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I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size!!!!

Dirty mind?

What's dirty about having breakfast in bed?

I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size!!!!

Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! That hat!!!



Nah!!! Not that hat either!!!


Psssssssssssssssssssssssssttttt! Cris!!! Thanks for planting the seed ... you know about buying me a new hat!!!

I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size!!!!

Well now that you mention it ...

















Nah!! not for breakfast anyway!!!



How are you doing Natasha?
Long time no see!!!!

I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size!!!!

Yeah!! We need "more serious" in this thread!! Not like the other threads full of innuendos and double entendre!!

I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size!!!!

Thank you Miro!!!

How's your introduction to volleyball going?

I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size!!!!

What kind of hat did you men Cris?

I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size!!!!

No Phoenix!! Not breakfast at all!!

Was actually talking about your new volleyball team!!!


























Not!!

I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size!!!!

Nah!! Too hot for duvets in southern Spain!! Although nights are getting chillier already!!

I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size!!!!

Nah Lago!! But you are right we were having butter croissants!!!

I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size!!!!

This morning in bed FlowerOfTheSun said to Gongman "I think it's beautiful, it feels nice and is just the right size" !!!

Then we looked at one another and collapsed in hysterics!!!!!

We were having breakfast in bed and I was obviously talking about ....

RE: Need some help here.

Well the thing about children is that they are champions at using what I call "emotional blackmail" to make us parents feel guilty (sometimes in small ways sometimes in big ways). Because we love them so much, it's difficult to watch them suffer while they work through their own emotions (whether the emotions are warranted or not and whether they are the result of their own actions or not). If they can pin their emotional turmoil on something we have done or are doing then our feelings are mixed with guilt and it makes it all the more difficult think clearly for us. But more impotantly also for them because all the while they are focusing on what we are doing or not doing they are not working on themselves and their own emotional growth.

To know for sure one has to separate the "guilt factor" from the equation ... then look at what feelings are left within ourselves ...

RE: so many dating sites, yet not enough LOVE ...anyone have this problem?

Ahhhhhhh! But at least they're here!!!

The forums are only as good as the people who start new threads and participate to them!!! You want a change? Get cracking at starting new ones!!!

RE: Need some help here.

My 2 cents worth ...

If she was ok about it before the event, it means your daughter's logical mind accepted that you need to move on and have a life of your own.

Sounds to me like her eaction is purely emotional. May be it would help to talk with her about what her fears are rather than whether it's right or wrong in her eyes for you to start dating again. I think that a lot of gut emotional reactions are created by fear of something. If her feelings were validated by you saying that you understand that she is still hurting from the loss of her Mum may be it would help. Also encouraging her to share with you or may be encourage her to write about what her fears are, then share them with you ... It could be something as simple as her projecting forward and imagining you being intimate with someone in what used to be yours and her Mum's private space ... But she might find sharing this with you difficult. Also may be she is imagining someone walking into your home and starting to change it from what it used to be like and she is not ready to face up to those changes yet because the home how it used to be/is now holds her Mum's memories ... Even though she knows you love her, it's also possible that she is scared that once you have a serious relationship with someone there won't be "much room for her" and you're the only one she has left. Again it's about fear ...
I'm just guessing here ... and me be way off the mark ...

Basically what I mean to say is, for you to chat with her NOT about how she's acting/reacting but about what emotions she is feeling and what feers are creatings such reactions ...

I hope you and your daughter will be able to resolve this very emotional dilemma

RE: Technically Challenged

Must train same place all our bank customer service operators do!!!!

RE: How do you keep your 'Love' alive: Despite time, aging, quarrells, sickness.....?

At one stage, I did a bit of autimatic writing to answer a q about relationships ...

This is an extract of what "my hand" wrote:

... encouraging both to use faith in self and the other as an underlying force within the relationship. With faith (in self & the other) comes trust and motivation and peace. Faith in oneself and the other allows the truth that whatever the other does is never for the detriment of the relationship in intention. Faith (in self & the other) erradicates doubt in self and other. It brings positive reactions and ways of being. Positive ways of being bring positive reactions from other and so on and so forth.


When things go wrong, and you are both wondering what the heck is going on and how you got there... Your sabotaging minds and allowing doubt to set in, is how you got there. And letting negativity take hold above love and commitment.

Moving on from such negative place is easy!! Call a truce. Make it possible for the other to make first step or make it yourself. Understand the other's view point and then forgive!! Don't forget!! Just forgive. Accepting each other as you are is not easy. Accept from the other what does not affect you personally, by that I mean quality of life. Tolerate the rest if possible. Tolerate does not mean embrace. It means tolerate without fuss. It's a kind of acceptance without encouragement...


PS. Automatic writing can be used to allow a higher level of consciousness to "speak". To do automatic writing, get pen and paper, sit confortably, relax, ask a question, void your mind, let your hand do the writing without interruption or pause. Don't stop to question clarify or draw conclusions. Just keep on writing, don't worry about spelling or punctuation. Let it flow ...

RE: This is just a horrible and sick thing this guy did. He should rot in jail. (Disturbing,warning!!)

Spot on Riya as usual !!!

RE: Why do older women have a problem when a younger man tells them, they dont want a relationship?

I think you will find that there are plenty of "older" women out there (and here) who get contacted by younger men offering them a relationship and not all of those younger men take no for an answer because in their mind "older woman" equals desperate ...

In the past, I have also noticed on many men over 50's profiles, on this site and others, that they are looking for women age from 18 to 35/40 ish

Another thing I have noticed is that men over 40 who find themselves still single or divorced but have yet no children are looking for much younger partners ... may be to allow for the possibility or still having children

Whatever!!!

Everyone has a reason for looking for who they're looking for, be it to massage their ego or some other need/reason ...
Each to their own!!! And good luck!!!

RE: religous bigotry

As someone pointed out earlier Dru ... good job we weren't born in earlier centuries or we might have been burned at the stake!!!!

RE: religous bigotry

I thought the question was about being (oe not) a religious bigot ...

With my "own version of God" my own beliefs would only be doctrines IF and WHEN they (my beliefs) were turned into "teachings" ...

Smart boy (you know why)

RE: religous bigotry

True believer in God = love - irrespective of

Religious bigot = indoctrinated - judgement - narrow mindedness - self-rightueousness


Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

True believer = OPPOSITE of bigot

Because bible AND Koran = doctrines

Who says to be a true a believer in God one has to follow a doctrine?
Hang on!!! I'll answer my own questions!!! I know who says that!!!! The doctrines within the bible and the Koran and many other doctrines under many other "religious" names ...

RE: I saw the following sign today.

Ta for comments on the drawings!!!!


You know ... sooooooooooooooooooooo many people have made the same comment about the pipe!!!!!

RE: CS Get-Together- Barcelona, Spain 26-28 September, 2008

Great P_Seg!! You signed up!!!!

Soooooooooooooooooooooooooo many great people are gonna be there!!!! Including my old neighbour Dot!!!!!

RE: Have ever had a time when you feel down.. and you shouldn't

Yeah!!! Full moon about now-ish!!!

Just looked it up was on Monday 15th!!!



All I now about feelings is to accept them and validate them within yourself ... Otherwise you are negating what you are feeling. It doesn't matter that you thing there is no reason why you should feel sad.

In the past, I found that when I couldn't work out why I suddenly felt sad/down ... when I looked into it, I realised It was the anniversary of something sad that had happened in the past. It's like my body has a memory ... It helped me to accept how I was feeling and made me feel better just by knowing there was a kind of reason for it ...

RE: Young, lonely, and don't really fit in with the crowd.

Look for others who don't "fit in" and hang out together!!!!!!

RE: CS Get-Together- Barcelona, Spain 26-28 September, 2008

Managed to change my appointment to October!!!!

Sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

We'll be there!!!!!!!!

RE: Bu- Bye

Congrats to you and Ronan!!

Be happy and have a great life!!!

... and pop in to say hi every now and then!!!!

... we wanna know when there's gonna be mini Minimoos and mini Ronans

RE: need advice to obtain a life long goal..serious responses only

Mail the Illuminati and tell them you want "in"

RE: Dear all...I...

Something lacking in character about your face?

RE: U.S. divorce rates for various faith

Educated people might make better decisions and be able to think for themselves granted ... That alone though could have the opposite effect on the divorce rate. IE people, male and female, can be financially independent and look after themselves ... one less reason to stay in a difficult marriage ...

I think that academic intelligence has nothing to do with emotional intelligence/maturity. People can be very well educated and good at looking after themselves. But if they come from a totally dysfunctional background which would make them emotionaly immature, they would still have problems with their relationships.

May be emotional intelligence (maturity) should be included in the curriculum so that irrespective of kids backgrounds/home life, they would learn healthy communication.

RE: CS Get-Together- Barcelona, Spain 26-28 September, 2008

Hopefully I can change it!!! I managed to change the last one!!!