Well you are kind of asking for that by dating a much younger lady. It is your resources, or at best, your experience which suggests you can acquire resources that you are offering by dating someone that much younger. If you were to rein yourself in to 45 you might be able to go dutch, be more of an equals peoples.
I don't know about wrong. Is everything wrong that doesn't last forever? Nothing lasts forever, you know. In the old days life was nasty, boring and short, it didn't take so much to keep people together. Put it another way, the choices you make today would have to be a lot less wrong than the oldendaysers.
Or any situation where the two of you want something, but only one of you can actually have that something, is no reason to discredit them.
They're not a bad person because you both want that one thing. Anyway the truth is that there actually is plenty more fish in the sea, don't give yourself to brutality and desperation believing that there's only one fish in the sea.
Quick tip - flatter your enemies. A rival alpha male is someone you speak positively about in front of the woman you're both trying to bang. Big him up as though as he was actually smaller than you. Don't lash out like a man who thinks this man is going to her off him. Flatter the great and the good when you are in competition, the spirit of healthy competition.
And another another thing, related to the above, is to massively overstate the happiness of others. Envy, keeping up appearances, social media give a perception of perfection in other's lives that is most assuredly not the case. We overestimate others when we think about their happiness, or at least our envy does
And all this as confused by the things people say. The fact that someone doesn't tell you about their self-doubt does not meant they don't have them. It can be the opposite. As a sweaty and anxious individual the main aim is not to appear sweaty and anxious. Our perceptions of someone can be clouded by the fact that they are a clever swine. Try looking a bit deeper
Same story with the old. They too are relatively content to keep things as they are and are less easily swayed by the criticism anyone from the outside makes. To mellow with age, become more conservative over time are one and the same thing.
Women, children and curiosity are restless by comparison. Envy, the grass is always greener, that bloody snake in the garden of Eden.. that's familiarity breeds contempt.
To a conservative or even the male brain the love is to grow stronger as you become a habit to me. It falls closer to addiction a point that goes beyond familiarity breeds acceptance and into something quite nasty.
Familiarity breeds contempt is closer to women and to scientists and to liberals. Change is as good as a rest because you are much more tired of yourself and yours. It's more likely to die of curiosity, by putting its hand into the fire.
I know they say that familiarity breeds contempt, and who isn't familiar with themselves? But it's not conservatives who really think that. Familiar breeds acceptance is the most likely. Familiarity breeds contempt will be in tandem with openness to experience and open-mindedness, the more curious end of the species which could be accused of novelty-seeking is more likely to find fault with itself and its own.
I expect it's because we can get away from other people but you are always in the same place as yourself. Wallowing, beating yourself up, self-doubt.. all these things are good in a scientist or anywhere where life was truly asking you to be reasonable or intelligent, but in a state of nature those who beat themselves up got eaten by a bear. In the rough it's a survival disadvantage
Examples of and now for something completely different include - the thug with a feminine side or a nice guy who righteously takes the opportunity to smack a thug in the mouth. Contrast is king, in a good way she wouldn't have expected that from you.
Variety. To spend the rest of your life in conversation and never reach the bottom line. The bottom line is the one thing they stand against, a thousand times no. The point of talking about anything is to talk about something else. What do women want from men? And now for something completely different.
The version that talks to myself knowing it will be the best company. I feel that socialising online is a misunderstanding and a meltdown waiting to happen, a savage people utterly autistic people who know nothing of right and wrong.
Getting better at things amounts to having to do them more for some reason. Why does living longer mean we have to work until we're dead? It feels like a bit of a con to actually dislike the retired. Why does it have to worse for old people in future? We can't provide for retirement but we perm our dogs, seriously?
And that's another reason to always try to do things gently. If you gradually reduce the number of houses because you thought the population was going to shrink, and then it doesn't, then you cannot go drastically wrong. Technology might step in to make an aging population for all practical purposes younger and more fertile. The future is only a probability you can never be sure what will happen. Another reason to try to do things gently
And I mean there are genuine reasons to sell off and repurpose social housing but they're demographic reasons. What does an aging population eventually do? Die of old age. You might take a long-term objective to have fewer houses knowing your population is going to shrink. Gradually come to have fewer council houses because there aren't going to be as many people in the country. To do that, for that reason, is just common sense.
At the absolute minimum I reject the firesale of Thatcher or Yeltsin's Russia. That public property can be pillaged in this way to support the free lunch of a few whether they're Yeltsin's gangsters or baby boomer tossers in the west.
If you are to sell of the family silver, the property of the nation, then it should be made a long and arduous process. Only a small part of it could be sold by the time the next generation comes along who might feel a whole lot differently. Very gradually done if you are to sell the family silver
I would say we need to reject the binary where if property is not in private hands then it belongs to the government. We need to introduce into this a third element called the nation. The government does not own the nation, and the nation is not the government, the government is an administration a steward of the nation it has no right to sell public property which belongs to the general public today and tomorrow and for as long as the country lasts. No one generation owns the public property, it is owned by all generations and what we do not pass on is theft.
Basically I think that Lee Kuan Yew had the brighter ideas than Maggie. Singapore is ultra-capitalist in many ways but not when it comes to the housing, and the social housing. There are exceptions to every rule and I definitely believe this is one of them.
Good landlords with really bad tenants also exist. But I don't really believe that everybody can become middle class in a property owning capitalist democracy. I think there needs to be more social housing like there was before Thatcher, you might say I'm left-wing in this regard the people who bought their council house and the government that sold it to them are thieves, but I also believe in interest rates more like a right-winger should. What do I think of cheap mortgages? They inflate the value of property. A loan that charges no interest is not a good deal when you have to borrow twice the amount to buy something that is in reality worth half as much. It is better to borrow £100000 and pay back £110000 than it is to borrow £200000 and have to spend it all on something actually worth £100000.
Generally speaking it is a situation where the old got a free house and the young pay double for theirs.
And if you find women to be hard work early on I suggest that you bear with it. Women are attracted to, far more so than men, someone in a position of strength. It does mean that early on they will test that strength by being difficult, but later it means they have every interest in building your strength and supporting you to be the best man that you can.
Men will let women believe whatever they want early on. As long as you believe that, weakling, that's all that matters. But later they do have more of an interest in maintaining that position of power over the weakling. It's just a generalisation, there are men compassionate and empathetic genuinely, but fewer by comparison to women. Dating for disabled women is easier but riskier just like dating is for any woman.
I mean you read about those people who force feed their partners until they're literally disabled, and they're mostly men.
These men are like government/religion apart from using their own resources to foster a culture of dependency. The difference is that the feeder husband is probably using his own money.
I would be concerned about an able-bodied man maybe in the same way I concern with government or religion's interest in the vulnerable. I.e. to get people when they're down. A possessive and predatory motive behind its interest in the vulnerable. Not necessarily, but the risk is there.
I can only imagine it being less of an issue for able-bodied men. But I'd say this with the reservation that some men may prefer it. Because she'll be easier to possess. A wife who can't walk goes beyond moving her out to the suburbs, she literally can't run off with another man and that could be the basis of the relationship.
I wouldn't want to be in power. The world is changing at it's core after more than a century of your competition annihilating themselves. Europe finished itself in the world wars, and the Soviets self-inflicted disaster in another way. Not recently had much of a challenge until now
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RE: First Date
Well you are kind of asking for that by dating a much younger lady. It is your resources, or at best, your experience which suggests you can acquire resources that you are offering by dating someone that much younger. If you were to rein yourself in to 45 you might be able to go dutch, be more of an equals peoples.