Leos tend to "LIKE" the spotlight! They LIKE being "The Star" of the show. They DON'T like seating in the back of the bus! And they'll TRY to tell you that THEY know best, which is NOT OFTEN the case!
But you didn't say what Sun sign you are, Molly! Come on! Fess up!
As I said to Serene, IF you're a Gemini, you're an Air sign. Which means that your MOST compatible signs are the OTHER Air signs, Aquarians, Geminis, and Librans. You SECOND most compatible signs are the FIRE signs! (Aries, Leos, and Sagittarians) You'll make them burn brighter, WITH you, than they could ever do, on their own. But, as an Air sign, you DON'T mix well with Water and earth signs! Just "surface" information. But worth noting.
It's interesting to know part of your horoscope. But let me warn you to be on your guard with Scorpios. Yes, your moon sign, your ascendant, and the houses all your other planets fall in, also influence your "view" of life. But your Sun sign IS your ruling house. And, as an Aquarian, you're an air sign. As such, you tend to be more intelligent, and freer/more flexible/open than other signs. But Scorpios are water signs, and air and water DON'T tend to "mix" well. Yes, I can understand how their passion and commitment/drive attract you. But you also have to understand that their passion and drive cause them to WANT "control" over EVERYTHING! And, while that "drive" to control/possess you will SEEM like something you "want" (the feeling of"being" a PART OF), that "controlling" aspect will quickly become a "confining jealousy" which you will NOT like, eventually. And, because of his passion, he will give the appearance of KNOWING, but you are inherently MORE intelligent than he is. Scorpios have a problem in seeing BEYOND their PERSONAL desires! And any failures, on YOUR part, to mold yourself to HIS desires will be met with MORE SEVER attempts to IMPOSE his will on you. Your best matches are the OTHER air signs. They don't generally display the "passion" of Scorpios, but they are much better suited, temprementally. You will also do well with Fire signs, which would probably be the best place for you to find the passion you desire. Fire signs can burn VERY fiercely. And your Air FEEDS their f Fire. And, as long as you DON'T try to dominate a Fire sign, they ARE susceptible to good/intelligent guidance! Which is one of your fortes. And, as an Aquarian, you're a Fixed sign, which imparts MORE "drive" than most. You're very good at/inclined to finishing the things you get involved in. And, with a Scorpio, that's only going to happen IF your objectives compliment HIS desires! If not, a Scorpio will try to curtail YOUR "OTHER" endeavors.Otherwise, those "drives" of YOURS are going to be the source/cause of conflict between the two of you.
Just a bit of info for your consideration. All the best! J
Your "Sun" sign, which is what a person is telling you, when they tell you they're a Taurus, or a Scorpio, or whatever, is the MAJOR factor in/of a horoscope. But there are MANY other factors that also influence what a person's personality might be like. All your horoscope does, is describe your "propensities". There NOTHING absolute. Your horoscope only tells that you're MOST LIKELY to choose this, over that. It DOESN'T dictate. And there are so many OTHER possible influences in a horoscope, that if all you know is a person's Sun sign, you're basically just playing a guessing game. Before you critique Astrology, you SHOULD know enough about it to make an honest judgment. Which MOST people don't!
With a proper ephemeris, there's no problem inherent in calculating a proper/correct horoscope! Your Julian or Gregorian calendars bear only coincidental relationships to the zodiac, it's true. But if you can handle the mathematics, figuring out your CORRECT horoscope is no problem.
Of COURSE Scorpios are poison to/for you, if you're a Gemini! Gemini is an air sign! And Scorpios are water signs! They DON'T mix well! You're right in thinking that another Gemini would be good for/to you. But, honestly, two of the same sign are either the best, or the worst, for each other. You'd probably do better with a Libra. #1. They're one of the few signs that are as smart as you. (Geminis are GENERALLY considered to ne the quickest witted member of the zodiac. While the air signs, Libra - Cardinal, Aquarius - Fixed, and Gemini - Mutable, are certainly the most intellectual and intelligent members of the zodiac.) But, while Aquarians are smart enough to deal with you, your "flexibility" and "spontaneity" will likely drive them away, after a while. While a Libra will find your quixoticness not only interesting, but also amusing! And his serenity, in combination with his intelligence and adaptability will intrigue you. #2. You second best matches are the Fire signs. Air feeds fire. So you could bring out the best that a Fire sign (Leo - Fixed, Aries - Cardinal, Sagittarius - Mutable) has to offer. And you'll LOVE the "passion" of the fire signs.
Hubba! Hubba! You KNOW I live in Anaheim! You know La La Land! Disneyland, California style! Give me a shout out, and I'll buy you a walk on the beach! Maybe even a BBQ and a beer, if you're willing to try your luck with the gendarmerie!
before I leave you, this evening, I have one more I'd like to share with you. Another poem by Robert Frost, about the vagaries of life. And the CREATIVE process(es). Enjoy.
The Road Not Taken
by: Robert Frost
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth
Then took the other, as just as fair And having. perhaps. the better claim Because it was grassy and wanted wear Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same
And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black Oh, I kept the first for another day Yet knowing how way leads on to way I doubted if I should ever come back
I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere, ages and ages hence Two roads diverged in a wood, and I I took the one less traveled by And that has made all the difference
Just hope you all like these poems. They are CERTAINLY three of MY favorites! Merry Christmas yo all! And to all, a GOOD New Year! J
Next, we have one of the poems that opened my brain to the "possibilities" inherent, in poetry.
Stopping By The Woods On A Snowy Evening
by: Robert Frost
Whose woods these are I think I know His house id in the village though He will not see me stopping here To watch his woods fill up with snow
My little horse must think it queer To stop without a farmhouse nearI Between the woods and frozen lake The darkest evening of the year
He gives his harness bells a shake To ask if there is some mistake The only other sound's the sweep Of easy wind and downy flake
The woods are lovely, dark and deep But I have promises to keep And miles to go before I sleep And miles to go before I sleep
The fact that he used the EXACT SAME words, for two consecutive lines, but/and in doing so, was able to give those words ABSOLUTELY DIFFERENT meanings, just BROADENED my whole "perspective" of the uses and abilities of poetry. I was SOOOOOO impressed that I used a similar device in one of my own poems! A Simple Man They say that there IS no more sincere a flattery, than imitation! And that WAS a "tool" WORTH imitating!
Alright, Cachuchi, I'm back. And THIS yime I have a couple oof my favorite poems (quotes) for you. This first one dates back to the mid 1800's, and was written by that well known Englishman, Rudyard Kipling. So I;m including HIS version, along with my more modernized English version for everyone's perusal.
IF
If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing their's and blaming it on you; If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired of waiting, Or be lied about, don't deal in lies, Or being hated, don't give way to hating, And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:
If tou can dream -- and not make dreams tour master; If you can think -- and not make thoughts your aim; If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two imposters just the same; If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, And stoop and build 'em up with worn out tools;
If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, And lose, and start again at your beginnings And never breathe a word about your loss; If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Woll which says to them: "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue, Or walk with kings -- nor lose the common touch, If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, If all men count with you, but none too much; If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -- Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it, And -- what is more -- you'll be a Man, my son!
by: Rudyard Kipling
My Version
IF
If you can keep your head When those about you Are losing theirs And blaming it on you If you can trust yourself When all men doubt you And make allowance For their doubting, too If you can wait And not grow tired of waiting Or be lied about And yet not deal in lies Or be hated But not give way to hating And still Not look too good Nor talk too wise
If you can dream But not make dreams your master If you can think But not make thoughts your aim If you can meet Both Triumph And Disaster And treat those two imposters Both the same If you can hear the truths you've spoken Be twisted by knaves Who'd make a trap For fools Or watch the things you gave your life to Be broken And stoop to build again With worn out tools
If you can make one heap Of ALL your winnings And risk it On one turn of pitch and toss And lose And start again At your beginnings And never breathe a word About your loss If you can force your heart And nerve And sinew To serve you Long after they are gone And so Hold on When there is nothing left within you Except your will Which says to them "Hold on!"
If you can talk with crowds And keep your virtue Or walk with kings And not lose the common touch If neither foes Nor loving friends Can hurt you If all men count with you But none too much If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds worth of distance run Yours is the Earth And everything that's in it And what is more You'll be a Man My son
Just MY opinion of a GOOD recitation of what it takes/means to BE/BECOME a REAL human being.
For me, Lindsey, all but three things are negotiable. Those three MUST haves, are #1. A good, honest smile. #2. A caring heart. (And I DON'T mean just about me.) And #3. Enough intelligence for us to have and hold a good conversation. If she can do those three things, she's in the running! Oh! And it would be GOOD, if she can put up with ME!
Your whole answer sounds sad, to me, Q. If you're not willing to allow yourself to be vulnerable, then you'll NEVER TRULY "love" again. You may have relationships, friends, acquaintances, even "lovers". But you'll NEVER have the "intimacy" of love. At least, NOT the love I think/dream of, when I hear/think that word. If you send your life behind your "fortress/shelter/protection", how is love ever going to find you?
I don't know about you, but I'll suffer the pain (I'm a tough old coot), just to have the opportunity to get one more grab at the gold ring. (Even if that "gold ring" just turns out to be a future memory!) As far as keeping all the mementos, I'm not saying that you should, or need to. But I don't think you MUST throw them away, either. I don't think it would be especially wise to drag them out and throw them in a new friend's/love's face, but I wouldn't hide them, either. A GOOD relationship MUST be built on trust and communication. And, if my lover DOESN'T trust me (which is the ONLY reason that my PAST relationships SHOULD/WOULD upset her), then we don't have the relationship "I" want, anyway. And we NEED to talk it out, between us. Or it's just NOT going to work. But then, I NEVER have been a jealous person, or UNDERSTOOD jealousy, as anything other than an indication of insecurity.
As far as your "falling back", THAT only tells me that YOU don't even trust you! Are you so weak? I doubt it. Or you wouldn't have ALREADY made it as long and as far as you have. Memories are nothing to fear! Only things to learn from. They can be warm coals, on a cold night. But, if your fires are hot enough, you'll have no need for them. What is there to fear, from memories? Nothing, that has any foundation in reason as far as I can see.
I just got back and finished reading everybody's post. And I noticed something interesting (to ME, at least). NOBODY has yet posted what is PROBABLY the best, most important quote I've ever encountered. I DON'T recall the source (off the top of my head), but I'm all but sure YOU could supply the information. The quote is
"Unto thyself, be true."
Words to live by. And, while I was reading everybody else's, I made up a new one, for me.
Life is like riding a bucking bronco! When it throws you, you either get BACK in the saddle, or get trampled in the dust! (I'm an American. What can I say? I use American imagery.) But this one's been said in many ways, by many people before me.
And since you mentioned poetry earlier, There's a couple that I'd like to add to the pile. But I don't have them in memory, on this computer. So I'll have to add them later.
Here's two poems that sorta bear on MY thoughts, about old friends (which is how "I" see most of my old lovers).
Memories
I know, my friend That, in the end We will begin To wear the funny edges off Of our affair
But, until then I'd like to spend Tomorrow in Enjoying All the things we two can share
Then if, my friend Somewhere, Some when There comes an end And we must part Going each our separate ways
Though time's unkind We still may find Within our mind Fond memories Of those long forgotten days
And for a while They'll make us smile Turn back the dial To days when joy and laughter Were our only guide
To days we shared To days we cared To days we dared To when we walked together Side by side
The Dying Day
The dying day Will fade away And slip into the night
And as it dies A seagull cries While soaring by in flight
The lonely sounds Of surf abounds And makes me think of you
Of what we shared And how we cared And all the things we'd do
We'd sit above The sea you loved And watch the dying day
And once you asked Why does life pass So soon to pass away
And I replied "It's like the tide That washes yonder shore
It ebbs and flows It comes and goes And no one knows what for
Don't look behind For time's unkind Enjoy this summer's sun
Don't look before Or ask for more Then, when all's said and done
We won't regret A missed sunset We'll simply laugh and say
I still recall We loved it all Yes, every passing day
Remember when Once, way back then When we were not so gray"
NO ONE is promised ANYTHING! We must learn to appreciate what we have, when we have it. Trying to live on promises/hopes/dreams/desires/memories is a futile quest. And we'll NEVER find happiness/joy/love, THAT way. Enjoy what you have! And when you no longer have it (which is the MOST likely outcome), cherish the memories, but don't live in those memories. Live in your NEW life! And build NEW memories, to add to your store of old memories, Yes. I HAVE memories. (Maybe you have momentos.) And I'll have those memories for as long as I live. Can I NOT have those memories? I suppose so. But WHY would I WANT to NOT have them? Should my NEW friends dislike/be afraid of those memories? Personally, "I" would like to know/share those memories, both my own, and those of my new friend. The things that make up those memories are what made me ME! And if it WEREN'T for those "things", then I wouldn't be the person she wants to be with. And she wouldn't be the person "I" want to be with. So WHY would/should I dislike/fear them? And WHY should/would she? The logic of such an idea escapes me!
Personally, I've NEVER been attached to "things". I've led a somewhat tumultuous life, and "things" have come and gone. And I've never been particularly sentimental. The thing that MATTERS, to me, is I've got the memories stored up, in my head. And I can spend some time rummaging around in my memory ANYTIME I get the urge. But, as far as being concerned about some new love finding evidence of an old love of mine, if she was a person who was upset by/about my past, who couldn't accept that I HAD had other loves before her, that I had a life BEFORE she became a part of it, my BEST guess is that we WOULDN'T last, anyway. I'm NOT a jealous man. And I ESPECIALLY wouldn't be jealous of a memory! The idea just DOESN'T "compute", in MY head. If I'm with a woman, it's because I WANT to be with that woman. And any previous women I've been with would have NO BEARING, on THAT! And, if a woman wants to be with me, I'm happy (usually (-: ). But if some lady that NO LONGER EXIST makes her feel insecure, and UNhappy, about being with me, then I'll just wish her well, and be on my way! I DON'T want a woman WITH me, who ISN'T "happy" being there! She'll end up making ME UNhappy, too. And life's to short to be unhappy MORE than you absolutely MUST be. So I'll wish her the best, and we can part on good terms. Even still be friends. I've even told some of my MORE significant others, that if this or that old female friend of mine EVER knocked on our door, she BETTER invite her in, and offer her the best we had to offer. Of course, there are only two female friends that I will say that about! But, if my woman refused to do this, THAT would be cause for a MAJOR ruckus, between us! But I have no romantic interest in EITHER of these two women. And I seriously DOUBT that either will ever end up on my doorstep with their hand out. But BOTH of these women EARNED/DESERVE ALL my respect! They were BETTER people than I was! And treated me BETTER than I deserved. They were GOOD people, and deserve ANYTHING "I" can do, for them. But neither of them would be a threat to my present relationship. So I would REFUSE to turn them away! And any woman that was WORTHY of MY love, would just have to accept! If she couldn't/wouldn't, then I'd have to REexamine OUR relationship! If I'm with a woman, it's because I WANT to be. And I'll give most ANYTHING she desires (if I can). But there are SOME "THINGS" I WILL NOT DO! And that's turn my back on a "friend". I DON'T mean an "acquaintance". I mean a FRIEND! INCLUDING her! And, if she INSISTS that I do, then she's NOT the FRIEND "I" want! So, no, I wouldn't be concerned that a new lover found some evidence of an old lover of mine. After all, I'm NOT with that old lover! I'm with my PRESENT lover! So what is there for her to get upset about? I just DON'T think I would EVER be able to understand such a thing.
But, HERE, is probably my ALL-TIME favorite "quote" (although I'll cheat, a little bit, by writing it the way "I" would have said it). It comes from (Baron) Lord (Thomas Babbington) Macauley's "Lays of Ancient Rome". And is attributed to "Horatius" (and is sometimes denoted as "Horatius, at the gate").
MY version of these famous words go
"For how can men die better Than when facing fearful odds For the ashes of their fathers And the temples of their gods"
You can get a verbatim transcript on the net, no problem, if those words inspire any "interest" in you. Just type "Lays of Abcient Rome" in your search window.
THIS is an OLD, OLD one of mine, that I've heard some garbled versions of, from other sources, during my life.
"Do WHAT you can, WHEN you can! And GO for what you KNOW!"
Basically, what I meant/was thinking of, when I came up with THIS one, was, "When an opportunity presents itself, take it! As long as it's taking you in the direction you WANT to go, anyway!"
Alright. HOW do I copy an "Image Link"? I TRIED copying the image, but, when I click the "IMG", it doesn't give me an option to "Paste". So, can you explain to me WHAT a "URL, and an image link" is/are?
Okay, Cachuchi. I SEE the "IMG". But, when I select it, it wants a URL address! So, WHAT'S a URL address? I'm NOT computerese fluent! And the ONLY place I HAVE the images, are on/in my computer. I DON'T have them posted on/to a website, anywhere. Any MORE assistance/help - PLEASE?!
My ACTIONS require neither YOUR approval, nor YOUR consent!" Another one of my own invention.
If someone would bother to explain how one goes about putting an image into one of these "Comment" sections, I'd upload the image for you, as MOST of mine, I've turned into designs for the T-shirts I create. Can I get a little "instruction", please? I've TRIED "copy & paste", but it doesn't work (at least, when "I:" do it).
MY thought/creation, meaning that "Life, WILLINGLY confined by the strictures of OTHERS, is NOT REALLY a "life", at all!" If you NEVER go OUTSIDE the "box", then your future/opportunities/possibilities - your "LIFE" will NEVER get/be "realized". And you'll never attain your/the human potential.
I've NEVER seen the movie! But your "teaser" was great! Maybe I'll look for the movie! But, as a contribution to this thread, I thought it was PERFECT!
RE: Astrology
Leos tend to "LIKE" the spotlight! They LIKE being "The Star" of the show. They DON'T like seating in the back of the bus! And they'll TRY to tell you that THEY know best, which is NOT OFTEN the case!But you didn't say what Sun sign you are, Molly! Come on! Fess up!