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Your True Self!

I never said I wrote this and I was only thanking people for taking the time to read it!

I was never asked if I wrote it and never insinuated that I did....If asked I would have indicated where it was taken from.... But that didn't happen.........This is just one of the reason the forums are the way they are.... always looking for a reason to attack someone, when I did nothing wrong but share some information....

I guess some people on CS just rank themselves as holyer than thou....

Your True Self!

Plain and simple as a knight in shining armour?

Your True Self!

Thanks for the kind words everyone! Just expressing my view point!

Your True Self!

Very true, but then as time moves forward, you should be your true self and not what you think they want.

Your True Self!

Thanks

Your True Self!

Taking a short cut as usual!

Your True Self!

Very true!

Your True Self!

Your True Self!

Thanks!

Your True Self!

Your welcome

Your True Self!

Hello backatcha!

Your True Self!

I don't usually start many threads, however after taking a really hard look at myself and seeing how others interact on this site and my own behavoir, I just wanted to share the following thoughts.

Everybody wants to be loved for who they really are - beneath the masks they wear, the impressions they try to make and the mind games they play. But how do we go about doing that?

Many of the images we have of love and romance come from movies, television and romance novels. They're all about pursuit and capture, dominance and submission. Once the guy gets the girl, the movie ends. That leaves us with a considerably incomplete picture of love as it is in the real world.

At the start of the relationship, we are swept away by emotions and fantasies and expect the other person to fulfill them. When those expectations aren't met and we begin to see the imperfections and differences in our partner, we walk away. We search for the "perfect" partner, not knowing that he/she can never be enough because he/she will always be different from what we expect.

The beautiful thing about a romantic relationship is that love isn't found or fallen into -- it is co-created. Yet there are countless people who search for love as if it belongs to someone else. We don't find love. We find one another and allow love to grow between us.

Your partner has to get to know the real you -- what you're like when you're tired, angry, frustrated, elated or talking to your Mom on the phone. They have to love you as you are, not as they hope you might be. Anything less won't last.

Have you seen or read Bridget Jones's Diary? There's one scene where Mark Darcy tells Bridget "I like you, just as you are." She is floored. Why such a strong reaction to a simple comment? Because Mark is telling her that he really sees her and he likes what he sees. He didn't say he'd like her ten pounds lighter, or a little more sophisticated, or prettier, or better read. He likes her as she is, unconditionally. She doesn't have to try and impress him, he's already impressed.

A couple's love is tested through conflict and when they emerge from that still wanting to be together, they have proved that differences can be a good thing. Although many of us have the notion that differences are a dreadful thing, they actually open the way to true intimacy. They give us the opportunity to value how different we are from the one we love and use those differences to grow and change.

Knowing that you are loved for who you are lets you relax and let your guard down. It lets you be honest without fear of rejection, and frankly, it feels great.

We need to love others for whom they are if we desire to be loved in the same way. As two people look deeper and deeper into the relationship, they will find that the emotional intimacy between them expands so that there is more room for both of them. And remember that if you're not being loved for who you really are, you're not being loved at all. (JMO) Thanks in
advance for taking the time to read this.

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How are you Harry?

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Some of us can be Harry!

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I'm fabulous Ken! How are you doin?

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RE: Seducing men

You just want it held againts you!!!

RE: CS Pub now open, come on in................

Hello my friend!!!

RE: Body Art

RE: Body Art

Okay missy you can be very bad when you want to be also......

RE: fitness is too better than bodybuilding .why?

RE: women

Men are just as confusing to women..... we just operate differently on an emotional and physical level.... and our needs and motivations can be different.......

RE: ONE WOMAN - MANY MEN !!!

why should I make one man miserable..... when I can make several very happy! LOL

Whats your next move - Chest Club/Chess Club

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Whats your next move - Chest Club/Chess Club

Always!!! LOL

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Hate those mispellings

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Cest club/chess club thread...LOL

Whats your next move - Chest Club/Chess Club

LOL....... Lookie Lookie what I found!!!!!

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