Why don't you use that same logic of 'get your own house in order' when it comes to attacking Americans time and again for their politics which has nothing to do with you.
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You create the tension here with threads that provock attacks. When people do then you put it down to "its in the humour category. If you complain people don't get your sense of humour...then it's quite possibly because you don't have one.
Might seem like an attack post but I think most people are tired of you complaining all the time over and over and over again.
You are part of the problem. .so please do as you advise and sort your own self out before pointing fingers and worse again creating another thread to incite hate .
But you mentioned that you wondered did No mean not now. But No means No.. If she wasn't in the right place to take your number I'm sure she would have said it wasn't a good time.. But you can't get more definate than no.
Plus we didn't get much information to form an even stronger opinion on it. What if her side of things appear different to how you have mentioned here?
When I say cowardly way out of my friendships...I had to text them...that's what was cowardly...as they were too much to tell to their face and I wasn't going to put myself through that
RO, Sorry to hear you are going through this How are you feeling now? I know how it feels so I know how long it takes to come back after an experience like that. I've been in your shoes and I had to take the cowardly way out and let 2 people know thay I was ending the friendship...that their behaviour was no longer tolerable to me.
If I had my time back I would have had a final chat with them. I would say that this behaviour towards you is no longer tolerable for your health. I would say thay going forward she is unfortunately no longer allowed to stay at your house..that if she feels the boundaries of your new friendship going forward is not something she can abide by then she has the right to finish the friendship.
If there is a behaviour that is both damaging to you those around you and herself then as a friend I would try to give her thr shake up to see what she will lose if she doesn't for once own up to her actions.
I say this because by the sounds of it you have been torn about letting go of her. And I totally get that. This way it will be you helping your friend but also setting boundaries for yourself
Hope you are minding yourself though above all else. You come across as someone who loves who they love with everything you have so I get that pain xx
To Mam. Like all Mother and Daughter relationships there were ups and downs...mostly ups I'm happy to say. You raised 6 kids pretty much by yourself given how Dad was always working. You thought us our morals our manners and our love for each other. We always felt cared for and loved. Always thought of and put first before yourself. You sacrificed so much in order to give us what we had and you gave us a fantastic childhood free from fear free from restrictions (to a point)...you let us think for ourselves...I'm sorry that I was a nightmare teenager ....but you never held anything against us and you were always in good form and always there for your children.
I love the grandmother you are...loving , smothering with kisses and hugs, and sneaky treats when the parents arnt looking....how much your house is also the grandkids house and they are always able to be themselves around you.
I'm forever in your death and I love you more than these words could ever say.
To Dad: As a little girl I saw you as an authority figure, hardly ever at home because you worked so so hard for all of us....I feared you a little...but not in a bad way just in a parent type way. I knew if you said it had to be done I best go get it done As an adult I remember how you used to lift us to bed when we would fall asleep cuddled next to you on the couch at night. How my little tiny hands felt so much smaller in your big hands when you used to walk is across the road or hold onto us for some reason. I remember how you were really always so quiet and pensive...how nothing is ever too much bother to ask your help with...you've never let any of your kids down...yiu have thought us what hard work looks like and what it gets you...materialism being the least of it. Your funny silly side How you used to waltz around the kitchen with everyone one of your grandkids and how even at the age I am I still kiss and hug you goodbye and you never shy away from it.
I love for eternity. You are always going to be my first love....and most possibly my only love.
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