DaVinciStill Forum Posts (5)

Spiritual but not religious?

You are right about the restricted site choices rodplum.
I am still floundering about the rest tho. At one level I get your point about a philosophy being spiritual; it's just that I can't think of any, apart from the obvious seance type. To me, Buddhism is far more than a philosophy. Despite its westerners 'do no harm' and the like take, it is very much a shoot off Hinduism, having Nirvana (heaven) and reincarnation as a system to get there.

Inverted Ageism?

I was surprised by two things in cruising the site. This thread concerns partner choice. I have looked at many profiles of Victorian women in the 55 - 75 category and I have been surprised by is their collective preference in men.
Jokes and films concerning older men and sweet young things are many and the message is usually obvious. However, I was surprised by a large number of women who want men somewhere between 5 and 15 years younger.
Is it a vanity thing, hoping that you still have the allure of a younger lady, and wanting to feel so, just like the stereotypical men?
Is that it is a libido thing. The collective you believe that men of your own approximate age are past it.
The final possibility (there may be others but I can’t think of them now) is a deeper seated desire to have someone look after you as we drift into the sunset of life?

Spiritual but not religious?

Cruising the site I am bemused by the number of persons who are spiritual but not religious. I don’t understand.
Does that mean you select the category because ‘Klingon’ is not available, unlike the Census? Or more seriously does it mean you are followers of the Earth Mother, or perhaps you believe in the power of crystals and ear candles? Or is it spirits and séances and that sort of thing?

RE: Anyone here who has or knows someone with Aspserger's Syndrome?

I accidentally discovered that I belonged to the club in my 50's. I passed the Bristol Hospital assessment as published in 'New Scientist' in about 2004 with flying colours. The assessment was validated not only by my career but my social life.
We talk in an Asperger's way if you haven't already noticed. We can be as boring as all get-out pedantically crossing every I and dotting every t. A 500 word response to 'Do you like my xxx?' never cuts it socially. Another social plus is not reading peoples face very well. You mix that with social awkwardness and any social life is not very much fun actually. I never found it as having the romantically rosy cast of 'britishcolumbia'. In some respects you sound like those who advocate that 'disease x' is a great life style but I appreciate where you are coming from. The person is no less a person for it, but an asset?
But knowledge is power, so I did much-targeted reading and some time in counselling putting myself together in a new way. I am not the person I was decades ago but it is still hard work relationing. Sometimes one backslides (Sorry Catherine). I now recognize when my obsessiveness or quest for perfection is getting out of hand. That stopped the month-long stress headaches.
On the positive side, I am autodidactic, read fact non-stop since 10 yo, am interested in everything from Adam to Zelenka, had a photographic memory, and have an activity list that also runs from a to z. I also had a successful solo research career in physics, the rest of the 'team' keeping well out of the way.
On the funny side, I was advising a youth on the ills of drinking only fizzy one day. My colleague interjected. 'You should listen to him. He knows what he is talking about.'
You might not know that a university survey of its students found that 99% of Asperger's were in the science stream.

RE: Are there really any decent guys out there?

There is a joke along those lines but it eludes me.
But the first thread to being decent is honesty. From your profile you are the best looking 97 yo working girl I have come across. With a sense of cheek by one of your photos.
Pity about the distance.