Let_Us Forum Posts (1,017)

RE: What's the difference between the Irish and the English

THAT'S the FEISTY Irish lassie I've come to know and love! Give 'em, hell, Dee!

RE: What's the difference between the Irish and the English

Good for you, Dee! If ONLY more people were as thoughtful! I KNOW you "hate" it, because you've said so, BUT

And I WAS going to make THIS comment, SOONER or LATER! But HERE seems as good a place as ANY! There IS a difference, between the Irish and the English! The Irish are PREDOMINANTLY "Kells" (Celtic), while the English are mainly Anglo (with some Teutonic and Pictish thrown in). And BOTH groups have an admixture of Scandinavian/Norse tossed in, for "flavor"! (Where did you think the Irish redheads came from?)

RE: Your opinion here/ Make CS grrrrrreat ;)

I DON'T know about "Blogs" because I don't go there. But your second comment, limiting everybody to 1 post per day, would defeat the WHOLE PURPOSE of the forums! The forums are meant to provide a place where w can interact wit each other! Get to KNOW each other! And if you limit the number of posts allowed, to one a day, then there might as well NOT BEany forums! ALL "banter" will cease! The "interaction", back and forth, will end. And the object of having a way for us all to get to know each other better, to create a "community", would be defeated! No! That's the ONE THING you DON'T want to do!

But one thing that MIGHT be useful, is to have someplace, where, when we get asked for money by some scammer, we could forward or post the request, so that others could read it, and so, be able to save themself the time of interacting, when they get a contact message from a KNOWN scammer! Something like that MIGHT "retire" a few scammers working this site! And it would be something that the site admin could check, regularly, and eliminate those profiles! And end the opening of NEW profiles, from THAT user! If we could eliminate scammers, THAT would be an improvement, of this site! Just a thought.

RE: Question of the century! When was the last time Mercedes_00 had shoulder length hair?

Having had long hair, myself, I have a basis for my judgment. But it all depends on how fast your hair grows. And THAT is different, for every person. But ASSUMING that M's hair grows somewhere around the average rate, I'd guess between 8 and 10 years. But you didn't offer either of those options. She's CERTAINLY been growing it OVER 5 years. And possibly as long as 12/13 years, if it grows slowly. But the, you also have to take into account the health of her hair. How much it breaks, and how often she has to cut her split ends. So it's a lottery pick, at best! But keep it up, M!

RE: Question of the century! When was the last time Mercedes_00 had shoulder length hair?

If THAT'S you, M, you SHOULD take a pic that shows your face better, for your profile! You LOVELY! But, of course, IF you did THAT, you'd probably have to fight off MORE "forward" men, than you do NOW! So MAYBE it's NOT such a good idea! But I agree. You DO look sorta "posed", in that picture!

RE: Question of the century! When was the last time Mercedes_00 had shoulder length hair?

A RELEVANT question, Pat! But BE NICE! You'll just have to convince HER to let you find out for yourself! Luv ya, M! (AND it!)

RE: Are you afraid of being hurt again?

I've been reading everybody's post, and the general consensus, is that YES, EVERYBODY is afraid of being hurt, again. I DON'T disagree, but I DO have a problem with that. Most people are saying that the hurt makes them shy away from future involvements. That they let the pain interfere with their future lives.

In MY opinion, that's counter-productive. Sure, NOT getting what you wanted or hoped for, IS unpleasant! It hurts. It's frustrating. It's undermining. But hurt and pain are a part of life. We're ALL going to experience it, either in love, or some other facet of our lives. But if we pull our heads in, hunker down, and get defensive, how much harder is THAT going to make it, for US to "WIN" the game? Sure! It hurts! But I CAN survive! I've done so, before! And IF I want to get what I WANT out of life, then I HAVE to GET IN the game! If I let some pain knock me out of the game, then I've been beaten! I've given up, on getting what "I" want! There's an old saying about IF a horse throws you, you have to get up and get RIGHT BACK ON that horse! And life is JUST LIKE that horse! Whether it's love, or ANY OTHER thing, that throws you, IF you don't get right back up and get in the game, then you might as well just lay down and die. You're beat! The BAD guys won! Come on, people! Pain's a part of life! We ALL know it. We've ALL been hurt! So WHAT? You gonna lie down and die? Or you gonna get up and DO something about it? The choice is yours! And MINE! I can't speak for the rest of you, but "I" never quit, in life! Get over it! And get ON with it!

RE: Criticism

Get over it, Serene. If you can't (or won't) adapt, then there's not much I, or anybody, can do for you.

RE: Criticism

No problem with shortening my message, Rainy. I know I use up most of the space I'm allowed. When you say "too much expressiveness", are you saying that I'm OVER clarifying? True to self has never been a problem, as far as I can see. I'm ALWAYS myself. Regardless of how much, or how little I say. And I'll admit that I COULD say what I have to say, more briefly. But then I'd be doing what I'm complaining about. NOT being clear! As far as teaching and learning go, I'm ALWAYS interested in learning. Of ALL sorts. Maybe your comment about patience is the best one. I know I'm not a particularly patient individual. Anyway, thank you, Rainy! You're a good woman! And I appreciate your contribution.

RE: Criticism

Yes! I DO appreciate your thoughtful and straight forward response, Jono! I just wish everyone was as open and honest, about everything, here. And please, I DO listen! I may not always agree. In fact, a lot of things I read, here, just DON'T make sense, to me. But your critique does. Thank you.

RE: Tell me a secret!!!

A SECRET

RE: Criticism

[quote=jono7

looks like you have your answer within you.
sorry, couldn't include your whole comment as it was longer than permitted.


No problem, on the not including my whole message! If THAT is the BIGGEST problem "I" face, today, then it's been a pretty good/easy day!

But your "looks like you have your answer within you", is as CLEAR as dirt! MAYBE Ido? But MAYBE "I" am TOO CLOSE to see it! Would you mind being MORE "specific"? A few DETAILS, maybe? Instead of an existential philosophy? Thanks!

RE: Criticism

Maybe I SHOULD do that. My problem lies NOT in the UNDERSTANDING what's been said. I UNDERSTAND what's been said, very well. If ANYTHING, MY problem lies in interpreting it.. People tend to say things that they DON'T mean! I KNOW that they DON'T mean, what they've said, or, at least I'm PRETTY sure! But what they HAVE said, is USUALLY what I'm criticising. Or else it some "fallacy" that I perceive, in their logic, or their "facts".

And, of course, "I" have MY OWN "view" of "things".

Now, I accept that NOT EVERYONE, here, IS a native English speaking person. For example "rainbowdream201". Her posts don't even APPROXIMATE ANY English idiom! She's IN a country where English IS the national language, but English is OBVIOUSLY NOT her native tongue. (Maybe she's using the forums to HELP her IMPROVE her English! I DON'T know.) And I accept that she DOESN'T phrase things, as a typical English speaker does/would. (IF you read this, Rainy, if you'd like, I'll help you with your English. No problem. Just message me through my profile. The forums are NOT the place for English lessons.) But I DON'T criticise her, for that. I do my best to "understand" what she's TRYING to say, and go from there. I VERY RARELY comment on her posts, because she seems VERY sincere, and I can tell, from reading her post, that she thinks her comments through. Her "problem" is NOT her comments, but in expressing her thoughts, in English.

And then, certain people object to my loquaciousness. But my verbosity is the consequence of MY TRYING to "clarify" MY point, so that OTHER people AREN'T confronted by the "problems" I'M dealing with. Certainly, I COULD say things MORE concisely. But THEN, I'd leave them "open" to interpretation! Which is WHERE/WHY the problems of "criticism" USUALLY stem from. So, as a rule, I DON'T do that.

But I DON'T see any of the comments, so far, as being directed at WHY people think I'm being condescending to/towards them. Length SHOULD have NO bearing on my "being" condescending. POSSIBLY commenting on somebody's MISUSE of language could be seen as condescending, in that I'm pointing out their INability to SAY what they MEAN. And people tend NOT to "appreciate" having their "ability" questioned. So can I get any more comments? I TEND to think that it's PROBABLY in my "style/methodology" of what I say. But I'm NOT sure. And I DON'T know how else to say what I say, and STILL say it well, and clearly.

RE: Criticism

Hi all

I admit that I'm one of the people, here, that is probably MORE critical, than most others. And I HAVE been told that I'm NOT very good at it. NOT that my criticism isn't good, but that the way I present it, is poor. I've had people complain that I'm looking "down my nose", when I comment on others comments.

So tell me WHAT I'm doing, that makes you feel that way? Because I DON'T think I'm better than anybody else. But I DO have my own way of "seeing" things. And I can and will present them, rather forcefully, at times (if I can't perceive any logic or facts behind a statement). One problem I have, with a LOT of things I read, is people's MISUSE of language, and the "fuzziness" of the definitions of the words they use. YOU know what you mean, but you state it in such a way that I don't know what you mean.

So please, help ME understand how I can tell you these things, WITHOUT SEEMING to be "looking down on" you.

And I read some of you talking about "facts", and using words that are superlatives, pigeon holes and pejoratives, in the way you use them. First of all, can ANY of you tell me a "FACT"? "Facts" have a tendency to change, over time. Once, Newtonian physics were touted as the ABSOLUTE truth! And THEN, Einstein came along, and created a WHOLE NEW paradigm of physics. And THAT became the "FACT" of the day. Now, we're getting deep enough into the quantum mechanics of the "physical" world, that even Einstein is no longer accepted as a "fact". I'm pushing 70, and I've been debating with people for AT LEAST 55 of those years. And, in ALL that time, I've only come up with 2 things, that NOBODY has ever argued with mw, about. Those are, "The older you get, the faster time SEEMS to go." And "The older you get, the longer it takes to heal up." And you'll notice that BOTH those things have "qualifiers" attached! "The older you get". So THESE 2, are NOW, the ONLY "facts" I "know"!

Many of the "facts" I hear presented, HEREIN, are NOT "facts" (THAT is a MISUSE of language and words), but only BELIEFS! Personal opinions! And MANY of the words that I see being used, "Democrat", "conservative", "Banker", "American", etc., etc., are used as pejoratives (the foundation of "propaganda"), or pigeon holes ("stereotypes" that tend to be used ALL INCLUSIVELY [which is NEVER the case] and prejudicially), or superlatives, such as "never", "always", etc., etc. And there are ALMOST NO instances in which superlative terms can be TRUTHFULLY applied!

I KNOW that most of you haven't "studied" language, it's history, use and misuse, like I have. But your use of it is VERY IMPRECISE, at best! And it CONFUSES me (and others, too) as to WHAT you mean/are saying. I'm SURE you've all heard the old saying, "I know you think you understand what I said, but what you heard was not what I meant." THIS addresses to problem I'm speaking of. Language and words have NEVER been very precise, in meaning! That's because we DON'T learn language, by instruction, like we do mathematics. We learn language by hearing it spoken by people. And THEY learned it by hearing OTHER people speak it! And, since the ORIGINAL speaking didn't have an exact definition ton the word he was using/creating, NOBODY afterwards, has had a very precise understanding of what THEY were learning/saying. The word "nice" is a word I'm sure you're all familiar with. The word "nice" is derived from the Latin "nescius" (ne - negative prefix, scire - to "know", us - adjectival suffix) and means ignorant or incapable! (Check a GOOD dictionary.) So, IF you call a person a "nice" person, you're calling them "stupid" Is THAT what you MEANT, when you said "nice"? Can you BEGIN to see the problems I have, with what you're saying? And WHY I "CRITICISE" some of the things you say? YOU don't know what you're saying! So HOW can I UNDERSTAND you? But I WOULD appreciate your advice on HOW to present my arguments, in a MORE acceptable manner.

RE: For a relationship to work...

So, you OBJECT to my style of writing, but you DON'T address the issues I raise! Interesting, BW! And you're WELCOME to call it shouting, IF you wish. But all that tells ME, is that you're NOT a very "flexible" woman. Think about it! Just saying.

RE: For a relationship to work...

Let_Us: “Sorry, BW! But I GOTTA dis agree! If two people put ALL their time into EACH OTHER, then they're gonna get BORED with each other, SOONER, or later! They EACH need to bring NEW things into their partner's lives! STRETCH their partner's MINDS! Keep them INTERESTED! And so, INTERESTING! HELP their partners grow! Sure, you GOTTA give your partner ATTENTION! And you NEED to be able to give they the TIME they need/require! But if that's ALL you have to GIVE to the relationship, it's JUST A MATTER OF TIME, until one (or both) of you get "bored", with the other! Just MY opinion!”


one2note: You don't sound to me like the mysterious type!

Alright, one, you got me! Is this some MORE "dry English humor", that I DON'T understand? If SO, PLEASE explain it to me?

RE: For a relationship to work...

I LIKE your attitude, Molly! You're an INSPIRATION to us all!

RE: For a relationship to work...

Sorry, BW! But I GOTTA dis agree! If two people put ALL their time into EACH OTHER, then they're gonna get BORED with each other, SOONER, or later! They EACH need to bring NEW things into their partner's lives! STRETCH their partner's MINDS! Keep them INTERESTED! And so, INTERESTING! HELP their partners grow! Sure, you GOTTA give your partner ATTENTION! And you NEED to be able to give they the TIME they need/require! But if that's ALL you have to GIVE to the relationship, it's JUST A MATTER OF TIME, until one (or both) of you get "bored", with the other! Just MY opinion!

RE: Is gun control the solution to these unspeakable tragedies?

Harbal: How many times have you needed to use your gun to protect yourself, lindsy?


lindsyjones: It's not a matter of hoiw many times Harbal, thank God, not one chance yet. But main point on our constitutional rights is when the government becomes powerful and wed need to protect ourselves.


As Lindsey says, Harbal, it's NOT a matter of how many times you've NEEDED it, it's HOW MANY TIMES you WILL NEED it! The past can NEVER be changed, Harbal! So it's ONLY the present AND the future, we're concerned about, here! But, AS USUAL, YOU completely MISS the "essence" of the conversation!

RE: What is ur speciality ?

Ya GOTTA have some, friend, BEFORE you can forget them!

RE: What is ur speciality ?

Truth, like beauty, is in the mind of the believer! The ONLY 2 things I've NEVER had anybody argue with me about, are "The older I get, the faster time SEEMS to go!" And "The older I get, the LONGER it takes to heal up!" EVERYTHING ELSE IS debatable!

And "facts" have a propensity for changing, from day to day!

So, if "I" were you, Lee, I'd THINK about saying I was telling the truth, or knew a fact! Now, if you wanna say "As far as I KNOW!" THAT is an ENTIRELY different kettle of fish! Just a thought! You do what you wanna do!

RE: Is gun control the solution to these unspeakable tragedies?

I'm glad you had an epiphany, Serene. But the moment our youth give up their rights to own guns and defend themselves, is the moment they'll give up their freedom! Their right to life, liberty, and happiness. I'm sorry that this SOUNDS callous, but, in truth, I'm willing to sacrifice a few lives, to save the lives of the many! And, quite honestly, it's the QUALITY of our lives, that is at stake! If you're WILLING to do SOMEBODY ELSE'S work, to work FOR them, then YOU give up you guns! And your right to defend yourself. And your right to go where YOU want to fo. And DO what YOU want to do! In other words, YOUR freedom! But, PERSONALLY (speaking only for myself), "I" LIKE my freedom! Life has ALWAYS been a struggle! And men have ALWAYS died! Some for purposes. Some to NO purpose. And EVEN IF you were to manage to educate the violence out of ALL men, lives would STILL be lost! Death was our inheritance, the moment we were born! Like everyone else, I'd PREFER dying tomorrow, over dying today. But at least I didn't die YESTERDAY! But the reason man has progressed to the point he has, is that men (AND women) HAVE BEEN WILLING to die, FOR that progress! Deaths WILL occur! True, some of them have occurred uselessly and purposely. But when has THAT NEVER been the case? When has man EVOLVED into a peaceful creature? Are you ANTICIPATING that THAT will change - ANYTIME, in the near future? MAYBE! Once we quit dividing ourselves into races, and nations, and OTHER pointless categories! Once we learn that our "egos" are our problem! But, even when we ALL figure out we're human beings, men will STILL strive with one another - over power, money, position, all sorts of "preeminence". Until you can SHOW ME that people WILL work for the common good, people WILL need some way to defend themselves from oppression by their fellow man! Sad! But true! But I'd rather KNOW the truth, because THEN I can prepare/deal with it! If I REFUSE to see the truth, I'll SURELY NOT be prepared for it! Wake up! God gave men eyes! LOOK around you. If you CONTINUE to walk around WITHOUT "seeing" the truth, then you're SURELY going to fall into the ditch! And NO ONE will be able to pull you out! The FIRST RULE of helping somebody, is to help YOURSELF! Because IF you don't see to yourself, you WON'T have the ability/capacity to HELP ANYBODY ELSE! Let those with ears, listen. I can't help you others.

RE: Is gun control the solution to these unspeakable tragedies?

You make me laugh! You bandy words about like you KNOW something! You think you British are anybody;s "darlings"? The only reason that YOU aren't mentioned as much as we Americans, in the hate mail of the world, is that YOU HAVE ALREADY been disposed of! So YOU are NOT WORTH their time to hate, anymore! But how many countries have been under the British thumb? MORE than have been under the American thumb! You're EXACTLY the type of "hater" that laws NEED to address! Trying to hide behind a facade of intelligence and erudition will only fool the foolish, Mr. HAVE all the answers! If you had ONE, you MIGHT be worth some consideration. But you DONT comtribute! You DESTROY! Tear down, BOT build up! And you present yourself as a "voice of reason"! Of goodness/correctness.You're a joke!

RE: What right does a man have to shout at a woman

Interesting question. HE has the same right to yell at YOU, that you have to yell at him! You didn't mention whether the 2 of you have a history of yelling at each other. But, in point of fact, it would be better if NEITHER of you yelled at each other! Communication is ALWAYS the best option. And people tend to NO be "communicating"m when they're yelling. IF there was anything done wrong, you might consider that SINCE you were dealing with HIS family, it might have been a good idea for you to talk to/with him about HOW he felt about you getting involved in HIS family's affairs. I don't know anything about either of you, or your history together. So I, like everybody else, here, aren't really qualified to comment on your situation. I might also ask "Did you have a personal relationship with the sister that died?" OR the family? From what you've said, I'm assuming that your answer would be no. In which case, I think it would have been best for you to consult him, first. But IF you had a personal relationship with either the sister, OR the family, then I don't think your action required HIS permission, or consultation. But, if you're in a relationship with somebody, it's ALWAYS nice/best to talk with them FIRST, as you actions MAY have UNFORESEEN repercussions on them, that you have no way of knowing of. Just a thought.

RE: What's more important to you?

Interesting question, Frisky! Because they AREN'T the same thing!

The OBVIOUS answer is "Doing the RIGHT things, RIGHT!" But then, you've got the problem of defining what "Right" is?! And THAT is different things, to different people. BOTH "things right", and "right things"! So, I guess you're trying to get a handle on various people.

So, let me say that, PERSONALLY, it depends on what "things" I'm doing.

RE: Is gun control the solution to these unspeakable tragedies?

How willing do you think a criminal would be, to do a criminal act, if they knew that ANYBODY, and/or EVERYBODY, had the ability to kill or wound them, in the act! I think that a LOT LESS crime would occur, in our lives/cities/cultures.

And NOT ONLY would there be LESS "crime", but we would be MUCH MORE "immune" to "rule/control" by people OTHER THAN ourselves!

RE: Is gun control the solution to these unspeakable tragedies?

I voted "No", because I DON'T believe that "laws" are going to make us better people! If ANYTHING is going to make us better people, it's going to be better education! And I DON'T mean the education we get in our schools! I mean the INCULTURATION we receive from our parents, our culture/society, our "leaders" (from ALL arenas of human activity). We have to change the way we "VIEW" life, ourselves, and our place in it!

But, IF I could make a law, regarding gun "control", it would be to make gun ownership MANDATORY, with gun use, maintenance, and marksmanship training MANDATORY in the early stages of schooling. If every kid in that school had had their pistol with them, I can GUARANTEE you that THAT many kids WOULDN'T have died!

And I've read a couple of posts here about the "failure" of our policing agencies. What makes you think there were failures? Have you considered the option that, just like 9/11, there was government collusion in the attack? WHY would the government collude in such an act? Just like 9/11, to generate the right frame of mind in people, to allow them to pass legislation that will farther curtail human freedom! In 9/11, it was the "Patriot Act", which would NEVER have been enactable, without the hysteria of 9/11! I don't know what the NEW regulation will be, but you can bet that SOMETHING is going to be put forth as a methodology that will protect us! But there's only ONE problem with that idea. YOU CAN"T PROTECT A PERSON FROM THEMSELF! UNTIL we "learn" that WE are our only protection, that WE re responsible for loving/caring for OURSELVES (as well as each other), then we're going to continue having to deal with these problems, and we're going to continue to be divided, and thus "RULE"able! Maybe my "Hippie"ness is showing, but the answer is to teach ourselves and our children that by loving each other, we'll accomplish MUCH MORE, to the benefit of us all, than by allowing ourselves to continue being "divided", and thus "conquerable". Just MY opinion.

RE: What do u collect - if anything ?

I don't think YOU have to "collect" dust, Bnaughty! It think it FINDS you, whether you WANT it to, or not!

RE: What do u collect - if anything ?

Dear LJ, PLEASE don't get offended at/by my IRREVERENT/IRRELEVANT self, But, if YOU don't paint, CAN "I" PAINT YOU?

And you'd be surprised about being an artist! If Picasso can be considered GREAT/FINE art, then ANY/EVERYBODY has a chance! (No offense, but "cubism" just DOESN'T strike a "emotional" chord, in me. I can appreciate it, intellectually. But I get NO "emotion" from it.) Art, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder! And, if something sparks an emotional response, in somebody, then NOT ONLY is it "art", it's GOOD art! And "art" takes MORE forms, than MOST people imagine! It's NOT just marble, or canvas, or paper. It can be a building, a lighting effect, a taste, a little red wooden wagon! Or a 3,500 MPH streamlined jet aircraft! Art HAS no limits! Politics can be an art! It's one that "I", PERSONALLY, find distasteful! But, practiced at it's best, it IS an "art" form! So DON'T denigrate yourself, at least UNTIL you've given it the "old college try"!

RE: What do u collect - if anything ?

Wanna buy MY collection? I'll give you a deal! I've something over 1,500, at present, and, with ,y movies (something like 500 DVD's and 800 VHS tapes), I just don't have room for them all. So I've uploaded them (except the VHS tapes, which I'm working on converting and uploading), and and beginning to look for a buyer. So, if you're interested, let me know!