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Our definitions of true love and the power of true love

Thank you for your support! And yes that is so true! The talking of our old fears was truly liberating. We didn't do that before, and now we can do it without worrying about anything. I had fears, she had fears, yet we managed to go for so long due to some intuitive feeling to stay together, and perhaps keeping a sense of security. Nevertheless, we are only grateful for the true love we have now.

I also need to correct my last post. I meant that it was not true love in my past relationships. There was some love, and the true love I thought I felt was an undeveloped definition of love, perhaps even false.

Our definitions of true love and the power of true love

Hi there and great question!

I've been living with my girlfriend for 2½ years now, so it took that long to truly align with it in our relationship. Everything was seemingly brought to the surface (fears from the past, mistrust and lack of intimacy) the past couple months with my woman. We had two major crises these past two months, and that has strengthened our bond and woke us up shall I say - we both learned about ourselves, about true love, about each other and what we truly really want.

I'm sure because it's a feeling and a knowing, and it's an incredible high attached with a sense of security. We've both told each other that we are meant to be and that we want to be together for the rest of our lives. We both have changed for the better after the two storms - we feel as one in heart, mind, body and spirit. All the things that brought pain to us, seemed to happen in such a way to foster growth for us - like it was mysteriously designed and we saw the signs eventually. We both want to make this work no matter what now, and we both have forgiven each other for things in the past - there is only now and now implies a powerful bliss and love in so many forms. Time will truly be the ultimate judge if this is true love, but my intuition tells me we are right where we need to be and that we can get through anything. We share love together, we are love - it's not an emotion and we know that now.

Now of course I've been in love before, a few times. However, I wasn't as mature back then, and when I was a bit more mature, the timing was not right and sacrifices were not made. So I can say it was true love, because it wasn't with my past lovers. There was love, yes, but not true love that penetrates time, space and matter :-)

Our definitions of true love and the power of true love

Perhaps the greatest pursuit that gives us the most meaning, that which is true love with a lifetime partner.

The real question is what definition of true love are we pursuing? And if we have never experienced true love, then how do we properly know exactly what it is that we are pursuing? I would think it’s fair to assume that if you experienced true love for a brief period or an extended period of time, and that it ended for good, then can we honestly say that we did indeed experience true love if we are to assume that true love is timeless and infinite?

True love is entirely subjective, and I'd love to hear your ideas and definitions of true love.

I'd also would love to hear about anyone experiencing the intoxication of true love if you have found true love. I've finally found it

RE: Have you found anybody "real" that you like on CS?

I've made plenty of friends from this site

And our friendship has carried over to FB

RE: what do you think about people having to travel to different countries to find love,and relationship

Follow your heart, be with the flow in the now. If a man or woman wishes to globetrott in pursuit of love, I think it's wonderful!

If a woman or man is unsure, then it means it's probably best to not meet that person. You are either sure or unsure - meaning with your heart or not with your heart.

RE: In which country are the most beautiful women found ?

The Pleiades have some of the most beautiful women.

The ugliest women can be found at bus stops in America.

RE: The Illusion Of Free Will

Great posts Al, now this convo is going somewhere. I'm off to the gym in a while, plus I need to make some posts to my page to keep the fans happy

I'll respond to your interesting thoughts later. In the meantime, I see that you have another visitor who made a recent post that may tie you up for a while.

RE: The Illusion Of Free Will

That distortion being free will within a set of determined themes one will explore this lifetime. The timeline of the person is open to go in the direction that the free will allows, consciously and subconsciously. What ever direction it goes, the common themes will keep arising over and over again for as long as the free will allows.

It's stated very clear in the law of one and can be seen simply by using what you have observed and experienced via direct experience. That very limited study you keep spinning to suite your ambitious beliefs about determinism has no force behind them. The study simply shows that there is a biological and psychic function in this process (pressing buttons), something outside of the norm which seems to have you think that there is something supernatural going on.

Daryl Bem has shown some experiments of how we can perceive or feel the immediate future - an experiment that is not isolated from the study I posted and you posted. A certain region of the brain lights up before we make a decision. However, bear in mind that the brain is not fully understood, so there is a lot of room for error here. This process does not diminish the notion of free will, but rather, should open up more questions about it - as Dennett pointed out.

But...if we don't have free will, then you should at least give us your opinion on what is controlling us and in what direction and why?

RE: The Illusion Of Free Will

That distortion being free will within a set of determined themes one will explore this lifetime. The timeline of the person is open to go in the direction that the free will allows, consciously and subconsciously. What ever direction it goes, the common themes will keep arising over and over again for as long as the free will allows.

It's stated very clear in the law of one and can be seen simply by using what you have observed and experienced via direct experience. That very limited study you keep spinning to suite your ambitious beliefs about determinism has no force behind them. The study simply shows that there is a biological and psychic function in this process (pressing buttons), something outside of the norm which seems to have you think that there is something supernatural going on.

Daryl Bem has shown some experiments of how we can perceive or feel the immediate future - an experiment that is not isolated from the study I posted and you posted. A certain region of the brain lights up before we make a decision. However, bear in mind that the brain is not fully understood, so there is a lot of room for error here. This process does not diminish the notion of free will, but rather, should open up more questions about it - as Dennett pointed out.

But...if we don't have free will, then you should at least give us your opinion on what is controlling us and in what direction and why?

RE: Where would you prefer to spend a week with your Lover?

In the Redwood forest up in Northern California.

Or Big Sur with Carmel being close by.

In Europe, I'd say Prague or somewhere in the Norwegian mountains.

RE: do u beleive in angels?

Doing that right now, thanks so much

RE: The Illusion Of Free Will

This explanation resonates and is very sensible - it aligns with the thinking of many mystic gurus as well as other metaphysical teachers out there, such as my Bashar video that I posted and the Law of One material. Also, it seems to fit right in with what I have experienced and observed. I too question the assumption of the questions themselves (like how BB views free will with conditions/assumptions)and do my best to accept the innate paradoxes in this discussion.

RE: do u beleive in angels?

Angels are never too distant to hear you. ~ Author Unknown

RE: Barbarians will put man to death because he is the wrong religion

Al Jazeera, not a whisper there.

What really sticks out is that the Humans Rights Watch and Amnesty International did not cover this story, they are the most objective in most cases - and well connected to news informants and embassies.

RE: Barbarians will put man to death because he is the wrong religion

I'm still not convinced since the evidence is just not there.

This story in not covered in the Spiegel Online International -

Any MSM source directing back the source of the story to Fox news does not make it true, considering the nature of how the media is controlled and manipulates in order to pursue an agenda. The quote by the Huffington Post cannot be verified by another other source. This story is really suspicious.

RE: Barbarians will put man to death because he is the wrong religion

Humans Rights Watch and Amnesty International did not report this incident, nor did any other major media outlet report this. Seems like a disinfo peace - beating the drum.

The source for the story are "sources close to the pastor and his legal team." IT has not been independently verified, so I'm skeptical about this story. People need to always question the news and their sources, instead of blindly accepting the bs that is put out there.

RE: Do you believe in Love at First Sight?

Lust at first sight. The lust turns into genuine love as respect, love, trust, support and understanding deepens as the relationship goes by. Also, love is known after a couple has managed every conceivable adversity.

How can you love a person you don't know upon first sight? To me, that's a myth. It's lust or some kind of connection from another lifetime.

Imagine all the people that believed in love at first sight, then ended their relationships in tragic ways - then they assert that it wasn't love, but rather, their weakness of being vulnerable and their fear of being alone.

Of course, those who do believe that it was love at first sight and ended up staying together for a lifetime, who is to tell them wrong - though I do strongly believe it was lust/connection at first sight - and that they managed their relationships like mature people.

RE: Mediumship: Madness or communication with spirits?

The have better tuned extra sensory perceptions. Nothing unusual, just natural. Some are more gifted than others, and everybody has a medium in them, it's just a matter of honing that skill.

RE: Contact

I demand pics of their feet and front yard!

RE: The Illusion Of Free Will

That's an odd way to associate free will, if I am reading in between the lines correctly. Due to my free will and dumb choice, I quit playing in the minors too soon. I had this expectation that I had to get to the bigs within a 3-5 window of time without being demoted a classification or getting released. I also assumed that having a bad year was not the proper trajectory to the big leagues. I limited my possibilities with that thinking and quit too soon. Fortunately, I got back into the game in Europe and still playing. If I had continued with my minor league career, perhaps I could have made it based on my perseverance, work ethic, mental approach, productivity and a lucky break here and there - has nothing to do with determinism. We make choices based on free will and our life path changes according to that, yet seemingly staying within the realm of themes to explore in this lifetime (free will within destiny). Everything is shifty, and there are many ways to use our free will within the idea of exploring our life themes that we chose to explore before coming in to this world. That's the nature of infinity.

Yeah, Katy Perry and me being together is a low probability, but I do have the free will to increase my probabilities of dating her by aligning my self in that direction - based on actions. And even doing that, there is no guarantee that I'll get her since there are no guarantees. In any case, this thread has become silly, we're beating a dead horse here. The case for determinism is very weak and silly, especially since you based your argument from mechanist/materialist figures - plus a Satanist who's silly article you based your premise off. Maybe this would get more interesting if you can cite a philosopher.

RE: The Illusion Of Free Will

Actually, it's self empowering wisdom which puts the responsibility on the individual using specific concepts - and does not focus on one thing. Your post is no where near Bashar's philosophy. The Illuminati symbols was funny Just another hand waving dismissal of yours lol. Darryl Anka cashing in on Bashar does not diminish Bashar's message, so what if Darryl wants to make a living channeling Bashar, isn't that the key to following your joy and passion (Bashar tenet)? Last I checked, you need money to live comfortably on the grid, no? Besides, the youtube uploads are free and there is plenty of free material on his site. And for what Darryl Anka charges, it seems like a fair exchange for what he is offering and what the buyer is seeking. No different than the Abraham-Hicks industry.

In any case, I'm not trying to change your mind and getting into a discussion about this is fruitless. You have your stance and I have mine, so all cool and the gang!

In any case, free will exists, the end...

RE: IS RELIGION MAN MADE?

All religions are created by man supported by a mythical construct (such as prophets) in which scriptures and people are canonized.

So it should be of no surprise that religious figures and adherents often present their religion as the assumptive truth of all religions, based on myths. The biggest victim of dogmatic and imperialist religion is the critical thinker...

Enjoy this generic explanation - Top 10 Religious Figures and Religious Founders in History

RE: The Illusion Of Free Will

It has? Show me the peer-reviewed journal demonstrating empirical evidence...thought so sucka!

Close the thread down, we have closure - fate, freewill and destiny - all interrelated

RE: People Who Stir the Pot

Almost that time again! Spring is near Big year this year, Euro championships in Holland. Hope you're still stirring the pot as usual!

RE: How much can we sacrifice for spouse?

Love it!

RE: People are strange...

Beautiful Eri!!! Lovely to see you again!

This site doesn't work for most, but is sure does work for many - just like any other place to find a date and partner. It's hard enough to find a match in real life, so why would it be easier here? I suspect the common thread is associated with the inner well-being of the person and how much discernment he or she places in finding a match.

RE: How much can we sacrifice for spouse?

Rohan! Just wanted to say hi! Cool to see you and hope you're doing great. Did you have an opinion on sacrifice, btw? I'd be interested to hear it

RE: How much can we sacrifice for spouse?

As much as we want to in a way that brings meaning and peace, no matter how others may judge your sacrifice. Only you know. When the sacrifice is judged as not worthy and disempowering by the individual, then that is when the person knows the limits. There is no empirical list for the all...

RE: Yeah this is me..

Maybe you need to take some time to get your mind and spirit in order before dating again. In the meantime, make friends and connect - you'll be able to talk about your experiences and filter your emotions - you need that right now.

And if a guy asks you a pic of your feet, stay away!

RE: Law of the Universe

And with the end, there is rebirth - much like how Hindu cosmology describes the universe as having a cyclical nature (the universe is timeless; it never had a beginning nor will it have an end). However, this is all within existence and in the sense of the multiverse hypothesis as described by theoretical physicists and in metaphysics. Maybe it's just another myth to be honest. So I really don't know.

Back to the law of the universe, change is the only one constant within existence, that is my best guess - bear in mind we are working with limited human perceptions. If quantum mechanic theorists can't find that one formula that explains everything using reductionist methods and so forth, while philosophers continue to debate about this Ad infinitum, then that is just how it is - we will continue to speculate. I suspect the answer will not be found in this dimension of experience on Earth.