I was reading recently a story told by a 140 IQ mensa dude who went shopping for a new suit which had to be bought within a very strict budget. An hour later the 140 IQ mensa dude realized a young shop assistant had got him to spend three times the amount of money he had been determined to stay under.
Not only am I OK with it, I much prefer it. It's a misconception held by many that EVERYONE wants or needs a mate. Or, if a person isn't interested in finding a partner, their relationship history must have wounded or scared them into singledom in some way. Nope, some of us are actually happier (for many different reasons) to be single. Really.
I'm interested in the idea that our intellect as a species is evolving beyond our physiological or biological urges.
Not for love exactly, but I was flying from Kathmandu to Perth with an eight hour stop over in KL. I had been chatting with and had become infatuated with a CS member who lived in Singapore and on a spur of the moment decision flew to surprise her on her lunch break once I arrived in KL. Suffice to say, she never made it back to work.
Or Romania.Serbia didn't come to mind. But, I don't actually know, just vaguely remember something about Hungary or Romania related to the origin of Vampires.
I think this gross generalization is formed by a person who perhaps has made some repeatedly bad choices in partners and doesn't realize just because she may have had certain negative personal experiences with men, those experiences can not then be applied carte blanche to every other living man on the planet.
To suggest all men want everyone in their life to depend on them is patently absurd. Most of us understand this through our day to day interactions with friends, colleagues, family and society in general, not to mention our own relationships. If at any time in my previous relationships would I have demanded my significant other be dependent on me, i'd have been kicked to the kerb.
Most of us men actually do want as much equality between ourselves and our partners as possible.I'm sorry your personal experiences have imbued you with such a negative opinion of us.
I have issues currently relating to the opposite - I'm perpetually at rest just now and need to get off my rather splendid a** and do something. I'm blaming post traveler blues.
If those previously banned that are here now under new identities were to be banned again, CS blogs and forums would run the risk of becoming a veritable desert full of fundamentalist, conspiracy theorist tumbleweed nutjobs rolling around uncontrollably bumping into and sticking to each other until the place was forced into a slow and painful "the shy is falling, the sky is falling" asphyxiation (there are many previously banned members back here and without them it would be very quiet indeed)
Added to that, those who maintain numerous profiles with the intention of creating a little mischief are much needed so as to ad a bit of color to the overall CS fabric. I don't see any real nasty types about, and if there were, they'd be sorted out pretty quickly, I'd say.
It's my experience society isn't to blame for you not demanding the best for your self at all, you are!
I'm a recovering drug addict clean thirteen years who blamed anyone and everything for my addiction and life at that time (my gender role models/parents, socioeconomic status, some perceived genetic predisposition....) anything that took responsibility away from me. Eventually I understood there was only one person who was the primary cause of my addiction - myself!! I eventually realized my delusion of being a victim to then demand the best for myself eventually kicking the junk and going on to develop the well rounded, charismatic, desirable individual I am today.
Society does permit you to demand the best for your self, you just need find the courage to understand it.
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RE: Picky
I thought I was picky, until I realized I'm just not interested.