men and women think the same....someone else's children are a lot harder than your own to deal with... I've liked older guys and they have been there done that scenario, and I've understood, no point in me pursuing something that won't work...I'll be a mum forever, my freedom is a little way off yet...it's just about finding the right puzzle piece....
Personally it hasn't been a problem for me...I tend to connect with guys who either like children , or have some themselves so they understand. I'm quite level headed when it comes to choosing a partner and if I think that a family life wouldn't be for the guy then I keep them at arms length. I don't need any unnecessary pain by choosing someone that could complicate my life further. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying its always easy, but this is my world and I'm willing to share it, but I expect someone to join in and not try to change it as my children were there first lol!
I like my baggage to match, looks nice on the trolley and easy to find when coming round the carousel....
Seriously we all have baggage...it's just about how we pack it away after the holiday and whether we decide to unpack or leave it where it is..... I've learnt not to take as much with me anymore as I always end up coming home with an extra case lol
RE: what do you want?
Dont we all....keep working hard and it will come....