I take your point about it being more difficult for a woman growing old, a young woman has the world at her feet, she is the promise of delight and love, she is the promise of childen to carry on the family.
But when her flame dims she loses this power and only if she has captured the heart of a good man can she grow old peacefully, I hope this happens for you Crystal.
I don't know if you've seen the play and film Equus, Richard Burton starred as the psychiatrist treating a boy for psychosis, I remember one line vividly.
He said, yes i can take away his psychosis which is his passion.I can do that but it will leave an empty hole, he will no longer have his psychotic passion , his reason to live. all there will just be an empty shell.
Sometimes it's better to leave someone to live out their passions, or should we turn everyone into carbon copies of our norm?
RE: Happiness is?
With an icepick