Maya74 Forum Posts (170)

How to prevent yourself from contacting your ex?

The other replies are very reasonable. Thank you.

RE: You Have Mail........

He really put an effort - even read my profile!!!

I'm astonished!

How to prevent yourself from contacting your ex?

We all had those kinds of situations when we are lonely and bored and when we start to remember our ex and some nice things we shared... And the idea of sending a message to him starts to seem so appealing... Of course, we know we shouldn't do it, because there's a reason why an ex is an ex and we know that even if we get together again - it will end the same way. So, that's a forbidden road. But, sometimes the desire gets too strong and nothing you do seems to have any effect. Neither a rational explanation to yourself nor all sorts of distractions - nothing! What do you do in these situations? How do you prevent yourself from doing something silly you will regret afterwards?

RE: You Have Mail........

I was so touched by this e-mail, that I simply had to share it with you.

Dear Maya,

I hope you don't mind me contacting you, however, I looked at your photo and read your profile, you are so very attractive and I can relate to your interests, so thought to myself, I've dived with Bull sharks, ran a marathon (ok, walked), so let me go for something that I want more than anything and write to you. PLEASE TAKE A LEAP OF FAITH, YOU WILL NEVER REGRET IT!!!

...AND YES THIS LETTER IS FOR YOU, I've typed and retyped it several times!

First, why no photos? I'm actually a private person (even though my work is very people orientated), with a relatively high profile. Don't worry, I'm not (yet) on Interpol's most wanted list. I only joined this site (my first and only dating site), because I am tired of the stereo types I meet in my circle of friends. By the way, I live in London and work in the entertainment industry.

I'm confused why you are on an online dating site? You are beautiful, so the only thing I can assume is that your a serial killer, or even worse have ugly feet! I believe love is like a bird in an open cage, that is to say, the bird is free to fly and has free choice to stay, because it wants to. I want to be a partner that stands besides you, listens and helps you to realise your dreams.

I trying to find that key punch line that will make Maya from Serbia, intelligent and beautiful actually write back. Maybe, curiosity will be enough for you, or you too believe that miracles do/can happen?! Only truth & honesty AND LOTS OF LAUGHTER.

I hope (and am told) that several of my qualities include, listening, giving, passionate, serious (not too), romantic (very), reliable (extremely), deep thinking (we can change whatever we want), optimistic (infectiously), love to cook and good food too (Chinese, Japanese, Italian, Thai). Wow, you speak Japanese, great for when we visit Japan! I love animals, particularly dogs. I smile and laugh a lot and believe, totally, completely and absolutely in achieving ones dreams. I also believe that life is only half fulfilled, unless you can share it with your partner, ohhhhhh I love animals and like diving (never tried surfing), theatre and film. I dream of having a partner and living in our own kingdom, the whole world will be our domain. Life needs to be about free choice, living without limits, or borders and without regrets.

Sorry, if I got carried away writing this message Maya. I would love to fly to Serbia (Fairyland?), or send you a ticket to London.

I really hope you write back and that I can tell you more about my life, but as or more importantly, tell me about yourself and let me understand what makes you laugh and cry.

Sweet dreams

Best regards,

Morgan (my real name)

... and then - of course - his phone number and e-mail address

I blocked him immediately, but he really made me laugh. Some of them are at least funny.

RE: Astrology

True.

I was raised by a Scorpio parent and I can tell you that it definitely teaches you how to handle your own emotions, because Scorpios are so emotionally overwhelming that you have to deal with their and your own emotions at the same time all the time. I also have a Scorpio Ascendant, so this energy is not completely unknown to me. However, they ARE difficult, that is for sure and I'm still not sure if I could handle them, especially a typical controlling and possessive Scorpio who plays power games. However, there are more and less advanced example of all signs... Let's see what destiny holds for us.

Sagittarius is always a good match.

RE: What is your priority, when it comes to finding a partner?

Someone who shares my values and wants the same (or very similar) things in the future as I do.

Preferably someone I could talk to about a wide range of subjects.

RE: The real question is .

I met several interesting people for cultural exchange and exchange of ideas. I enjoy reading some people here (on the forums and blogs). Writing about some things from my past helped me overcome them. I doubt that I could meet 'someone special' here. Men on dating sites - in general - move too fast for me. It always makes me uncomfortable. Meeting someone I could get along well with, but at my own pace - would be very difficult, I'm afraid. But I hope to meet more interesting people who could become good friends. So far - it's worth staying.

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RE: Who is ur celebrity crush??

Kazuki Kitamura

RE: Astrology

I read one very interesting text about a Scorpio-Aquarius combination. I will send you the link later. It requires VERY mature people - a Scorpio who stopped playing controlling/power games in love and an Aquarius who stopped being too intellectual and got more opened to feelings. I'm still not sure if that would work for me, knowing how overwhelming, controlling, judgemental, jealous and - spiteful they can be. But, they have many good sides, as well. They are intelligent, insightful and perceptive in a different way than an Aquarius is. They are very protective of their love ones and would do anything for those they love. They are actually often very good-hearted people. That's something many people don't understand about Scorpios, because they often see only difficult and 'dark' sides of the sign, that are not only more obvious, but Scorpios use more as some sort of a defense against anything that can hurt them.

A very interesting thing I noticed about Scorpios is that they are insightful and intelligent and very easily throw the 'truths' about others at them - they are definitely not a good match for a week and too sensitive person - but they cannot see things from so many angles as an Aquarius can. An Aquarius can put themselves in every person's shoes and understand everyone's perspective, thus being able to give a lot of understanding, compassion and acceptance to a wide range of people. Scorpios don't seem to have this ability. They are too fixed in their own perspective. This might be a little difficult to explain...

So far the best match - or - the easiest one at least - for me was with a Sagittarius.

RE: TV show suggestions

Thank you. You, too. :)

Thank you for your recommendations. :)

Here are some new science fiction series I've watched lately: 'Humans', 'Westworld', 'Killjoys', 'Dark Matter', 'The Expanse', 'Extant', 'Defiance'... You might like some of them. :)

RE: Astrology

You are welcome. :)



It seems that the calculations in Vedic astrology are different from the ones used in Western astrology, so my Moon is not in Capricorn any more, but in Sagittarius, according to the calculations I did online. I found some nice website, where you can make a natal chart according to Vedic astrology.

By the way, a friend astrologer told me yesterday that - since Saturn came 'home' to Capricorn and my Moon is in Capricorn, I shouldn't expect much in love for the next 1,5 years.



Now I understand why there are so many Aries and Taurus men around me... (My Ascendant is Scorpio, Descendant Taurus, but very close to Aries). Especially, since my Mars is in Taurus, as well. But, I don't get along well with Taurus men. They have some great characteristics I really like in a man: stable, responsible, reliable, down-to-earth, practical, protective, taking good care of their love ones, but - at the same time - they are so stubborn, always in charge, sometimes too aggressive and - often - a little too superficial for me. One astrologer acquaintance told me once that maybe Taurus with some 'intellectual/spiritual' Ascendant or something similar would suit me... :)



Are you familiar with the 'I Ching' ('Book of Changes')? :)

RE: TV show suggestions

I liked 'Mad Men'. :)

Otherwise, I generally watch science fiction and can recommend some, but I don't know if you are interested...

Apart from science fiction, 'True Blood' and 'Game of Thrones' are interesting, too. 'Maybe 'Orphan Black'...

RE: Astrology

Google 'free natal (or birth) chart' and you will find some sites that can create a free birth chart for you and even give you some simple explanations about the most important planets, houses and aspects. In general, Sun Sign, Ascendant and Moon sign give pretty much a good general picture about someone (at least that's what astrologers say). :)

RE: Astrology

Some astrologer should take a look at your natal chart. :)

RE: Astrology

Maybe we just have planets on the wrong places in our chart at the moment. But, planets move and so will our love luck with them.

RE: Astrology

Maybe there are energies and forces much stronger than our own willpower, that affect our life and our choices. We are a small, but important part of a big tapestry of existence. Maybe astrology just tries to explain and understand those powers and our place in the world. :)

I agree with you, why does everything always have to be scientific and rational?! :) Let's bring some magic in our world. :)

Old love memories

I was once talking to an ex-boyfriend of mine about this topic. He was a Japanese and even before dating him I noticed that Japanese men don't like to talk (and especially listen) about previous relationships much. Japanese take care a lot about feelings of others and that ex-boyfriend of mine told me that in general they think that talking about past is rather inconsiderate toward your present partner. Present is what matters and you should focus all your attention and care toward the person you are with NOW, not what happened before. Past is better not to be mentioned, because it can hurt new partner's feelings. This includes kept memories, etc. as well. I was raised to believe that forgetting someone you loved once is - in some way - disrespectful both to yourself and that person and their way of thinking was a little strange for me at first. Now I think he was right. We can never forget our past, it shaped us and made us who we are today, but our present/future should always be a priority.

Old love memories

Pets always have a special place in our hearts. We love them unconditionally.



I've recently started to think like this, too...

Old love memories

It doesn't have to be the reason... To me - it just seemed ridiculous at the moment - keeping letters, poems, cards, notes, some small gifts that meant something to us only - while it was all so long time ago and we don't share those feelings any more. Memories always remain inside us and make us what we are now. I didn't destroyed all - I kept the photos and some (meaningful :D ) gifts. :)

So far, I can see that our CS members keep their old love memories. :)

Don't you worry about your future partner? What if he/she is a jealous person and doesn't like that at all?

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Old love memories

Do you keep photos, letters (or e-mails), cards, poems, small gifts from previous relationships? Or do you throw everything away once the relationship is over?

I used to keep everything. Then, a year ago, I decided to take a look at all those memories and the whole idea started to seem absurd. For example, I caught myself reading a love poem written by a boyfriend I was in a relationship with 20 years ago, I haven't seen for more than 10 years and who is now happily married with two children! So, I decided to throw away (and delete) everything from previous relationships, except photos (because they were my photos, too, as well as the photos of some friends, places we visited, etc.) and some gifts that I thought shouldn't be thrown away just because the one who gifted them was an ex-boyfriend (like books, etc.).

What do you do with your old memories? Those of you who threw them away - did you ever regret it? And those of you who keep them - do you ever worry that your future partner might see them and wouldn't like it?

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RE: What advice would you give your 13 year old self.

Be patient.

The lack of experience

Yes, I was thinking like this at first. :)

But, I wasn't up to the challenge, after all...


Thank you all for participating. It was interesting to read your comments and opinions. You made me feel better and that's all that matters.

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RE: What Do You Offer?

Nothing special, but I'm working on it.

RE: Personality Type

True!

And I have a feeling that I'm the only extrovert here!

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