Let_Us Forum Posts (1,017)

RE: Age Gap

Hi Treasha!

I don't KNOW you, and your question may, or may NOT be personal (since you're fairly young), but are you familiar with the term "hypergamy"? I ask, because girls from YOUR area, have QUITE A REPUTATION for it! Marriage as a means of IMPROVING one's "status/situation". Now, I DOUBT that many have a problem, with someone wishing to improve their lot in life. And CERTAINLY, relationships CAN/DO play a role in one's ability to "better" themself. But "romance/marriage" ISN'T SUPPOSED TO "BE" about improving you "status/situation"! It's SUPPOSED to "BE" about loving/caring! LIFELONG companionship!

I DOUBT that there's 1 elder person that even THINKS about "retirement" being in ANY WAY connected to romantic liaisons. The FACT that YOU mention it, indicates that "financial" considerations ARE of AT LEAST SOME importance, to YOU, in WHO you "hook up" with.

And, there ARE some older people that thing younger people live in a "disposable" world. Where EVERYTHING, INCLUDING relationships, ARE disposable, when they're no longer "useful". But I think MOST of us feel that, as always, EVERYBODY is different! And such conclusions MUST BE MADE on a case by case basis.

And, #3, as MORE "players" tend to BE younger, than older, AND older people HAVE more experience in/at BEING "played", certainly, older people are GOING TO BE CONSCIOUS of the possibility that a younger person IS TRYING to play them! But that DOESN'T MEAN that an older person automatically assumes that a younger person IS playing them.

Why do you ASK such a question? Are YOU dealing with such a "gap"? If so, "I" would advise openness, honesty, and communications as the method of overcoming such an obstacle! But then, a "player" would tell whatever lies they feel will aid THEM, in getting what THEY want. So, at best, it's a slow process. Good luck!

RE: What do people remember the most about you after they first meet you?

RE: What do people remember the most about you after they first meet you?

FAR older, I'll ADMIT! "VASTLY SUPERIOR"? Did YOUR name USED to be Lewis Carroll? Have you fallen down a rabbit hole, and LOST your way? Oxford and Cambridge aren't even "Honorable Mentions" in the Top 5, anymore! And, as FAR as I know, THAT'S THE BEST & BRIGHTEST you got! But you DO have a NATIONAL soap opera, for a royal family! And even Trump can't compete with THAT!

RE: What do people remember the most about you after they first meet you?

YES! There you are! I checked out your profile, since you have NEW pics up! And you've changed EVERYTHING! (I THINK! I can't recall what you had, when I looked, before. ) I LIKED your "I'm Rich!" routine! The "Call ME, and I WILL!" I print as a T-shirt design, already. Anyway, HI! Haven't caught you "online" recently! OH! And your "I WANT SOME" post! I got a GOOD "side view" in your new pics, and TRUST me, you NEITHER WANT, or NEED "some"! You're doin' JUST FINE, M! (PLEASE don't come here and HURT me! ) Oh! And sorry to hear - Well, NOT sorry - HAPPY to hear that you got such a good laugh, that you sputtered your tea all over the keyboard!

RE: What do people remember the most about you after they first meet you?

We DON'T hold grudges, One! We GET - NO! NOT even! We get AHEAD!

RE: What do people remember the most about you after they first meet you?

How short ARE you, Dee? A FANTASY come TRUE! LITTLE women CAN BE a LOT of "fun"! There's SO MUCH you can "do" WITH them, that's IMPOSSIBLE with FULL-SIZED women! (DON'T ASK! I'm NOT telling!)

RE: What do people remember the most about you after they first meet you?

The PERTINENT question, as regards YOU, Ms. Gin, is NOT whether you KNOW! But whether YOU CARE!

RE: What was/is the best thing u've done in ur life so far ?

ALWAYS! My friend! I ENJOY breaking trails! NOT following along in OTHER'S footsteps!

Footsteps

As I watch
The moon descends

A raven calls
To the rising sun
In this morning’s frost

Under the spreading boughs of an ancient Maple
I watch an old fisherman
Preparing his boat for the day
By the flickering light of his torch

I hear the first ringing
Of the bells of the ancient temple
Wreathed in the clouds
That shroud the weathered crags by my home

They are an old friend
Calling to me
Reminding me
Of the swift passage of the years

And the unknown future
That awaits my footsteps
On this morning’s trail


If I ONLY went where OTHERS go, I'd have to contend with THEIR "ways"! And I'd NEVER see or do ANYTHING that HADN'T been done/seen/experienced BEFORE! New and/or novel IS "stimulating", to ME! But I HAVE to admit that, I AM starting to get "lazy"! But you KEEP ON getting BETTER, with that English "humour", Harbal! ONE of these days, you WILL make me laugh! I'm ALMOST SURE of it!

RE: Wanted

NO! You DON'T, M! Just IMAGINE the problems SHE has!

#1. 99% of the men who she talks to, DON'T talk to HER! But to her breasts!

#2. I used to have a lady friend who had such L-A-R-G-E breasts! (Maybe EVEN BIGGER, for her size! MY lady friend was only approximately 148/150 cm tall!) And her breasts were SOOO "heavy" that they caused her back problems! Spinal problems! To the extent that she finally had to have surgery, to REMOVE part of her mammary glands, to reduce the weight!

#3. While you're "young", and your "muscles" can STILL support that weight, you ladies "appreciate" all the "attention" such breast WILL get you! But, by the time you're 40, unsupported, such breasts are going to be dangling down around your belly button (or lower)! And they're going to be a CONSTANT "chore", for you to "present" them, "attractively"!

#4. Your "choice" in clothing would be SEVERELY "curtailed"! If, for NO OTHER REASON, than that manufacturers just AREN'T going to mass produce as LARGE a "variety" of cloths, for so SMALL a market! So, UNLESS you are a seamstress, or CAN AFFORD to hire one, the selections available, to such women, is MUCH MORE limited, than that of a "typically" breasted woman (for western Caucasian women - approximately "34 C").

#5. For MANY men (such as MYSELF) L-A-R-G-E breast are NOT "attractive"! Myself, like many men, PREFER "slimmer", to MORE "voluptuous" women! (Just THINK of the image of "beautiful" woman, that Madison Avenue, and OTHER advertisers have been "selling" the public, for AT LEAST the last 60 years!) You WON'T FIND a high level model, with such large breasts!

There ARE other reasons, M! But I THINK that's ENOUGH, to get you to AT LEAST reconsider the DESIRABILITY of such EXCESSIVE endowment! Believe me! Having lived with such a lady, having such LARGE breasts is NOT the "pleasure" those of you who DON'T have them THINK they are! It's NOT like they're a NECESSITY, because you've got to feed three kids with 'em, today! ENJOY the freedom of NOT having to wear MASSIVE and CONSTRAINING bras, 24/7! JMO

RE: Wanted

God bless GOD! He invented the BEST, MOST RESILIENT "bumpers" EVER invented! I THINK yer right, Rainy! THOSE "bumpers" look THEY would be a LOT OF "FUN" to bounce around - IN/ON!

RE: Wanted

Well, when we FIRST met each other, my friend, SOME people were saying that our "dispute" was the result of MY inability to "appreciate" English (YOUR) humour! And my original post, HERE, was a statement that THIS "humour" I COULD understand! It WAS "FUN"ny, to me! And I WAS attempting to "compliment" YOU, on the IMPROVEMENT, in/on/of your "humour"! So YES! For a "Limey" You're OK, with/by ME! SOMETIMES you even MAKE sense! And ARE funny! So get 'em while they're hot, kid! A you KNOW, by NOW, I'm NOT OVERLY generous, with my "compliments"!

RE: What do people remember the most about you after they first meet you?

I agree that the amount of "twinkle" in an eye, affects a person's REMEMBRANCE of those eyes, Rainy! And "warmth" of "look/feel" bears a relationship to people's response to a person. But, with ME (I think), it's more the "intensity" of my "attention". When I'm "with" you, I'm ALL 5,000% "IN" TO you! Which (in MY experience, anyway) is kinda rare. Most people are only PARTIALLY "with" you, even in "deep discussion", with you. And you CAN "read" THIS, in a person's "attention". I'm NOT saying it very well, but language has NEVER been MY strong point.

RE: What do people remember the most about you after they first meet you?

How would "I" know? I'm NOT them? POORLY phased question, Galrads!

But, to ANSWER your question, it's been brought to my attention (by various people) that it's NOT what "I" HAD ALWAYS imagined it WOULD be (my bright copper/gold hair - when I was younger), but was, in THEIR firmly stated opinion, my eyes! I HAVE been told that I have the "bluest" eyes some have ever seen (although, in the mirror, to ME, they look as "grayish", as they do blue). But I THINK, MORE than the color of my eyes, it's the intensity of my "look" that, makes them "memorable". When I'm in a one on one conversation with a person, I'm FULLY ENGAGED with that person! Pretty much CONSTANT "eye contact" (scrutiny)! ESPECIALLY if it's a female that I find attractive, and thus, AM interested in "knowing" EVERYTHING about!

RE: What do you notice first on a profile?

Since I very rarely "search" profiles (since my FIRST days on this site), about the only way I'll LOOK at a person's profile, is if I happen to spot a picture "interesting" to ME (for SOME reason, usually - but NOT ALWAYS - of a woman that's "attractive", to ME), when I log on, and they show us all the "whose online" profile pictures. So it's the photo that gets me TO the profile, to read it. But I DO read the ENTIRE profile, BEFORE I'll message somebody. And, since I AM a fun-loving, IRREVERENT type of person, in REAL life, I'm MUCH MORE likely to message somebody that "sees" the profiles a NECESSARY absurdity, and thus, ISN'T particularly "serious" (I am kind, caring, honest, and an ALL AROUND "perfect" person that you DON'T deserve!) about it, than I am those that DON'T "see" them as SORTA "ridiculous" (In that NOBODY IS very "good" as seeing themselves "HONESTLY", as OTHER people "see" them, anyway!), and treat them "lightly". I'm MORE likely to look at the profile of a person that attracts my attention by a comment on these forums. But I've already checked out the profiles of those women that participate in these forums, whose posts have "intrigued" me (for one reason or another), so I don't look at profiles, much, anymore.

WHEN I WAS checking out profiles, once I pulled up a profile, the FIRST thing I look for, was the "Last Online" date. (I STILL have some unanswered messages from my early days, when I hadn't realized there were a BUNCH of profiles whose owners are NOT ACTIVELY participating in this craziness!) IF the "Last Online" date is OVER 3 months old, I WON'T BOTHER even reading the profile, because attempting to contact such persons is "pointless".

IF I'm REALLY bored with all the NONSENSE you folks are posting, I MIGHT check out the NEW Members listings. But that's about the extent of my reviewing profiles.

RE: Wanted

Variations on your "Sweetheart"? In every land in the world! (At least, in AL those I'VE visited!) But my "limey" comment was directed towards YOU, Harbal! As YOU are the ORIGINATOR of this thread, poster of the picture, AND a resident of the UK! It was NOT a "reference" to the lady of YOUR "choice", in ANY way. Have a pint on me!

RE: SHUT THE F

I don't KNOW the results of attempting to put a squirrel in a cage and bring them INTO your home. I've NEVER tried THAT! WOULDN'T "WANT" to BE in "jail". So it doesn't OCCUR to ME that I'd have the RIGHT to put a squirrel in one!

But IF you're asking can you get one to TRUST YOU, enough that he'll ALLOW you to feed him, get him to come "play" with you, get his COOPERATION to "schedule" interaction with you, then YES! THAT CAN BE done! But DOING so, requires a LOT of time, AND patience, on YOUR part! Remember, he's a WILD animal! And YOU are A LOT bigger, than him! So you're SCARY, to a squirrel. His LIFE depends on his HEALTH! An injured animal has POOR survival chances. So it's going to A WHILE, for him to LET YOU get close enough, to HIM, that you MIGHT be able to "harm" him. It's a BASIC lesson, of nature. Self-survival.

The ONLY way to OVERCOME this survival instinct, in a squirrel, a Blue Jay, a bear, ANY "WILD" animal, is to teach them to TRUST you! And THAT can ONLY happen OVER TIME, with MUCH interaction. But squirrels (like MOST animals, ESPECIALLY in "peopled" environments) ARE curious, about the things they DON'T know/understand, in their environment. So you CAN "entice" them, into interactions, with you. And, with time and patience, you CAN overcome their "natural" distrust of you. The thing IN YOUR FAVOR, in attempting to "tame" a "wild" animal, is that animals, like people, ARE creatures of habit. So, IF you have a particular animal, in your area, that you'd LIKE to make "friends" with, your FIRST "move" SHOULD BE to observe it. Study it's "habits". Do you see it in a certain area, at a certain time, each day. Does it DO some action (such as feeding) at a particular place, or a particular time. IF you CAN establish a "schedule" for the animal, then initiating interactions WITH that animal becomes MUCH easier. IF your "squirrel" forages for food in a particular tree (spot), each day. You can star by leaving food for him at that spot. (But you NEED to tailor the food you leave, to the animal you want to "tame"! If some OTHER animal eats it, BEFORE HE gets it, it's NOT going to help you "tame" him.

There's NOT time or room for me to walk you THROUGH the entire "process", here. But if you're thinking of a specific animal, in YOUR area. message me with the "details", and I'll help you work out a "plan" that has a HIGH % of success. But it's NOT going to happen, overnight! ESPECIALLY with an animal that's NOT "familiar" with humans, at all.

RE: The Biggest Mistake you can make is...

#1. You're ONLY "a pupil" in the sense that WE'RE ALL "pupils" of LIFE, Jac! YOU are FAR from ignorant, or insensitive!

#2. You're RIGHT! ALL pertinent information SHOULD BE incorporated in life's lessons! And IT IS! But SOMETIMES, it left to US perceive/interpret/recognize/understand the "information" that IS "available", to us! Learning to divine the UNSPOKEN/UNOBVIOUS IS an essential to the "learning" process. If you CAN'T "see" beyond what IS presented, you'll NEVER learn MORE that what you're "taught"!

#3. Logic is NOT the ONLY modality of learning/knowledge! And challenge is the ONLY path that CAN BE taken!

But, AT LEAST YOU, are engaged in thinking (which IS more than MOST can say, I think)! Which I APPLAUD!

RE: Wanted

Now THIS IS humor "I" can understand, Harbal! And your girl is NOT BAD (for a Limey!)

RE: The Biggest Mistake you can make is...

There's a DIFFERENCE between "being offended/taking umbrage", Jac, and responding to "CRIMES"! Taking umbrage/being offended is a response to somebody's THINKING! Whereas responding to somebody's ACTIONS (torture and execution of children) is a WHOLE DIFFERENT question of "morality"! I (AND KL, I think) aren't implying that WRONG ACTION should NOT be dealt with, in and by WHATEVER MEANS are open and necessary! But that "FEELING" offended is a useless, pointless exercise in DOING nothing - of benefit to yourself, OR others! You WISH TO ACT on YOUR "morality", that's your right! NO! Your OBLIGATION! But you're CHOOSING to ACT, in re: an ACT! Being offended/taking umbrage is NOT an "ACT"! It's a "feeling" - that MAY stimulate an action - but ABSENT that "ACTION" is COMPLETELY pointless and a waste of time and energy! And repression/oppression IS NOT an automatically incorporated/promoted aspect of NOT "taking offense/umbrage" at something one MIGHT "feel" offended by! There's the old saying, "I may disagree with what you say, but I'll defend to the death, your right to say it!". I THINK/FEEL it applies, in THIS case! But defending a person's right to SAY something, is a FAR CRY from defending his right to DO something! Again, Jac, a difference between thought/speech, and action! "Offense" (in this case - UMBRAGE) at the spoken word, is NOT benefiting ANYONE! IF a spoken word "offends" you, then SPEAK UP/SUPPORT a different "view". If an ACT offgends you, then ACT against it! IF somebody ACTS, and YOU COUNTERACT, THAT IS entirely different than "feeling - without acting"! The "offense" that KL is speaking on, is the "feeling" that is ONLY "internalized"! Whereas YOU are addressing "EXTERNALIZED" offense. Two DIFFERENT things!

RE: The Biggest Mistake you can make is...

KL, can you PLEASE tell WHY you're hell bent of trying to educate people - WHO AREN'T interested in LEARNING anything? As a PROFESSIONAL teacher, I'd had thought you would have learned the FUTILITY of THAT, by now! I'm SURE you're familiar with the old saw, "There are none so blind s they who will not see." I AGREE with it. But those who "will not see" don't piss me off as MUCH as those who "DON'T WANNA LOOK/SEE". And there IS a difference! I'm NOT naming names! I'm BEING as "nice" as I LIABLE to be. But I AM a little surprised, at you!

RE: Who is the Shyest CS Member

Krinka???? What have they DONE to you? YOU certainly AREN'T shy, But I miss your lovely face! (Daring me to comment!)

RE: Who is the Shyest CS Member

I think this IS the first time I've EVER agreed with ANYTHING you posted, Lee!

RE: Who is the Shyest CS Member

Alright! Quit smoozing and trying to snuggle up to Heavenly, Galrads! She's a NICE girl! NOT fit company for rascals like YOU!

RE: Who is the Shyest CS Member

The "shy-est" member on CS? I'm SURE none of US would know! NOBODY who's a regular contributor to the forums is "shy"! IF someone of CS was/IS shy, I'm sure we boisterous braggarts and loudmouths on the forums would never notice them! Have a happy Easter ALL!

RE: Why r u on Cs

PS: Happy Easter, all!

RE: Why oh Why do Jealousy eat u up ?

Depends on the man (bloke), M! EVERY man is at least SLIGHTLY different. We're JUST as varied as you ladies. There ARE certain "traits" that MOST women "look for", in a man. Humor, confidence, personal "attractiveness", hygiene, productivity/protection, etc. And the same holds true for MOST men. And, to a degree, men and women value the SAME traits (differing MORE, in degree, than kind). So, while I COULD give you "generalities, M, the ONLY specifics I could tell you, would ONLY apply to me, specifically, in the aggregate. So IF you wish to hear THOSE, message me privately.

RE: How's Easter treating u ?

YES! PLEEEEEEEEEEASE!

RE: Scapegoat head.

But it's a PERFECTLY GOOD "assertion", Harbal! As LONG AS you make the ASSUMPTION that MAN IS Satan! And there's A LOT OF "EVIDENCE" that points IN that direction! Man IS the proximate cause of ALL the world's problems, today, as far as I'm AWARE of them! And ALL those problems ARE within man's ability to correct! I'm NOT going to go INTO all the ways that man CAN BE seen, as Satan, here and now. There's NOT room, and I DON'T have the inclination. But it's NOT a F-A-R stretch, to come to such a conclusion!

I LIKE your "play on words"! "Dive the guy (Satan) a break, for God's sake!" I got a smile out of THAT!

RE: What are 10 Easy Steps to Simplify Your Finances and Enrich Your Life

I have NO IDEA if there ARE 10 "Easy Steps to Simplify Your Finances and Enrich Your life", Galrads. Or 5, or 50. But I WILL tell you a few things "I" do, to make "things" simpler, for ME.

#1. NO checks. I HAVE checking accounts (in fact, 3, in 3 different banks). But I DON'T write checks. (In fact, I DON'T HAVE checks FOR any of the 3 checking accounts I have!) Writing checks means that I'll have to maintain and balance a checkbook. By eliminating checks, I eliminate this "work", and so, SIMPLIFY my life/finances.

#2. I PAY for EVERYTHING (except my payments on my credit cards) via credit card. The advantage of THIS, is that, at the end of the statement period the credit company sends me an itemized list of my expenditures for the period. Plus, today, MOST cards will give you a rebate of some percentage of your purchases. So the credit company provides me with the records I need for tax purposes (in a neat, small and convenient form), plus I get a small price break on ALL my purchases.

#3. I pay ALL my credit cards via direct wire transfers from one of my checking accounts. I set it up FOR that purpose, and, when I receive my monthly statement FOR that account, it provides me with a small convenient record of my payments which is easily saved. And thus, the bank does my record keeping FOR me.

#4. The DISADVANTAGE of using cash for all my purchases is manifold. I would NEED to carry around sufficient cash for my needs, said cash being subject to loss or theft. And UNRECOVERABLE, in EITHER case. (Whereas, with credit cards, a fraudulent purchase on a stolen or lost credit card IS recoverable!) I DON'T get discounts on my purchases. (I have an American Express card that pays me 3% back, on all grocery store purchases! Can you imagine trying to to bargain with a grocery store manager for a discount, at the register?)

#5. What money I have, IN EXCESS to my immediate needs, I invest in certain readily convertible assets, that I don't have to protect/watch over, personally. But that are HELD for me, at secure locations, within quick transportation range. There are a variety of such assets available, allowing me to diversify my holdings. Thus reducing my exposure to the risk of any one market's collapse. And I receive updates on my holdings from the agencies holding my assets, as a matter of course. So I have convenient records for whatever needed purpose.

This is beginning to get out of hand. So those 5 are enough to reduce your workload and ease your record keeping responsibilities.

RE: Who has been the most important person in your life on Connecting Singles?

Posting selfies again, Galrads? People will begin to talk!